The other day I was mindlessly scrolling through Instagram & I came across a quote by businessman, KILLER Gary Vee ( who is just fucking awesome, by the way. Michael and I got a chance to meet with him ). The quote said: STOP DOING SHIT YOU HATE.
So obvious. So simple. BUT SO TYPICAL.
Seriously though. People wake up everyday for 40 years straight going to jobs they hate, working for people they hate, doing tasks they hate.
Ok so, today you’ve caught me in a specific mood. I mean things around here are getting HYPER ORGANIZED. After traveling & getting life-changing surgery, I’ve come to the realization that there are things I want to change, business-wise. SO I’m making proactive changes.
AKA instead of just continuing doing certain things I hate, I’m getting out of my comfort zone to make changes. It sucks, it’s hard at first, but it’s worth it. Better than looking back in 20 years & realizing I did things I didn’t like & became compliance.
The point of this post is to encourage you to do the same. Keeping this general: if you are in a situation that you HATE or if you have a habit you hate, change it.
Really, I can assure you there’s no fairy Godmother that’s going to appear from the sky & fix it, you know?
The only person you can count on to make these positive changes is YOU.
I’ve gotten a lot of e-mails from women who want to launch their own business because they’re working in a negative environment & want to branch out on their own.
My advice? Just do it. Pull the trigger.
Because if you don’t do it now, you’re wasting time and energy on things you hate.
As Gary says: STOP DOING SHIT YOU HATE.
It’s really surprisingly simple. Just put an end to it OR make moves towards getting yourself out of the negative situation.
Now this message may not apply to work or business at all; maybe this applies to an ongoing coffee date with someone you don’t really like. Maybe this applies to a specific workout ( AKA I hate long distance running, sorry— hate it ). Or maybe it’s more about something bigger than all of this.
What a waste of life to do things you hate, right?
To further the point, Gary breaks it down quickly in this YouTube video: “stop doing shit you hate, you have all the opportunity to crush it. There is no doubt in my mind that you are going to kill it and that is what I want to talk to you about today. I really want to talk about PP, patience and passion. There are way too many people in this room right now that are doing stuff that they hate. Please stop doing stuff that you hate! There is no reason in 2014 to do shit you hate! Promise me you won’t, because you can lose just as much money being happy as hell.”
Anyway, I sincerely hope that if you’re doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable that you take steps to fix it & remove the issue from your life. YOU ARE WORTH IT.
So! Ask yourself: if you’re doing shit you hate today…how are you making proactive strides to get yourself out of these negative situations? AND of course, if you have any advice on the topic, WEIGH IN! I swear you guys always have such positive tips/tricks/advice.
– lauryn x
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I couldn’t agree with you more! I have terrible seasonal affective disorder, so I picked up my whole life and moved to California and I feel AWESOME! Life is too short to deal with things you hate, especially winter!
Hi Colleen, I am proud of you for making the move! That’s awesome. Good for you and thanks for reading <3
It’s about 6.20AM here in the UK and I just wanted to say a BIG thank you for this post. I love your blog, but this post has really hit home – looking forward to watching Gary Vee’s video this evening with an overly large glass of well needed vino!
Hi Sharmini! So glad you like the post. Thanks for reading and sending you good vibes in the UK! xx
Thanks, I needed to hear that
Love this! So many people do shit they hate each day. It’s a waste of time!
Hi Michelle, I completely agree. WASTE OF TIME. Thanks for reading <3
Just what I needed today. Thanks for this Lauryn! <3
YAY! Thanks for reading Meghan <3
Ah I so agree!! I am currently in a really stressful/highly pressuriZed job that I just am not feeling at all! It’s also extremely difficult to engage and do a good job when you are doing something you dislike so much.
Thanks for the post 🙂
I completely agree Jaclyn, we need to feel inspired and happy at work. It’s so hard to be productive and effective if you’re not happy. Thanks for reading <3
Love this post Lauryn. Thanks for the reminder.
