So I did what I do best & threw a TITTY party with Casetify for 14 influencers. We kept it small & intimate which was ideal for the venue, Gracias Madre, in West Hollywood. Delicious vegan food was served, the vibe was on, & of course, I had titty cupcakes made. Do you blame me?
And you know the cupcakes had to match one of my favorite bubblegum pink phone cases: THE BOOBS.
Ok let’s talk cases: each case is $40. Very affordable, very cute. The cases fit the cause too: 30% goes to The Breast Cancer Foundation. October is breast cancer month so it’s very fitting.
Case sizes are for 4, 5, 6, 7 iPhones & iPods ( normal, S, & Plus ) & Android phones. Each of them comes in French rose pink, bubblegum pink, white, &/or transparent nude. All of them protect your phone 100% ( can confirm this after my bachelorette party this weekend, HA! ).
We served VERY spicy habanero mimosas to all the girls…& they loved them!
Speaking of the girls, a huge thank you to all the bloggers who came ( check out their amazing social media, you won’t be sorry ). And not only are they cute, they’re all very, VERY nice:
Of course, after recording our latest podcast episode, The Bare Naked Cucumber snuck his ass into the group too. Very sneaky, right? He sat front & center, LOL. Michael attended as well & I forced him to rock a baby pink collared shirt with a leather jacket ( he needed to match, you know ).
Everyone rocked their favorite case ( I had on THE BOOTY CALL case ) & it was really fun to get to know all the different bloggers in an intimate setting.
We stuck with a pink & white theme because we wanted to keep it on brand with the cases. Lots of Sugarfina champagne & roségummy bears. The flowers were from Seed Floral ( absolutely stunning arrangements ), & Mimi whipped up some homemade boobie cookies.
Also, my outfit is all under $69. I found some white slacks from Forever21 & had them hemmed ( my secret trick for making things appear chic ). The bodysuit is Missguided, super affordable. The bag, I got from Tradesy — a steal! Love a good black & white moment.
Ok, off to watch American Horror Story. It’s getting good. Bachelorette posts to come next week, so much to share! If you follow along on Snapchat or Instagram, you know we had QUITE the time. Still paying for it ( heavily ) today. Back to the grind, TSC Bombshell Body Guide, & some very intense wedding planning. Anyway, expect a lot of bachelorette madness soon.
This one is coming at the ideal time because I’m currently at my bachelorette party in Palm Springs. You guys are invited, of course – just come follow along on Snapchat ( @laurynevarts ).
Ok so Clinique was kind enough to hook it up with some amazing products AND I’m very much excited because their whole brand screams bachelorette/Palm Springs/TSC. Honestly I’m loving how all the products match with my party’s aesthetic. Like it actually gets me weirdly excited?
Anyway, let’s get into bachelorette makeup details.
As you guys know, I love unpacking/unboxing on Snapchat. But it’s even more fun to unbox when there are products you will actually use, products that ‘get it.’ Clinique’s products do not disappoint. I can say that, because shit, I’ve been using them since high school.
For the record, my favorite is Clinique’s ‘Superprimer’ & long lasting gloss, I headed to Macy’s to stock up on all of my Clinique necessities. I obviously based these purchases off my bachelorette party ( TYPICAL ). Both will be very needed. Especially since we’re going to be poolside. I need a good lip gloss that lasts all day.
Since we are going to be in the sun, I am making sure to not overdo it on the whole makeup thing. Light, fresh, dewy, approachable. Basically, here’s the plan:
SPF 50 to start because sunscreen is the first thing you should do while you’re in Palm Springs, right? Then I’m adding Superprimer. This is one of the best primers I’ve ever tried because it gives you dewy skin to start. Afterwards, just adding a little concealer, a bold brow ( BRUSH UP! ), & some High Impact Extreme Volume Mascara ( curling the lashes before, obviously, we gotta keep it flirty ). Finishing the look off with some Superbalm moisturizing gloss & I’m good to go.
I feel like I need to film a makeup tutorial soon. Thoughts?
NOT ONLY are these bachelorette products on point, I also received a free grab bag from Macy’s. One that’s available to everyone & anyone between September 29th to October 17th. This little makeup travel bag contained all the goods plus more ( my most favorite DEFINITELY being the ‘High Impact’ mascara. Get it in black, just trust me ).
