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faye addiction & recovery |by the skinny confidential

Addiction.

Updated: May 18, 2017
by
LAURYN

faye addiction & recovery |by the skinny confidential
I work well under pressure.

Which is why I waited until the last second to write this post.

If I had planned it all out it wouldn’t come off right. So here I am, trying to figure out the right way to lay this one out…Clearly it’s not an easy post for me to write. Especially since it’s affected my family so deeply.

Addiction.

Surely you have a friend or family member who has struggled with addiction. Maybe you’ve even struggled with the disease. Or maybe you’ve simply seen the dark side on TV. Regardless there are multiple types of addiction. Today we’re going to talk specifically about drug & alcohol addiction.

Because that’s what I know.

I am a public person- it’s my job to be public & it’s what I signed up for, but there’s a lot of me that’s private. Private because I am not ready to discuss my entire life story yet. Other parts are private because they’re not my stories to tell. Addiction, however, is something I’ve wanted to discuss for a long time on The Skinny Confidential but I’ve waited until the time was right.

And now it’s right.

It’s right for a plethora of reasons.

It’s right because of TSC secret Facebook group which has proven the need for depth. Seriously- through the thousands of women who are part of The Skinny Confidential community I’ve seen a need to get real. To watch you guys engage & interact in a non-judgemental space has been INCREDIBLE. Really blows my mind.

It’s right because I believe that this post & podcast on addiction will help someone- or shit, maybe it will simply open the conversation that the Internet facade life isn’t always rosé & oysters. A lot of bloggers talk about food & fashion in the most whimsical, beautiful, curated way but I hope to be the blog or space that goes deeper…because that’s what I look for in a blog. DEPTH. I have gone through shit. HAVEN’T WE ALL? That’s just life, right? It’s important for me to celebrate the highs & acknowledge the lows. So always know that you won’t just find home decor tips & recipes here- I have always wanted this space to be much bigger than me or what I’m doing. So this post is right because it may help or open up real life conversation.

And it’s right because my sister, Faye, who struggled with addiction, is in such a strong place to share her story. Which is why I’m so happy to have her & her fiancé on the podcast today.

My sister, Faye, is five years younger than me.

When we were little we were best friends from the second she was born. No surprise to you, I was a bossy older sister & always wanted to be the teacher ( shocking ) in every situation. Faye was always game- she looked up to me in the sweetest way. She was ( & is ) BEAUTIFUL. Like the most beautiful little girl ever guys- huge baby blue eyes with a Tina Turner bun she wore at the top of her head. Faye made everyone laugh constantly. I was with her 24/7.

Things happened in our childhood which is a huge post or 100…or a book.

Anyway, after these things happened the light in my sister’s eyes changed.

I remember when she was 13 ( I was 18 & in high school ), something shifted. I can’t explain it really because our full history is extensive but basically around 14-ish she started experimenting with drugs. Sadly in San Diego this is not uncommon. A lot of young kids get into drugs very early. We both went to schools where drugs were readily available ( I’ve always been more into tequila though! HA ).

Faye experimented which snowballed into hard core drugs. At 17 she was drinking and doing drugs & prescription pills daily.

At this point I was in college, bartending all night & teaching fitness & going to school all day. My time was jammed packed from the second I got up to the second I fell asleep at 2:30 AM. Non-stop. I didn’t live with her. I noticed things were off but all my family members would make excuses ( which is something SO many of us do- we enable the addict ). Excuses were our thing. To our friends, to each other, to ourselves.

There were so many undeniable moments & days where she was clearly high but we buried it…deep. Too painful. Bury, bury. The problem too was that my sister looked normal. She didn’t look like what people think an addict should look like- no facial scabs or marks. Not strung out. Her eyes were clear. In fact, she looked gorgeous, normal, fresh, pretty, stylish ( don’t believe me? See this post ).

Meanwhile her addiction got worse & worse…& worse.

My dad & stepmom finally kicked her out of the house- they had the last straw with her. While she was high she acted out in a way that was dangerous. Faye went to my grandma’s house. From there it got worse. So bad The Nanz had to kick her out. With my dad, stepmom, brother, other sister, cousins, uncles, & aunts, we staged an intervention with a specialist.

It went HORRIBLE.

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Keep in mind this is around the time The Skinny Confidential launched- I threw myself into health, nutrition, & fitness. Perhaps to counteract my sister’s addiction?

After the fail of an intervention, my sister- 20 years old & so beautiful still, was homeless.

Everyone was done with her behavior & we all, as a family, cut her off.

I remember the second I realized it was the only way to save her – to cut her off entirely. I was taking off in a plane- about to travel & I started bawling crying because I knew this was out of my hands. I had no control. She had to want help to receive help.

This may be hard for some of you to understand because you don’t know the lead up, the countless horror stories, the behavior…but let me tell you this: my family cutting her off saved her life. She will tell you the same & she does in the podcast today.

