( 3:00 ): Welcome back to TSC HIM & HER Show. This week we are joined Kristin Cavallari who you may be familiar with from Laguna Beach and The Hills. Now she’s a mom with three kids and an entrepreneur. We discuss parenting, routines, grieving and more.
( 6:40 ): We spoke at Loyola Law School last week which was an ironic switch. It was very fun and we’re glad we got to have the experience.
( 7:15 ): Forget about taking a million different vitamins and try my latest favorite Ritual. It includes K-2, D-3, B-12, boron, iron, vitamin E, folate, magnesium and omega 3. We will discuss the importance of omega 3 later on in this episode – even Kristin is obsessed.
HIM & HER TIPS OF THE WEEK
( 10:45 ): HIM TIP: There will always be saturation in mediums where people have success. Even if an industry is saturated there are still opportunities. Look for new strategies.
( 14:40 ): HER TIP: It’s SO important to me to support other women in the blogging space. I want to shout out my friend Julia from Gal Meets Glam who just launched her own dress collection. I’m obsessed with the Ellie dress: think 50’s with a modern touch.
( 19:55 ): Kristin Cavallari is a powerhouse. She has written two books, raised 3 kids and created chic jewelry and home line. You might be familiar with her from Laguna Beach and The Hills which she used to create a strategic future.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS WITH KRISTIN
( 21:00 ): Lauryn asks: “How would you introduce yourself to our audience?”
( 21:30 ): Lauryn asks: “How do you have 3 kids and look the way you look?”
( 22:30 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s a day in the life like with 3 children?”
( 23:35 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s an easy recipe for lunch from your book?”
( 24:40 ): Lauryn asks: “How has reality TV evolved?”
( 27:00 ): Lauryn asks: “What can we expect from your show?”
( 27:50 ): Lauryn asks: “How do you balance being the boss and being your employee’s friend?”
( 28:50 ): Lauryn asks: “How do you handle haters?”
( 30:20 ): Lauryn asks: “Walk us through your morning routine.”
( 31:45 ): Lauryn asks: “Do you take any supplements?”
( 32:50 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s your workout?”
( 33:35 ): Lauryn asks: “How do you relax and turn it all of?”
( 34:00 ): Lauryn asks: “What is your advice for the mom that wants to have it all?”
( 35:30 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s a resource that has really made a difference in your life?”
( 36:10 ): Lauryn asks: “What snacks do you love?”
( 37:25 ): Lauryn asks: “How has social media changed the landscape of your business?”
( 37:55 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s one piece of jewelry every girl needs?”
( 38:25 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s your favorite failure?”
( 39:40 ): Michael asks: “What would you tell someone going through the grieving process?”
( 40:35 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s a resource that has helped with your spirituality?”
( 43:40 ): Lauryn asks: “What’s a beauty tip?”
( 44:50 ): Michael asks: “What’s next for you?”
+ fish oil ( more EPA than DHA )
+ vitamin D
+ vitamin B
+ milk thistle
Taxes? WAIT WHAT? You mean I have to pay someone a portion of the money I earn?
HAHA- that was me.
What can I say? Taxes aren’t my area of expertise- ya know?
Anyway, to get real these were serious questions I had to ask Michael when I ( finally ) started to make a living blogging.
Years ago I was a broke Pure Barre teacher & bartender living paycheck to paycheck until I started to make a living blogging. In the restaurant business, I received a paycheck & taxes were handled for me.
Pretty much, I had no idea how complicated taxes where once I had my own business. I WAS SCREWED. In the beginning I paid for everything out of my personal checking account ( don’t laugh ). Also, I hired a developer for 50 bucks a month to build my first website & bought household decor/clothing using my debit card to shoot for The Skinny Confidential.
Things were bleak: I didn’t keep a list of expenses or even know you could potentially save some money by doing so. The idea of taxes was FOREIGN in my world.
Now that TSC is a real company & entity, the days of not paying attention to these details are OVER.
SO! I wanted to write this post to help any bloggers or new business owners save some time/money & INSANE aggravation. When I was dead broke, I had to scrape together every CENT for a proper computer, camera, developer, & props.
But really I had no idea that I could expense this stuff and get a deduction. I KNOW- OUCH.
The problem was I was being written checks & receiving income without documenting & coding the expenses.