I think it’s one of the hardest things ever, to stop doing shit you hate. For some strange reason, the more you hate something, the more it takes away your confidence to make a move in a better direction. I was so tired of being a Private PA, I felt dread everyday going to work, it’s such a thankless job so often. So when I was made redundant this year, and already having a client who’s social media I was working on, I thought screw it, enough of this PA malarkey, I’m going to try going freelance on social media. I’m earning MUCH less, and watching my pennies, but I don’t have the dread, or the daily commute, AND I can do things like read your blog posts whenever I want without a boss catching me out ;o)
Hi Annmaree, I’m so proud of you for making a change. Just keep building up your client list and I’m sure soon you’ll be making more money than before! Good luck!! Thanks for reading <3
This is absolutely true and so relevant in today’s time. Especially with so many other avenues and opportunities to make a living. I did this very thing earlier this year. It is still a work in progress, but I decided to take my chemistry degree and do something more exciting and inspiring. That is why I started blogging and turning my business online. It is definitely an uncomfortable feeling,but each day it grows a little more, so I stay patient. You are definitely a fantastic inspiration as a business woman, so thank you!
Hi Alexis, thank you so much! You’re so sweet. Congrats on making a change and taking a rise. I’m sure you’ll kill it <3
SEEERRRRIOOOUSSSSLY a great post. I am at a crossroads in my life professionally and this post could not have come at a better time. I couldn´t agree with you more. You have to let go of the conventional, “safe” path and just free fall. I have come to realize that I am more afraid of not taking a risk with starting a business than I am of being a poor, starving artists for a few years.
Thank you, thank you for this message:)
Hi Stephanie, I totally agree. Just remember that there are ways to reduce your chances of failing if you’re taking a risk. Make plans, know how to execute them. Read up and get informed so you can make the best decisions. Good luck babe! xx
Great post, Lauryn!
Ahh! That video by Gary has been one of my favorites for the longest time. Such a crazy awesome, inspiring message. I have his book Crush It, and have been contemplating re-reading it over the last couple of weeks.
Thank you for sharing this message Lauryn! What are some of the things you plan to stop doing?
I have been working at a law firm for 5 years and I know I’m meant for better things than being a paralegal. I have dreams of owning a consignment store or being a private investigator. My blog really has kept me from quitting my job because it brings me happiness letting my creativity out each day. I encourage everyone to have a hobby if you don’t like your job… it really balances out the drab each day!! 🙂
Hi Virginia, thank you for sharing the tip! I completely agree. Especially if getting out of your current situation takes time and planning. Finding a way to balance so you’re not completely unhappy is a good way to get by. Thanks for reading <3
Even from the standpoint of efficiency, we’d all be better off if people did what they enjoyed. WORK WOULD GET DONE BETTER because there’d be an element of love in work products. And that has the potential to make amazing things happen.
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Hi Dana, YES. Completely agree. Thanks for reading :))
Yes! Gary’s book, Crush It, was so inspiring – although some of the stuff (mostly all the social media suggestions) is by now a little dated. Love this post <3
Gosh I needed this today, so badly!! thank you!
Great quote, greater advice!
Lauryn, you are really just the best. Always with positive, but REAL talk.
Thank you for posting this today especially. I’ve been sucking it up for the past few years and spending too much time on things that don’t give me joy. BUT in the past 4 months or so I’ve made some really positive changes. I started working on a new business, that JUST launched a few weeks ago (sales are slow to start, but I’m working on fixing that), and my husband and I made the jump to stop talking about moving out of Boston, to doing it. In a few weeks, my husband, dog and I will be making our way out to California (where I used to live), and I’m so excited for this new chapter.
Sometimes I can’t help but have doubts in these big changes, but ultimately, we are making life changes that are for things we love, so with hard work and faith, I’m sure it will work out.
Yassssssssss! I just recently took steps to pursue any and everything that brings joy professionally, socially, emotionally, etc….! I am in charge of my happy!
Word. This is exactly why I dumped a new client today.
In LOVE with this post! I’m in the process of changing things up as well and have had a hard time with that little voice creeping back into my head that says…”what if it doesn’t work out??” Better to go for it and fail than not try at all! For some odd reason, it’s always helpful for me to think of the WORST case scenario – because then I can think through what I would do if that happened. And usually I end up thinking, you know what – it would still be okay 🙂 Cheers! http://www.ladyplanner.com
I needed this one today. Well said, sister.
Ugh. Lauryn. I cannot even begin to tell you how much I needed this. From getting my blog going, to personal/professional life stuff, to trying to figure out my focus/niche (it has developed a LOT), and again just work/life stuff that has been weighing me down, hard. I cannot WAIT to see what direction you go in. Thanks for the much-needed wake up call!!! Happy weekend!!! And that is what is so great about travel. It REALLY opens your eyes to life. <3 xx
Woke up and read this post and immediately wrote down four things I want to change about my business! Clients last minute cancellations will now be charged, I increased the price of my group class because I hated breaking even every month on it, decided to stop making excuses about cardio and streamline some small things in my business! Thanks for the amazing inspiration
This is all very positive and easily said to just stop doing what you hate…but no one actually broaches the topic of how hard financially (and nearly impossible unless independently wealthy) it is to stop and make a change to “do what you like.”