I feel like we have so much to talk about BUT I’m currently in Palm Springs, enjoying my girlfriends, a little ( A LOT? ) pink champagne, & an obnoxious amount of floaties ( it’s almost like you can’t do the pool thing without a good floaty nowadays ). Expect a full recap of the entire party with all the juicy details next week. There’s so much to spill, I really cannot wait to share with you guys.
So much to get into but first I will discuss outfit details because HELLO, HAVING SUCH A HOUNDSTOOTH MOMENT right now.
My love for houndstooth started with an antique store.
When I was dead broke circa 2008 I found this tiny little stool for my room that was covered in houndstooth. It was so charming. I bought the stool for $9.95 & brought it home to my room. On top of it I stacked some of my favorite coffee table books ( you have to get creative when you have no space for a coffee table ). The whole set-up was so special to me. Anyway, ever since I love a pop of houndstooth.
Which is exactly why I IMMEDIATELY purchased these pants from Nordstrom the SECOND I saw them. These houndstooth pants are very much my vibe & give off all the fall feels. To even out the look, I did a black turtleneck. Especially loving this one because it’s not too turtle-y. Meaning it doesn’t go up too high on my neck. It’s Parisian chic, you know?
SHOES. Ok so, Ivanka Trump designed these FABULOUS must-have boots that every girl should own for fall. Really, they’re the perfect bootie. I plan on rocking them with jeans, midi skirts, & lots of trousers. To finish off the look: a crimson lip. This get up is something you can wear over & over ( trust me, I’ve rocked it all at least 3 times thus far ). AND it screams fall.
There’s something romantic about making the switch from summer to fall, clothes-wise. You kind of have to bundle up, bring out the pumpkin spiced candles ( BASIC but SORRY they’re too good ), & dust off the boots. I’m very much about it.
On a completely different note, I recently read a post on Marianna Hewitt’s blog all about how she doesn’t fall into the extrovert OR introvert category.
In fact, she identifies as an AMBIVERT.
Hmmm. After reading the definition, I REALIZED I AM AN AMBIVERT as well.
DEFINITION…Ambivert ( noun ): a person whose personality has a balance of extrovert and introvert features.
To go further, this source states: “An ambivert is rather balanced for the most part, or at least we try to be; we seek social settings and the company of others and do so quite well. We aren’t overly loud and aggressive like the extrovert can be, but we enjoy being outgoing and do so on our own terms. We also enjoy our solitude, but aren’t quite as extreme with it as the introvert. We need both settings rather equally to be fully happy. As I mentioned above, we don’t function too well in either direction for extensive amounts of time. When this happens, we are a mess. Again, we need balance.
With that being said, the ambivert can sometimes be confusing to others; having both traits, we can sway too far in either direction rather easily. Our behaviors are likely to change with the situation, and we can easily become “unbalanced.” We enjoy doing something…until we don’t. These behavior “fluctuations” are a result of our need to find and stay balanced.”
I am also a Gemini.
Sometimes I want to go out, be social, have a few margaritas, & shoot the shit.
Other times? I want to be completely alone, cleaning the house or organizing, listening to music, maybe a podcast, with candles & oils going.
If I don’t get this type of alone time, my mind & body crave it.
I get grumpy.
For me to give off good energy in public, I have to give myself a reset. Kind of like a battery charge.
That reset comes from alone time.
A lot of the time I’ll go out to dinner alone…or even to a movie.
Along with the social / alone time thing, I also like time spent with Michael. But quiet time. I like to read in bed in silence or watch a movie.
So the point: I don’t identify with the extremeness of an extrovert or an introvert.
My body craves both.
It really depends on my mood, the time of the month ( LOL ), or if I’ve had enough sleep.
When you’re aware of what YOU need you’re able to develop a better sense of self. Kind of a mind / body connection. Ultimately, I believe this can make you a better friend, lover, & person. SELF-AWARENESS IS KEY.
I like listening, but I like talking. I don’t mind hanging out with new people, but I love hanging out with my friends. I’m happy out on the town but perfectly content at home. Some people would say I’m loud, others would say I’m quiet. If I don’t get alone time, I become tired.
Is anyone else like this?
What are you? Do you fall into the category of an introvert, ambivert, or extrovert? Thoughts?
I’m off to prep for wedding festivities. I mean, it’s perfectly reasonable for me to be dedicating some time on the weekend to the wedding when we’re a month away – right? HA.
Be sure to stalk this look on Nordstrom. It’s definitely my favorite fall look & JUST SCREAMS PARIS, ESPRESSOS, ROMANCE, & MULLED RED WINE. So good.