LOOK AT IT THIS WAY: If you make 1000 dollars you will owe taxes on the full 1000 dollars. If you code your expenses according to the tax laws (in my case: camera gear, computers, designers, etc) you can then offset your income by deducting those expenses on your tax return.
So if I had $1000 in earnings & $800 in expenses, I would then only pay the taxes on $200. Make sense? LUCKILY it saved me a ton of money when I learned how to do this. Michael had to sit down & show me the benefit of getting this organized…& let’s just say it took a ton of training.
It’s just not my favorite subject in the world.
As a new blogger, vlogger, or influencer starting to make a living with your platform, it’s really important to be SAVVY when it comes to taxes.
Really though, it makes a huge difference financially. We all need to know what we can write off & when: is it our computers? Our camera gear? Clothing? Travel? Software? Designers? A home office? All of this stuff can be classified as expenses & deductions which in turn save us money when it comes to taxes.
Michael always told me if you’re setting up a new business, set up the foundation as if it were already a huge business so that when you get there you aren’t playing catch up.
When I was starting out I wish I would have listened because it took a ton of work to go back & organize years later. It can be really complicated & confusing so when I learned about TaxAct I was so excited to have a platform to help me organize everything QUICKLY & EFFICIENTLY.
TaxAct is a FAB tool to help you figure all the nitty-gritty out. I LOVE IT because they have a product for freelancers & independent contractors ( like bloggers & influencers ).
When I first started out I didn’t know how to take advantage of any deductions or credits so I lost out on a ton of money. If I had a tool to help me organize my expenses & figure out my deductions, it would’ve been a much more seamless situation.
So many of my friends start businesses & have no idea how to file their returns at the end of the year- it costs them a ton of money.
Michael’s TAX TIP:
Did you guys know you can expense out some conferences & seminars? Lauryn just spoke at Create & Cultivate with Kim Kardashian for work. Think about it: you could potentially expense that & claim a deduction. You can get a deduction for doing things that grow your business. So my tip this week is to be smart during tax season, use a tool that can help you get the maximum deductions and credits so that you can hold on to more of your hard-earned money. This works for anyone who is filing their taxes. Even if you are a W-2 employee. TaxAct is also backed by a one hundred thousand dollar accuracy guarantee so you don’t have to stress when filing with them. EASY!
Ok guys: what’s your experience with taxes? Should I do more posts like these? Keep me posted.
Talk tomorrow, x lauryn ( & kinda Michael because he’s real good at taxes )
+ this post is in collaboration with TaxAct. as always all opinions are my own.
( 1:30 ): Welcome to TSC Him & Her Show hosted by myself & my husband, Michael Bosstick. We’re interviewing Dr. Dennis Gross. We’re discussing skincare routines, botox, filler, preventing aging and the biggest mistake people make in their skincare routine.
( 3:00 ): We’re in Aspen right now skiing and working. Expect a blog post on how to travel and maintain your productivity.
( 8:50 ): HER TIP: Peel Pads. They help with hyper pigmentation and tighten the skin.
( 11:30 ) Dr. Dennis Gross is one of the top skincare doctors in the world. Brown spots, wrinkles, acne, the works. He’s a board certified dermatologist and surgeon on 5th Ave. in New York. He utilizes state of the art technology in order to prevent, correct and protect patient’s skin by creating a specialized plan for each client.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS WITH DR. DENNIS GROSS
( 13:10 ): Lauryn asks: “Introduce yourself & tell us about your brand.”
( 14:35 ): Lauryn asks: “What are the hero ingredients?”
( 17:20 ): Lauryn asks: “What is your recommendation when you’re hungover?”
( 19:15 ): Michael asks: “How did you get into skincare?”
( 22:10 ): Lauryn asks: “What are you doing on a day-to-day basis in the office?”
( 26:15 ): Lauryn asks: “What should we use on a sun mustache?”
( 27:50 ): Michael asks: “What would you tell someone who’s just starting to pay attention to their skin regime?”
( 30:45 ): Michael asks: “What do you suggest to reverse skin damage?”
( 34:05 ): Lauryn asks: “How many units of botox do you suggest?”
( 35:40 ): Lauryn asks: “Let’s talk injectables and lips.”
( 40:20 ): Lauryn asks: “How can you tell if you should use restalyne or juveaderm?”
( 42:30 ): Lauryn asks: “Under eye circles with filler what are your thoughts?”
( 44:25 ): Lauryn asks: “What are some dangers to filler?”
