Let’s see shall we, where to begin?
You guys all know what ‘the blogger facade’ is.
If you don’t, let me explain ( P.S. this is my own definition ).
The blogger facade is an online persona created by bloggers that makes it seem like life is flawless & oh me oh my, I totally woke up to an egg white omelette with a sparkly bowl of organic berries &/or here I am at the airport in perfect, brand new $800 dollar shoes with a chic luggage not waiting in any lines &/or now here I am jet setting off to Hawaii to chill by the pool all day and take selfies & using the hashtag #vacalife.
EVERYONE IN THE WORLD KNOWS WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT? THEY HAVE TO? RIGHT?
If you’re unclear, head over to Instagram ( you know that one app? ) and creep around for ten minutes…the blogger facade game is strong on Insta. As we all know, there’s some reallllll smoke & mirrors going on on social media.
So here’s the thing: I’m not necessary being a bitch about the blog facade ( although sometimes it’s humorous to poke at yourself…I mean, I definitely have a couple jokes up my sleeve about #bloglife ). I simply just want to share some thoughts because sometimes smoke & mirrors can be a positive thing:
|| Major realness ||:
Life is stressful. Everyone has different stresses. To judge someone based on a small part of their life just isn’t fair. If you’re thinking: you put it out there! Your fault.
Yes. I get it.
But honestly, I don’t share everything on my blog. So to judge my full life when it’s not all out there doesn’t really make sense.
I’m very careful about my bedroom— my room doesn’t need to be posted all over the world wide web. I’m protective of my family & friends too. Their stories aren’t my stories to tell. Frankly, I didn’t create The Skinny Confidential to air my dirty laundry to everyone. It’s just not the style I’m going for.
The reason I created The Skinny Confidential is because I wanted a positive, girly, pretty outlet for women of all ages to read when they want to feel inspired, motivated, & confident. And let’s get real: if there were a bunch of ugly pictures & negative posts, it really wouldn’t really fit with the site’s aesthetic.
Ultimately I wanted to create a spot on the Internet to have pretty pictures, bright colors, & positive vibes. Although once in a while I’ll talk about a car accident ( I’m THE WORST DRIVER ) or how we just got snowed in & missed our flight from NYC ( that’s another story ), most of time my goal is to inspire YOU. So instead of looking at like “oh here’s a perfect life,” look at it like: “here’s a happy place/distraction.”
Again: this blog is not my entire life, it’s a part of it. And my goal is to make this part as pretty & appealing as possible.
Does that make sense?
|| A little reality check ||:
I don’t think I’ve ever shared the full story on this BUT when I was developing the idea of TSC I was in college ( bored & uninspired ), driving thirty minutes to school, teaching Pilates/Pure Barre in between classes, working on blog-doo, & bartending at night.
Building the brand the way I envisioned it was difficult when I was managing three jobs and school and life. Difficult, but not impossible.
I was a bartender half time while writing this blog. In fact, I was a bartender & cocktail server for five years total, while trying to figure out my passions. It was never mentioned in my posts because it wasn’t relevant. But again, another reminder that you don’t always know what’s going on behind the scenes.
A typical day was coming home at midnight, working on my blog, waking up, teaching, going to school ( constantly exhausted ), shooting for the blog, editing, bartending for 7 to 8 hours. Rinse & REPEAT. For years.
Also, I should mention I started writing The Skinny Confidential Book while in the second year of bartending. So my plate was real fucking full. I’m not complaining because that was certainly the foundation that’s helped me grow as a person but I’m just PULLING THE CURTAIN OFF THE WIZARD OF OZ.
One of my favorite quotes:
|| Life ( at least my life ) is FAR from perfect ||:
Haha. This literally makes me laugh. I have faced major adversity. I have felt depressed. I have shitty days where I cry/scream/freak. And I’ve experienced break-ups, divorce, death— just like everyone else. TSC is just not the spot to share every single bump in my story.
I’m going to take a wild guess & say a lot bloggers are just like me.
There’s things they don’t share & things you don’t see & things you don’t know, so maybe don’t always automatically assume that their lives are perfect.
On that note, maybe some of their lives are perfect…but how fucking boring does that sound? Like, YAWN. I need some shit in life once in a while to appreciate its beauty.
So next time you see a flawless Instagram of perfect pancakes on a gorgeous plate with fresh squeezed OJ, think: damn, those amazing looking pancakes took some effort to make…and maybe they’re cold because the shot took so long to take…and maybe, just maybe there’s a very, very hungry boyfriend ( << HI MICHAEL!!!! ) behind the shot, telling the blogger to “hurry up and take the damn picture” because he’s going to die of hypoglycemia. #nofilter
Because that’s real life for ya.
If a picture says a 1000 words, then real life says 9802748592734859720349857 words.
Ok so, I know a lot of you are bloggers. What’s your stance? What do you think about pulling the curtain off ‘The Wizard of Oz’ to reveal a tiny man who’s created a bigger than life facade? LOL.
Also, I want to take this opportunity to look at YOUR blog. If you’re a blogger, leave your blog’s URL below so I can check ’em all out. Sounds like a fun, lil Sunday Funday reading sesh to me.
+ For another BTS post, check out this post on “The Truth About Blogging.”
Pics: Teresa Fae