That’s right, from start to finish we designed TSC-ESQUE phone cases.
I mean shit, makes sense. I’m on my phone enough? But who isn’t? it’s kind of the remote control of our lives. So it’s gotta be cute.
We need to get technical first.
I drop my phone. A lot. Like, a lot a lot.
In fact, it was cracked for two months until I recently bought a new one.
SO I am VERY thrilled to announce all of these TSC casescompletely protect your phone. Casetify’s cases are made of a “durable hardshell exterior, co-molded with a soft, impact-absorbing inner layer for complete protection in a flexible, secure & lightweight form. Raised bezel around perimeter keeps screen protected while durable hardshell exterior provides surface protection.”
Every Casetify product is made-to-order & hand-inspected from corner to corner. They ensure high-quality products & promise 100% satisfaction. YES PLZ.
You should also know that these cases come off & on VERY easily. No prying the cases off to the point where it ruins a good manicure ( SMH, such a waste ). They pop off & on QUICKLY.
…AND they won’t break the bank. Each case is $40 bucks. None of that $85 dollar phone case bullshit. 30% goes to the Breast Cancer Foundation too. October is breast cancer month so timing ideal. FUN RIGHT.
For the record: THE BOOBS case is the one Michael & all his friends want. They’ll all be rocking this case on their phones come Monday. Pretty cool for a guy in my opinion.
This case is super cute for an Instagram selfie in the mirror. I can already see myself holding a glass of rosé in an Insta mirror pic. Not going to lie, may have designed this one ESPECIALLY FOR those mirror pics. Comes in 3 colors.
UM YES. How flirty is this case? We designed this is for the girl who doesn’t give a F. The ballzy bitch. She’s no bullshit, cool, & FUNNY.
Honestly I’ll wear this one all the time because I think it’s hilarious. It’s feisty & a real statement. AND it’s even funnier if you’re in a relationship. I don’t know why this cracks me up but it does ( everyone who’s married should get this as a JOKE. Scare your husbands ).
Obviously very excited to do a couple flat-lays with this one ( yes, this is how my brain thinks, HA! ). I feel like this will look really cute while I’m texting too…is this weird?
UGH. I just love this so much. If you follow along on Snapchat you know I ALWAYS make Michael carry my purse.
“Always make the guy carry your purse” has become my Snapchat motto. Lately you guys have been snapping me pictures & videos from around the world of your BF/husbands/girlfriends carrying your purses. I laugh my ass off every time.
So if you’re a bossy badass, this case is for you. Definitely one of my favorites AND FYI: IT’S TO DIE FOR IN PERSON AND ON AN ACTUAL IPHONE.
Come on now, you know I couldn’t do boobs without a sexy bra right?
This case is designed for the girl who needs to be a lady killer at work, but likes to let loose afterwards ; ). IT’S VERY FEMININE with a little twist…it’s sassy, but not too risqué. Clearly this one’s screaming TSC vibes. Comes in 3 colors.
Think full-on titty party: boob cupcakes, boob cases, boob balloons, boob cookies, boob cases…ANDDDDD most importantly, 30% of sales will go towards the Breast Cancer Foundation. Naturally the table will be filled with flower arrangements from Seed Floral, candy vases full of Sugarfina champagne & rosé gummy bears, & some boozy snow cones too. Want to come with? Just follow along on Snapchat. It’ll be fun.
OK SO I hope you love the cases! Really, really took my time designing each one with the amazing Ghostmouse team— they made my vision JUST come to life. Together we made sure to really design each case especially for The Skinny Confidential Community. We wanted something cool but feminine, flirty, witty, & FRESH.
Honestly, I don’t know which one I want to rock first? They’re all my vibe SO I’M CONFLICTED!
Fresh off a 45 minute spin class & mixing it up today just because.
Don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing? A random post?
Anyway, as you can imagine between planning a wedding in a month ( no really, I’m planning a bachelorette, bridal shower, & wedding in a month – YES I SWEAR ), working, housesitting, traveling, working out, life, etc – my body CRAVES a daily workout. I need an hour to myself to just sweat. So spin was needed.
A spicy post is just a cherry on the top of today.
Here’s the thing. You guys know when I find an article I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, I kind of have to share. In fact, I can’t keep it to myself. If something really resonates, makes me stop & think…I gotta share. There’s so many bullshit, fake-ass Facebook articles that it’s nice to read something with depth.