There she was on the street with nowhere to go- with nothing. She called her last friend who so kindly set her up with a woman named Kiyan who represented the Cy Mo Foundation ( a foundation who was created after her son, Cyrus. Cyrus was a very, very good friend of mine who died from a drug overdose at 21 ).

From there Kiyan got Faye into a rehab.

Not a country club rehab. A clean the toilets with your toothbrush, Wonderbread, shut the fuck up with that attitude kind of rehab, in Orange County.

This family pic I posted in 2014 on The Skinny Confidential was actually us visiting her at rehab.

After months of being clean, Faye relapsed while in rehab on heroin.

My family was devastated as you can imagine. I mean it was crushing. She’d been using for years & years & to see my little sister clean was such a relief. Her relapse scared the shit out of us.

The day after the relapse my sister walked miles by herself to a new rehab & never looked back. She’s been four years sober now & sponsors many women in treatment. Faye is in college, engaged, works with Young Living Essential Oils, & lives in Orange County. Best of all- a year ago she found out she was pregnant. About nine months ago she gave birth to my nephew & her son, Daxton Graye. Dax is perfection in every way.

I am so proud of her.


Faye is an example of overcoming demons & creating her life by design. Surely she will have more hurdles but she is now clean & sober.
I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again: behind beauty there is typically struggle.

“HAPPINESS REQUIRES STRUGGLE. THIS IS THE MOST SIMPLE AND BASIC COMPONENT OF LIFE: OUR STRUGGLES DETERMINE OUR SUCCESSES. IF YOU WANT THE BENEFITS OF SOMETHING IN LIFE, YOU HAVE TO ALSO WANT THE COSTS.” – Mark Manson 

Ultimately you can’t have a pain-free life— it just doesn’t work that way.

You have to embrace the struggle to get to the destination.

So yes, this week’s podcast is about struggle, addiction, & overcoming adversity. You can listen to the podcast here where we go super in-depth with Faye & Johnny, her fiancé. You should know Johnny’s story is intense & inspiring. He has overcome so much adversity. His story is very, VERY interesting guys. We hope both of their stories can help anyone out there dealing with something similar.

There is so much more to my experience with addiction so if you guys are interested in this topic please let me know & I’ll do more posts like this.

Ok I’m out- so much love to anyone out there who’s familiar with the disease of addiction. I feel you.

– lauryn

+ if you’re a family member or friend of an addict and looking for a safe place to talk- check out Al-Anon. If you want help for an addiction go to Alcoholics Anonymous.

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How To Throw A Festive Baby Shower

Updated: May 9, 2017
by
LAURYN

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Baby showers!

Fun, festive !! But if I have anything to do with it, I’m not going to let the gender dictate the shower.

Let’s just go with it, you know?

So when my little sister, Faye, announced she was pregnant I jumped at the chance to throw her a shower with our stepmom, Julie. As you know Julie is AMAZING. She helped create the vision of our home & is really the best cook…ever? Together we planned a shower that was very much my sister, Faye, without making it super gender-ish.

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We kept the blue & pink theme contrasting throughout the whole shower. Table cloths & candies were white & blue and then we did pink cotton candy to go in the cocktails. Julie brought cactus cupcakes ( yes, I know, how cute ) & designed insane cactus table clothes for the food table. Food was whipped up by my dad who made perfect spicy chicken verde enchiladas ( Daddy: can we please have the recipe? I’ve only been waiting 5 years? ) & chiles rellenos.

My whole family helped set up & ( surprise, surprise ) we left everything to the last minute so some of my friends had to chip in too…HA. The lateness runs in the family?

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Just a couple of shoutouts:

Big thanks to Van De Vort for the spicy top ( LOVE! ), Roseur for supplying literally the most beautiful pink roses on the planet, Suja Juice for the perfect addition to mimosas ( Lemon Love is a fav ), Sugarfina for the candy because really I can’t throw a party without them, Blush Tan ( organic spray tans for everyone !! ), & SkinFix because it makes fun goodie bags. Candles are Wood Creek, vanilla flavored. Ultimately the champagne / rosé gummy bears brought the whole party together. To keep the vibe strong, Bossanova played in the background.

Ok, changing directions – Erica & I designed these super cute baby shower games for Faye through our company, blog-doo. Erica is like the most the talented person when it comes to graphic design…& well, I’m the most skilled micromanager, as you know. We certainly make an interesting team, right?

On that note, here’s a quick peek into the shower:

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Games anyone?

I’m definitely not a game person but, it’s a fun touch. We played games for like 5 seconds until we were distracted by The Nanz’ jokes. What can I say?