It don’t believe this post could’ve showed up to me at a more ironic time in my life! I recently moved back home to Michigan after living temporarily in Paris, France. I knew the transition back was going to be difficult(especially with leaving a French boyfriend behind) but I didn’t realize exactly what it was going to do to my happiness. I restarted my two jobs in June when I returned but still spent the summer hanging out and taking little instate vacations, but September came and I returned to my American university and the cold began to sweep in, and ever since then I’ve had a persistent nagging in my head, remembering “ma vie Parisienne” and realizing how much I hate my jobs, my school, my city, etc. I can’t help but think how easy it would be to leave it all behind…just as I did so easily before when it was temporary. After your post, the comments from others, and conversationswith my 4000-mile-away-boyfriend, I’m beginning to conclude that there’s no reason to put off my happiness just because I feel like I need to complete my degree. As an art student, living is learning, and in Paris that was so much more. My family is a group of hard working people of the auto industry, who believe in the school, followed by steady job track. Though, I’d like to please them, I have bigger dreams i’d like to pursue. My life was beginning to flourish in France, and when I returned home it all seemed to freeze back into every negative thing I had ran away from. Lauryn, your post was everything I needed to see right now, your brand and your ambition is something I admire and seeing that type of advice really hit home. People around me are too uncomfortable with the idea of risking the stability in their lives to chase anything big, and all I needed was to here someone explain that that could be the key to opportunity. With no decision being made for sure yet, I know it won’t be long be for I shake this part of life off and begin chasing my happiness.
I have been talking about this with my husband for the past three months. Before I started teaching it was about finding a consistent paycheck which should never be why you go into teaching in the first place or for that matter any job. I am miserable in my job but I’m sticking it out for the year because I made a commitment…in the meantime I’m really excited about starting my own business through etsy in the wedding and shower department! And I work at my blog every week because it’s something I love. Life seriously is too short to just stay somewhere because it gives you a sense of security even though you hate it! My husbands job is tough but he absolutely loves it and I want to find something that I can feel that way about too. Thanks for the encouragement Lauryn!!!
Such great advice!! I practice this in my daily life 🙂 If there is something I don’t like, I change it! A great reminder to always follow your passions, thanks !
O.M.G. Lau – this is so me! I’d totally appreciate it if you could read http://www.nicolakeane.com/the-long-story... I think you’ll ❤️ It. My blog is also full of loads of tips for being a better YOU!
Love this post xx
Lauryn – WOW I really needed this today. I just started job 4 months ago and it has been an absolute nightmare. Like so much work anxiety I started grinding my teeth like mad in my sleep and my TMJ has been next level. Needless to say my recruiter had the complete wrong idea about this company. Anyway, I got an email from a company I love and a position that would be an absolute dream just opened up. I sat here staring at the computer scared out of my mind thinking about what it will look like if I leave a job only 4 months after starting it. But after reading this post I realize I need to just go for it and see what happens. The worst thing is they will not want me but another company will. Thank you x 10 for this post. You are a wise woman. xoxo Rachel ps. Say hi to Pixy & Boone for me. 🙂
Couldn’t have said it better, myself, Lauryn. Stop doing shit you hate… And, more importantly, start doing MORE of what you’re absolutely 100% head-over-heels obsessed with. So many people let the things they truly love take a back seat to what’s practical or “safe”.
Gotta say this scares me
Needing This. for me it’s more like – doing what I love consistently – and finding out everyday what that is! Haha I’m going to do some inventory though and think long and hard about the shit that I do hate and cut that ish out.
Love when you do these! Xox
Hey Lauryn. Just wanted to tell you that you’re so inspiring, and I have the iPhone app and I read your blog & follow you on instagram. You and Michael are an inspiration as a couple and you as a person inspire me to make my life exactly what I want it to be. This article is amazing and I shared it with my friend. We are busy college students and sometimes grades get the best of us. It’s hard to find time for you when you’re constantly running but I know it’s possible because you somehow manage your own busy life.
PS. Your dogs are sooo cute.