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Are You An Introvert Or Extrovert?…OR AMBIVERT?


So much to get into but first I will discuss outfit details because HELLO, HAVING SUCH A HOUNDSTOOTH MOMENT right now.

My love for houndstooth started with an antique store.

When I was dead broke circa 2008 I found this tiny little stool for my room that was covered in houndstooth. It was so charming. I bought the stool for $9.95 & brought it home to my room. On top of it I stacked some of my favorite coffee table books ( you have to get creative when you have no space for a coffee table ). The whole set-up was so special to me. Anyway, ever since I love a pop of houndstooth.

Which is exactly why I IMMEDIATELY purchased these pants from Nordstrom the SECOND I saw them. These houndstooth pants are very much my vibe & give off all the fall feels. To even out the look, I did a black turtleneck. Especially loving this one because it’s not too turtle-y. Meaning it doesn’t go up too high on my neck. It’s Parisian chic, you know?

SHOES. Ok so, Ivanka Trump designed these FABULOUS must-have boots that every girl should own for fall. Really, they’re the perfect bootie. I plan on rocking them with jeans, midi skirts, & lots of trousers. To finish off the look: a crimson lip. This get up is something you can wear over & over ( trust me, I’ve rocked it all at least 3 times thus far ). AND it screams fall.


There’s something romantic about making the switch from summer to fall, clothes-wise. You kind of have to bundle up, bring out the pumpkin spiced candles ( BASIC but SORRY they’re too good ), & dust off the boots. I’m very much about it.

On a completely different note, I recently read a post on Marianna Hewitt’s blog all about how she doesn’t fall into the extrovert OR introvert category.

In fact, she identifies as an AMBIVERT.

Hmmm. After reading the definition, I REALIZED I AM AN AMBIVERT as well.

DEFINITION…Ambivert ( noun ): a person whose personality has a balance of extrovert and introvert features.

To go further, this source states: “An ambivert is rather balanced for the most part, or at least we try to be; we seek social settings and the company of others and do so quite well. We aren’t overly loud and aggressive like the extrovert can be, but we enjoy being outgoing and do so on our own terms. We also enjoy our solitude, but aren’t quite as extreme with it as the introvert. We need both settings rather equally to be fully happy. As I mentioned above, we don’t function too well in either direction for extensive amounts of time. When this happens, we are a mess. Again, we need balance.

With that being said, the ambivert can sometimes be confusing to others; having both traits, we can sway too far in either direction rather easily. Our behaviors are likely to change with the situation, and we can easily become “unbalanced.” We enjoy doing something…until we don’t. These behavior “fluctuations” are a result of our need to find and stay balanced.”


I am also a Gemini.

Sometimes I want to go out, be social, have a few margaritas, & shoot the shit.

Other times? I want to be completely alone, cleaning the house or organizing, listening to music, maybe a podcast, with candles & oils going.

If I don’t get this type of alone time, my mind & body crave it.

I get grumpy.

For me to give off good energy in public, I have to give myself a reset. Kind of like a battery charge.

That reset comes from alone time.

A lot of the time I’ll go out to dinner alone…or even to a movie.

Along with the social / alone time thing, I also like time spent with Michael. But quiet time. I like to read in bed in silence or watch a movie.

So the point: I don’t identify with the extremeness of an extrovert or an introvert.

My body craves both.

It really depends on my mood, the time of the month ( LOL ), or if I’ve had enough sleep.

When you’re aware of what YOU need you’re able to develop a better sense of self. Kind of a mind / body connection. Ultimately, I believe this can make you a better friend, lover, & person. SELF-AWARENESS IS KEY.

I like listening, but I like talking. I don’t mind hanging out with new people, but I love hanging out with my friends. I’m happy out on the town but perfectly content at home. Some people would say I’m loud, others would say I’m quiet. If I don’t get alone time, I become tired.

Is anyone else like this?

What are you? Do you fall into the category of an introvert, ambivert, or extrovert? Thoughts?