I think we’re all on the same page here: we like articles that make us think. Ones that force us to question ourselves. Make us question what society says is ‘the right way.’ Even make us uncomfortable? Well, I like to be uncomfortable sometimes. It feels………I dunno, good?
I saw a story on Facebook the other day. Like most stories that get passed around Facebook, it’s probably only 38% true and written by a 16-year-old. But regardless, I found it cool, and at the very least, thought-provoking.
It was about a man named Mohammed El-Erian. Mohammed was the CEO of an uber $2 trillion bond fund called PIMCO and earned upwards of $100 million per year. In January, he unexpectedly resigned in order to spend more time with his 10-year-old daughter.
Now here’s the bad news: A decision like this is apparently a big deal in our society. Totally unexpected and against the cultural grain of “make billions or die trying” that we’re all used to. The article has been making the usual rounds on social media, getting shared and talked about quite a bit.
Apparently El-Erian’s decision came after a fight with said daughter. He was yelling at her to brush her teeth. She refused. He pulled the classic “I’m your father and you will do what I say” routine, to which she said, “Hold, please.” The girl retreated to her bedroom and proceeded to write down 22 important moments of her life that her father had missed because of work — birthday parties, school performances, hare krishna conventions, and so on. Presumably, this crayon-scrawled list gave El-Erian a bad case of what the internet has dubbed “the feelz” and the next day Mohammed was hanging up his hedge fund hat for good — Mohammed “Wow, That’s A Lot of Fucking Zeroes” El-Erian was now a full-time dad.
If you’ve ever taken an economics class, one of the first things you learn is a concept called “opportunity cost,” an idea often illustrated with the quote, “There’s no such thing as a free lunch.”
Opportunity cost means that essentially everything you do, no matter what it is, costs something, even if indirectly. The classic example is when someone takes you out for a free, hour-long lunch. Despite gaining the value of the lunch during that hour, you are still giving up all of the other productive activities you could have potentially been doing.
Man sleeping on computer.
So you give up doing an extra hour of work. An extra hour of sleep. An extra hour of sales calls that could net you a new client. Or, as in the case with El-Erian, an extra hour with your 10-year-old daughter.
In our culture, we regularly celebrate people who become rich by doing exceptional things. But the nature of those “exceptional things” often requires extremely high opportunity costs. Bill Gates famously slept in his office five days a week and remained single well into his 30s. Steve Jobs was a deadbeat father to his first daughter. Brad Pitt can’t leave his house without being bukkaked by flashbulbs and cameras. The man has stated that he’s gone through periods of depression due to the social isolation caused by his extreme fame.
The point is that doing anything truly great requires some sort of inherent sacrifice that may or may not be immediately obvious. You know, like missing a series of your daughter’s birthdays.
(If you’ve read a lot of my stuff, you’ve seen this idea in other forms before, particularly here and here.)
But here’s the problem. Modern society multiplies our opportunities. Therefore, modern society also multiplies our opportunity costs, making it costlier and more difficult to commit all of our time and energy to any one thing without feeling some form of remorse or regret.
Enter the concept of “FOMO” or “Fear of Missing Out.” We live a life that is constantly pelted with reminders of everything we are unable to become.
Back, say, 200 years ago, people didn’t have this problem. If you were born a farmer, you likely didn’t have many opportunities beyond farming. Moreover, you likely weren’t even aware of opportunities beyond farming. Therefore, devoting everything in your life to becoming an expert farmer involved next to no opportunity costs and next to no FOMO. After all, there was nothing else to miss out on.
In a bizarre and backwards way, people back in the day could “have it all.” They had it all simply for the fact that there was nothing else for them to have.
Last month I wrote an article about life purpose. Something like 800 bazillion people shared it on Facebook and told me I was a cool kid. Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love even thought it was neat. But this whole business of “life purpose” didn’t even exist until a few decades ago. As a question, it didn’t make sense.
In a way, your so-called life purpose crisis is a luxury, something you’re allowed to have as a result of the amazing freedoms the modern world has bestowed upon you.
I get emails all the time from people who complain about work/life balance. There are articles all over the mainstream media debating whether it’s possible to “have it all” — i.e., is it possible to be an all star in your career and have a healthy family life and have cool and fun hobbies and be financially stable and have that sexy bikini body and cook organic soufflé in your underwear while buying beachfront property on your new iPhone 6, all at the same time?