ALSO we made Faye a baby shower geo filter. Highly recommend if you’re throwing someone a party. There’s really nothing more fun than doing a Snap, throwing the ‘pretty filter’ on it, & finding a personalized geo filter. Nothing. Big thanks to the Snapchat team for dealing with my lateness & getting the baby shower filter up in like…2 hours. Whoops.

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So yes!! A fun-filled non-gender related baby shower for you! We had so much fun. The party continued across the street. It was a real ball.

My sister looked beautiful & I’m SO excited to be an aunt!

& for the record, instead of getting her a diaper bag we got her this chic Cynthia Rowley duffle bag & filled it with a bunch of baby essentials like Honest wipes, lavender hand sanitizer, rose water spray, neon BANDAIDS, organic diapers, & lots of essential oils. I love getting someone a chic bag, individually wrapping each item & then placing them all in the chic bag. It’s like unwrapping a bunch of tiny gifts in one gift.

Ok! That’s it, off to bed. Goodnight guys, lauryn

+ ALSO check out how to throw a bridal shower.

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Mini DeLites x Book Launch Party Recap

Updated: December 1, 2016
by
LAURYN

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Hey, hey, hey.

Today I’ve got a long post ( plus a lil video & a rad giveaway!!! ).

Ahhh, ok so I’m so excited to share the deets of the book launch party.

I get total goosebumps when I think about it because it was such a sparkly, special night. I mean…how could it not be with croquet AND cocktails?!

Here’s a sneak peak of the party:

From flowing Suja Juice + Bon Affair champagne, to gorgeous people ( << inside & out!! ), to the most amazing venue, to the live band, Ottopilot— the night was a hit!

To everyone who came out to say hey & purchase the book: THANK you. I’m forever grateful. You all made the night perfect.

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The Skinny Confidential book launch party.

Since some of you missed this giveaway, I’ve teamed up with my amazing friend, Annie of the blog BLAWNDE ( & co-founder of Suja Juice ) to bring you a second giveaway. And I mean…not gonna lie, I kinda want to win this one…check it:

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.Oh, NBD…you’ll just win a night’s stay at the party’s venue AKA the most beautiful resort on earthRancho Valencia. Plus a three day juice cleanse & a personally signed copy of TSC book. So you can basically read the book while lounging by the pool all day drinking skinny margarita(s). And then the week after you can cleanse your bod with the best cleanse everrrrrr.

To participate the full giveaway, click here, complete the requirements, & fill out the form on Annie’s blog.

Also, make sure you follow @babygenius23 ( Annie ), @ranchovalencia, @lovesuja, & @theskinnyconfidential on Instagram for eligibility.

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.

Lastly a big shout-out to Ali Grant & her team at Be Social PR— they killed it. & of course, to all the sponsors.

But.

The biggest thanks in the world goes to my insane readers— you guys!! Love you long time.

X L

{ Another recap of the party can be found here }.

{{ Dress by: Stone Cold Fox // flower crown by: Natalie from Halfway to Harmony // lipstick: MAC }}

{{{ Photo cred: Carlo Alberto Orecchia // video cred: Travis Varga }}}

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.

The Skinny Confidential book launch at Rancho Valencia.

Faye Evarts and Lauryn Evarts collab on a fashion post.

Style: What I’m Loving…Lately

Updated: August 19, 2016
by
LAURYN

Faye Evarts and Lauryn Evarts collab on a fashion post.My lil sister, Faye, has super cute style— it certainly doesn’t hurt that she’s always ahead of the trends. Soooo when I asked her what her latest favorites are & she showed me this lil dime of a tank dress

I nearly died.

Seriously.

I mean…hi hottest dress ever.

Like, ever.

ESP with a flannel around the waist. Right?

This outfit is totally for a ride or die chick…& it’s uh, $68 dollars.

I’m into it.

Ok, so what are your favorite trends lately? Spillllll.

Check out Faye’s instagram, Evillarts Vintage for more fashion/accessory finds!

Happy Saturday!

X L

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CHRISTMAS <3

Updated: August 19, 2016
by
LAURYN

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Lauryn Evarts talks diet and fitness for weight loss.

Lauryn Evarts talks diet and fitness for weight loss.

Christmas was filled with people I love, a little eggnog, & a lot of laughing.

But shocker: I’m dead tired.

Like, so, so, ridiculously-falling-asleep-while-typing-this-about-to-cry-tired.

So we’re laying low with some friends tonight & hopefully we’ll end up in bed watching the cartoon version of The Grinch. Buttttt the night will involve lotssss of popcorn ( << I bought a popcorn machine that I couldn’t be more excited about (!!!) ) & mugs of green tea.

So buh-bye Christmas; lezzz get ready for 2014!

x L

Lauryn Evarts talks diet and fitness for weight loss.

Lauryn Evarts talks diet and fitness for weight loss.

Lauryn Evarts talks diet and fitness for weight loss.

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Lauryn Evarts talks diet and fitness for weight loss.