We’ve all been there.
You know, sobbing over some asshole who decided one day he’s completely over it. So there you are, perched gargoyle waiting for his call, crying, with snot pouring out your nose thinking that your life is for sure over.
(( If you haven’t been there, then you’re one lucky bitch )).
I can remember vividly when my high school boyfriend decided to make out with another girl ( dickhead ) at some stupid under-aged, parent’s out of town, kegger.
To sum it up, I was absolutely devastated, lost 10 pounds ( break ups are fab for weight loss! LOL ), & was constantly saying “OMG, I couldn’t go on without him!!!”
Teenage heartbreak, right?
Shockingly life did go on.
In fact, I was OK. I lived!! Phew.
As Oprah once said:
Ok, so how did I live through my break up(s)?
Whelp, my grandma gave me the best advice…EVER.
It’s the simplest piece of advice but it seriously works SO well when you’re going through something that encompasses your whole life.
She said: “you need to get outside yourself.”
So what does that mean exactly?
When going through life’s tough curveballs, people tend to be in their head.
For me, I would retreat inside myself. So when I was younger I would think “OMG poor me…I’m feeling this…I’m sad because of that…this is going to be so bad for me.”
This is why my grandma’s advice was spot on:
Getting outside yourself means getting interested in other things besides what you’re dealing with internally.
This could mean gardening, helping a friend, donating time to an animal shelter, cooking a meal for someone, reading a book, starting up a new business venture, hiking with a family member, writing, &/or doing something that’s bigger than you & your problem.
Does that make sense?
Instead of thinking ‘me, me, me,’ think “what can I do that’s bigger than me?”
When your attention is focused away from yourself, amazing things can go down.
My grandma was pretty spot on, right?!
No doubt about it, going through a break up is rough shit. But re-directing your focus can completely change the game. It takes the light off the asshole who F-ed you over & puts the light on the bigger picture.
So my advice: if you’re going through a break-up, try to ‘get interested.’
Also, get a voo-doo doll & pretend it’s your ex & stab its heart.
Kidding. Kind of.
Anyway, how do you get outside yourself?