I’m off to prep for wedding festivities. I mean, it’s perfectly reasonable for me to be dedicating some time on the weekend to the wedding when we’re a month away – right? HA.

Be sure to stalk this look on Nordstrom. It’s definitely my favorite fall look & JUST SCREAMS PARIS, ESPRESSOS, ROMANCE, & MULLED RED WINE. So good.

Until next time,

x lauryn

SHOP THE POST: pants | turtleneck | boots | lipstick ( color: ‘Media’ ) | sunglasses

+ this post is in collaboration with Nordstrom. As always, all opinions are my own.

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  1. thank you for doing this post! I am SUCH an introvert, but it is not something that I love about myself. I like a night out, but I am most content staying in. Being in college, it seems everyone is always out, so this is something I am still learning to accept about myself (:

    always an inspiration Lauryn, xx

  2. Thank you so much for this post, Lauryn! I’ve always kind of felt I fell into both categories of an introvert vs. extrovert, so this basically describes me perfectly. All about that balance! xoxo – Suz

  3. It’s so easy to tell that Fashionlush played a role in this look! Very moody vibes going on and I am FEELIN it!!!! <3

  4. Love a good crimson or wine lip! I can totally identify with being an ambivert. While others are going out partying on a Saturday night, I much prefer staying inside with my boyfriend, our dog, and a good movie or book. I am perfectly content doing my own thing and oftentimes get overwhelmed in huge group scenes. Once I’m done, I’m done!

  5. Thank you for this post! It was very insightful. I would probably have to say that I’m an ambivert for sure.

  6. This describes me well too! And I am also a Gemini.
    It is funny how we can actually be completey both. My family would say I am a total extrovert, crazy, and a dreamer at the same time, while my friends say I am chatty, flirty but quiet and down-to-earth at the same time- is that even possible? My boyfriend likes the combination of both 🙂 Me too! I like it, because when I was a kid, I was shy and a bookworm; I opened up and got more sociable with the years, and it is a good balance now I think. Did you feel an evolution too with time? (in one way or the other) Also, sometimes it depends of the context…At work, I feel much more introvert than with loved ones – but that has to do with self-confidence- still working on it!! Thanks Lauryn for this post! Have a nice week everyone x

  7. I’m the same exact way. I used to think I was an introvert because I become miserable without alone time, but then I noticed that I crave being around people and socializing as well. I’ve learned that in order to be a good person and treat other people well, I need to recharge with alone time.

  8. I like to think of the introvert/extrovert idea as a spectrum. Really no one is fully extrovert or fully introverted because everyone needs a little of both. We’re all ambiverts so to speak! I used to describe myself as an outgoing introvert because in a social setting most people wouldn’t guess that I often cancel plans for nights home alone. I’m very social and outgoing when I’m out with friends but oh gosh how I crave that alone time and deal with social anxiety from time to time. Great fall look too! (:

  9. YES. I always thought I was an extrovert but ambivert describes me to a freaking T!! I am so glad you made this post….now my oddness makes sense to me! 🙂 I totally am the statement you made about yourself!!

  10. Hmm .. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I think EVERYONE has some of both. I am an introvert through and through, but I do have extrovert traits at time. But I would identify as an introvert because it’s all about how you refuel and recharge. My MIL is an EXTREME extrovert, but even she needs to be home alone after parties. Her ENERGY comes from interacting with others which is where the extrovert identity comes from. Interesting post.. it got me thinking 😉

  11. Probably the best way to figure out how introverted vs extroverted (or ambiverted) you are is to take the Meyers Briggs personality test and see what percentage you skew E or I. If it’s roughly in the middle, then you’re likely an ambivert – I like the sound of that, actually, as sometimes straight up introversion doesn’t seem to suit me 🙂

    A little surprised (slash disappointed) to see you gushing over an Ivanka Trump product. I appreciate that you stay away from discussing politics, but if this is a subtle indictation that you’re a Trump supporter, I’d be really bummed out.

    Lastly, love the photos in this post! They remind me of Fashion Lush 🙂

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