What’s changed is not our inability to manage our time or “balance our lives” between work and play. What’s changed is that we have more opportunities for work and play than ever before — more interests, more awareness of every potential experience we’re passing up. In short, we have more opportunity cost.
And we’re made aware of this in a terribly connected way each day. Every person who decides to sacrifice their dating life to advance their career is now bombarded constantly by the rambunctious sex lives of their friends and strangers. Every person who sacrifices their career prospects to dedicate more time and energy to their family is now bombarded with the material successes of the most exceptional people around them at all times. Every person who decides to take a thankless but necessary role in society is now constantly drowned in inane stories of the famous and beautiful.
So how do we respond to this new, overly-connected culture? How do we manage our FOMO?
The conventional answer, the answer you’ll find in most bookstores and at most seminars is some variation of “do more with less,” “practice time management,” or as Arnold Schwarzenegger once said, “sleep faster.”
El-Erian stated in his dad-of-the-year Facebook article that he spent years justifying missing his daughter’s birthdays to himself — he was busy, work was too demanding, his travel schedule was insane.
This is the typical work/life balance, woe-is-me complaint we always hear: “I have all of these things I want to do and not enough time.”
But what if the answer isn’t to do more?
What if the answer is to want less?
What if the solution is simply accepting our bounded potential, our unfortunate tendency as humans to inhabit only one place in space and time. What if we recognize our life’s inevitable limitations and then prioritize what we care about based on those limitations?
What if it’s as simple as stating, “This is what I choose to value more than everything else,” and then living with it?
When we attempt to do everything, to fill up life’s checklist, to “have it all,” we’re essentially attempting to live a valueless life, a life where everything is equally gained and nothing lost. When everything is necessary and desired equally, then nothing is necessary or desired at all.
This past week, I received an email from a man who was distressed about his life situation. He had a job he hated and had become disconnected from the friends and activities he once cared about. He said he was depressed. He said he felt like he had lost himself. He said he hated his life.
But, he added at the end, he had become accustomed to the lifestyle his job afforded him. So quitting his job was out of the question. He then asked what he should do.
In my experience, the people who struggle with the so-called “life purpose” question, always complain that they don’t know what to do. But the real problem is not that they don’t know what to do. It’s that they don’t know what to give up.
El-Erian’s priority was $100 million per year. His priority was CEO. His priority was private helicopters and stretch limos and bankers jerking off all over his balance sheet wherever he went. And to earn those things, he chose to give up being present in his daughter’s life.
For me this article rings very, VERY true. There’s been many things I’ve sacrificed that people maybe don’t see. It’s not a poor-me thing, I have made the conscious choice to do one thing & not the other, you know? There’s just been a lot of events/birthdays/Friday nights/parties/weekend plans/networking opportunities that I have passed up to work on my business.
Obviously I love working on my business. It’s very important to me. A top priority, clearly. But sometimes that priority causes me to miss out.
Ultimately, I recognize that life is about where you put your energy…& “having it all” is kind of fucking subjective? I mean what does that even mean? Having it all? What’s the “all?” Who has it all? Does Angelina Jolie have it all? Did we think she did? Hmmm. Having it all is a YAWN & I call bullshit. What a hamster wheel. I picture an octopus with all its hands out grasping at everything ( what a tired octopus, HA! ).
SO I certainly don’t have it all. But I am happy. I strive for balance but frequently screw that up…in today’s world, the word balance is over-used. I feel like a few years ago I was guilty of over-using the word too ( a great word, just used too lightly maybe? ). I had to stop myself & think the of meaning…because balance is AMAZING…in balance.
Love your job? Obsessed? Can’t stop working? Your time with your significant other will most likely struggle.
Photography is your RIDE OR DIE passion? That 9 to 5 may slack.
Fixated, IN LOVE, so focused on your relationship(s)? Don’t be surprised if you don’t see your family and friends as much.
Bottom line: the grass will grow where YOU water it. You’re in charge. & it’s OK if you can’t water all the grass at once. In fact, it’s normal. And on that note, you can’t tell someone else where to water THEIR grass.
Food for thought?
Where are you watering your grass? Which spots are the greenest?
Lately, I’ve been thinking about where I water my grass & where those brown spots reside.
……..Like I said, I love an article that causes reflection.
Ok, would love to know your thoughts, opinions, good/bad/ugly – as always.
Signing off, lauryn x
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