( 46:50 ): Lauryn asks: “Are there any trends that you like or dislike right now?”
( 50:00 ): Lauryn asks: “How bad is the sun for your skin?”
( 54:00 ): Lauryn asks: “What do you recommend for protecting your hands and neck?”
( 56:25 ): Michael asks: “What are 3 easy things our audience should start with?”
( 57:45 ): Lauryn asks: “Where can someone go to learn more about all of this skincare?”
( 1:002:05 ): Lauryn asks: “Does the peel work for acne?”
( 1:002:30 ): Lauryn asks: “What can we do for inflammation?”
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SO what did you guys think? Dr. Dennis really knows his stuff. Put your driving gloves on and get ready for some of the best skin ever.
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Two years ago I was combing through the Internet & stumbled upon Jackie Schimmel of The Bitch Bible which provoked me to actually wake Michael from his slumber & tell him that this girl I randomly found was going to be a superstar comedian.
“Michael?” I ask, but really it’s an order, “you need to read this girl’s blog. She wrote Leo a suicide letter because he’s decided to marry Gisele Bündchen.”
::Michael stares at me like I’m psycho ( which I am )::
“Please just read it.”
::Chuckles, grunts, points, grins::
Etc. You get it.
So ya, I guess the truth of the matter is I “met” Jackie by stalking her.
Wait, if you don’t know who Jackie is- do yourself a favor & subscribe to her podcast. It will really take you over the edge. You will pee your pants, cry laughing. She’s a hoot. Wanna stalk her even more? Please do. Read her blog.
( If you’re wondering: the Leo letter is signed with: “Worst of luck to both of you. My heart will not go on. You fucking let go Jack.” Sincerely, Jackie ).
Yes that is right, she’s pure comedy. She’s also very witty AND pretty. Oh, & also COOL. I like her a lot.
Anyway, Michael & I were guests on her podcast this week & we did a little ( LIGHT? CASUAL? TRADITIONAL? ) wedding recap. You know, what brides do. She recapped her recent wedding…& then we went into our psychotic wedding freak-out stories.
Michael was a part of the convo too & I feel like he was a bit…skittish? Oh well- sucks for him. I’ve been on her podcast too once before. So be sure to listen to both.
Now with that I’ll intro you to Jackie- get ready because she gets straight to the point.
+ Introduce yourself, tell us everything.
Hi! I’m Jackie Schimmel. Dog mother, perpetually constipated, dirty martini connoisseur, embellishment lover, and amateur “writer” & podcast host.
+ You’re a podcast queen; it’s a shitload harder than it looks. Tell us what goes into it.
It’s a lot of fucking work.
One of my biggest struggles initially was trying to figure out how to speak my mind without alienating large groups of people. Everyone & their gay brother has a podcast these days so it’s important to be unique and provide something different. I try to be mindful of who is listening, why they are listening and what will keep people listening. I try not to over think it and just say whatever the hell I want and hope I don’t get into trouble with my Human Resources department…or Legal.
+ Tell us about your blog— the content is hysterical.
I have always been a very overly opinionated person & started the blog to purge myself of really ridiculous feelings in essay form about Gwyneth Paltrow & kitten heels. It definitely represents the popular yet unpopular opinion. It’s incredibly aggressive and offensive but so authentic and funny ( complimenting myself #unlikeable ).
I am someone who has disproportionately intense reactions to insignificant things & the blog gave me the perfect portal to unleash my bitchy beast. I pride myself on saying what other people are thinking but have enough dignity not to say out loud or publish on the internet.
+ I call Michael Susan when he’s acting up, coincidentally you call your husband ( Andrew ), Angela. How did he earn his name?
Angela is very particular. She pretends to know a lot about wine, gets photo facials, Keratin treatments, & is just generally worried about EVERYTHING. Angela has major anxiety issues and I just CAN’T WITH HER. Literally picking out a suit with him is like Sophie’s Choice.
I am obsessed with him and he is so cute I want to kill him but Angela needs to RELAX. I know that Angela is primarily my wrongdoing and I take accountability for that.
+ I know you talk about your wedding on the latest podcast but give us a sneak peak?
We got married this May in Palm Springs. We wanted somewhere close enough to make a quick trip but far enough to alienate distant relatives ( sorry ). We wanted it to feel like a vacation for our guests, like a bougie summer camp and Palm Springs is the perfect spot. I was super adamant about making it as fabulous and not overly bridey. I would have curb stomped somebody if I saw an inch of burlap or a mason jar. Our vibe was all white, acrylic, & flamboyant without anything frilly.
Like Liberace and Kanye West threw a party.
+ Clearly you’re amazing at comedy, any tips for someone who wants to break into the comedy, podcast, blogger industry?
My best advice is to not filter yourself and never be too insular. Sharing private details helps people get to know you which is important, but you never want to bore people with the daily woes of your life. That’s too self-indulgent; people have diaries for a reason.
It’s like telling a table full of people about the dream you had the night before. No one gives a shit unless it relates to them personally. It’s so important to remember that if you want to make a business from comedy, ultimately you are providing entertainment and content not self-relief. Also remember that you are your best material. I think in order to make fun of anyone or anything you HAVE to make fun of yourself more, otherwise you seem bitter and hypocritical.
+ Couldn’t agree with you more. You look amazing. PLEASE TELL US YOUR SECRETS.
That’s very nice & very generous. I have spent years setting the bar low so that I can get a real reaction when I put slightly more effort into my appearance. I try to eat what I love, drink what I love ( moderately ), dress in clothes I love, surround myself with people who I love and I feel like that self-indulgence translates.
It’s so important to live moderately & find that balance of deprivation and going off the walls. I cook dinner Sun-Thurs so I can eat what I want and make small alterations so I don’t gain 450 lbs but still get my pasta because gluten feeds my soul.
And laugh…a lot, it’s so much cuter than crying. Happy people look better. It’s the truth.
+ You’re sent to a far off island, who are you bringing? Andrew ( husband ) or Leo ( dog/BF )?
Leo. No hesitation.
If he could afford me I’d voluntarily live on an island alone with him. I am obsessed with him. It takes all my self-control not to actually suffocate him because normal loving affection just isn’t enough, I want to be one flesh. It’s like platonic beastiality but not because he is basically a human.
He is so sexy it hurts my insides. Obsessed.
+ Best beauty tip…ever?
I will be honest, I am no beauty guru. Lipgloss & mascara go a LONG way let me tell you. It sounds cliché but I truly believe less is more. I am so over the transforming make up trends, it’s too much work and such a bad export of time and energy. I think it’s more important to work on your canvas than the artwork so I NEVER fall asleep with makeup on and use tons of moisturizer.
Before you learn to bake your face ( what the hell IS that? ) learn how to stick to a great skin regimen. You don’t have to spend a fortune on products ( except eye cream ) just be vigilant with your routine. I would fall asleep in full body Spanx before falling asleep with one hint of makeup on. I also LIVE for rosewater you can spray pre or post makeup. It tones, hydrates and women in my family SWEAR by it.
+ Best piece of advice you’ve ever received ( go crazy here ):
I am very selective with advice and only take it from a very selective group of people. I always say to be self-aware, listen to yourself ( because no one knows you/ wants better for you ) OR people who really know what they are talking about. I wouldn’t ask Helen Keller for outfit advice or MC Hammer to do my finances.
We need to pick and choose who we solicit for guidance & typically I would rather learn from people who have their shit together. I also think it is SO important for people to learn how to be alone. My source of sanity is solitude. If you don’t want to hang out with yourself why would anyone else? My best advice is to get to know yourself. Not in a dumb Eat, Pray, Love way but in a very honest way. Go to lunch alone, travel alone, shop alone. Also never wear a casual shoulder bag with a cocktail dress, you look like a pre-teen attending her first Bat Mitzvah.
I arrived 15 minutes late because…NYC TRAFFIC. So sorry but I guess it’s just real life you know- I mean I was late to my wedding. I’m working on it.
Immediately upon arrival I met so many incredible women ( some with their boyfriends! ). The turn out was insane. I think there were about 100 plus people at Oficina1m at one point. Oficina1m is practically the cutest place on the planet & the owner is so chic it hurts. He set up champagne, tequila in teacups, hummus platters, tons of tiny bites, Bliss & Baker Krispies, etc for all the lovely TSC readers. So big THANK you to Oficina1m for hosting- I’ll be back.
Rebbl was kind enough to provide some herbal, organic elixirs for those of you who don’t like alcohol.
I wanted to say HI TO EVERYONE- there were so many cool women in one room. And it was overwhelming in the best way possible. Really couldn’t get enough. Next time we may have to do a full dinner because I can assure you there will be more TSC meet-ups in the future. They’re just a fun way to connect you know?
Some of you guys really had me laughing- seriously a VERY FUNNY/WITTY group!
Michael was in the middle of 100 women- so that was hilarious to see too. I feel like he maybe was slightly nervous- HA! Estrogen everywhere.
( In fact, if you’re in San Diego- there’s a meet-up happening this Sunday! I’ll be doing a live Q and A too. So e-mail me if you’re free and I’ll send you all the details ).
A little breakdown on TSC goodie bags:
Firstly, thank you to my friend, Alyssa of The Haute Brunette. Along with blogging she runs THB Marketing House which is a digital marketing agency in New York that connects influencers with brands for collaborations. They work with fashion, beauty, & lifestyle products as well as local events or Fashion Week. Everyone who works at THB is an influencer so all the brands are badass, nothing cheesy. If you’re an influencer you can sign up to start working with their brands. Alyssa streamlined the goodie bag swag & helped coordinate the event! She’s the shit.
I MEAN SHE DID SECURE V-STEAMS IN THE GOODIE BAG.
WHAT’S A V-STEAM YOU ASK?
Well it’s an ancient Chinese treatment that’s gained popularity in recent years for its revitalizing feeling…for your vagina. Remember when I wrote about vagina steaming?
For those of you who need an update a V-STEAM is a relaxing, detoxifying, spa treatment for your nether regions. Fun fact: it can also increase your libido.
We gave away coupons to VSPOT– & they use a festive formulation of herbs like basil, calendula, mugwort, marshmallow root, wormwood, & rose petals and place them in the tube on the v-steamer which contains purified water. The herb infused steam dilates the blood vessels to increase blood circulation by providing oxygen to the area, and in turn, relaxes the pelvic floor muscles.
UMMM HELLO YESSSSS.
Anyway, we also threw in COOLA SPF 30 to keep it on brand, organic Brazilian Bronze Soho Tan coupons ( I did a custom anti-aging tan while I was in NYC & LOVED IT ), Kind Snacks, & more! I mean what more can you ask for? A vag steam with a spray tan, sunscreen, & healthy snacks sounds pretty TSC to me?
Since you’re all so supportive of The Skinny Confidential, I wanted to share the love & showcase some bloggers who attended the meet-up. Collaboration > competition. You all are shining examples of that. SOOO…
+ if you attended the NYC meet-up & you’re a blogger- email me so I can add you to this list!
My girlfriend, Jules Wick, did my makeup. If you’re in New York City you have to check her out- she’s so talented. We did full coverage on my face because SHIT NEW YORK WEATHER is hard on the skin, and a flirty lash ( fake, of course- go for Ardell WISPIES if you’re on the hunt for the best falsies ). You can check out Jules’ rad Instagram– especially stalk her if you’re in NYC. My other girlfriend, Shawn Knudsen, did a bubble ponytail with clip-in extensions. She’s been on the blog before- she gave you guys a tutorial on a kitten curl here, remember? Shawn was visiting her sister, Emilie. Emilie’s a photographer so she shot the whole meet-up. If you’re a blogger in NY- check her out too! Both of them did an amazing job- what a team. YESSSS. Love these badass women.
To everyone who came out to meet me & Michael: I LOVE YOU- YOU ARE AMAZING. Each one of you is doing amazing things- it was such a proud moment to meet you guys & talk one on one. I will DEFINITELY do this again. Any feedback is welcomed. Maybe we will live podcast next time? Thoughts? Oh, & WE LOVE YOU, NEW YORK! What a city- from the truffle pasta ( a Blake Lively fave ) to the culture to all you hustlers…I’M IN LOVE. Thank you, thank you for coming out to sip dry champagne & tequila out of teacups. So fun.
I want to make sure everyone who came out got TSC MEAL PLAN– if you didn’t, please e-mail me: firstname.lastname@example.org.
To wrap it up: I’m falling asleep at the computer. It’s been a jammed packed day & tomorrow is going to be non-stop. I’ve got some fun beauty/wellness posts lined up for you. In the meantime make sure you listen to the two podcasts we collaborated with this week! First up was The LadyGang– they’re HYSTERICAL & then the day after we were on The Bitch Bible…who’s a real hoot. Trust me, these are two podcasts that CRUSH IT. You will love them both, promise. Besides podcasts are so PERFECT to listen to while driving, cooking, doing makeup, cleaning, you get it.