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How To Deal With: Critics, SOURPUSSES, Trolls

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We’ve all experienced them.

Whether it was in high school where they keyed your car ( this happened to me! TRUE STORY ) or a rude social media comment left on a hot Instagram, we’ve seen them.

They’re out there & they’re on the loose. Like you can’t avoid them you know? They seem to be doing their trolling from fake accounts a lot. Sometimes it’s a comment that is so out of line it’s truly unbelievable. AND SOMETIMES, sometimes it’s even to your face in real life. I mean who hasn’t worked with an asshole- we’ve all been there.


Usually I give no energy to trolls because I feel like it’s wasting my “battery” of daily energy, but the other day I stumbled upon this quote & it very much resonated with me. So much so that I felt the need to share it with you.

You, who I am sure is out there, living life with someone who’s trolling you.

I should preface this post by saying that not all trolls are created equal. In fact, sometimes criticism is a good thing. There have been many times in which I have received constructive criticism & liked it. So much so that I called myself out & agreed with the person. This is not a troll. A troll is more like someone who is just criticizing to criticize.

We also need to discuss this tidbit: I believe if I am not being critiqued in some capacity I am not doing it right. It comes with the territory of putting yourself out there on a daily basis. It’s uncomfortable & scary & YES there will be critics but that’s part of life…& business. So whenever I have trolls, I sort of pat myself on the back. Because it’s like: GOOD. Good that I am putting myself out there to the point of criticism. Whenever I do anything new or interesting ( like the creator of Amazon, Jeff Bezos says ) I expect criticizers.

For instance, this weekend we flew to Reno to go to The Bunny Ranch to interview legal sex worker, Alice Little ( who by the way is incredibly well spoken, smart, witty, cool, & very well read ). Anyway, we set up in the Brothel & knew, I just knew, that there would be people who would have something negative to say. And that’s ok. I am going to continue to do me & evolve the platform- the brand isn’t going to be for everyone. I’m good with that.

So the moral of that story: if you’re doing something different, you should expect it too. It’s part of the game, you know.

Now that we got that out of the way, let’s do a little breakdown of how to deal with someone who’s being a critical asshole for no reason.



Unless it’s constructive or the answer you’re responding with is constructive: don’t respond to them & they’ll go away to troll someone else. How do I know? I have done it 23048029 times. Even a simple defensive comment will get them worked up, you know. They want you to ENGAGE- so do the opposite. Also: after a while this becomes second nature. I have heard it all & now it’s like “OK JUST ANOTHER DAY.”

♡ You can’t take it personally.

Honestly !!! It’s not about you- it’s about them. Most likely they feel bad about themselves & they’re deflecting it on to you. Lately I have actually had empathy for poor trolls- it’s sad to be behind a computer spewing hate every day. I can’t even imagine taking one second of positive energy & wasting it on someone who I don’t know on the Internet. OR even wasting it to someone’s face. I want to uplift people always. Anyway- don’t take shit personally. It’s not you, it’s them.


Give your energy towards building your business, your family, friends, significant other, cooking, fitness, health, home decor- whatever! Just don’t give those trolls your energy. As I always say we have a thermometer of energy every day; be cognitive on where you use that energy. I am strategic about how I use my energy. Very aware if you will.

♡ Listen up.

Here’s a thought: if the critisim is valid- listen. For instance, one time I snapped a podcast while I was driving & a sweet reader reached out & said I should not be snapping & driving. And she was right. I shouldn’t be fucking snapping & driving. So I acknowledged it & never did it again. If it’s valid all you can do is listen & learn. No one is perfect. So if you’re getting defensive, check yourself. Sometimes accountability is needed. I am respectful always too. I feel like being kind & respectful but also being straight to the point is the way to go.

♡ Keep on keepin’ on.

YOU SHOULD KNOW: NAYSAYERS represent just one person’s point of view. ALWAYS know your strengths while not allowing other people’s opinions to cloud your vision.

Do not let 1 troll dictate your day- know you have 230948 other people who are supportive. Focus on that.

“Where focus goes, energy flows.”

♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡

So the point is with internet trolls: whenever I read any negative, rude, cruel comments, I started to reflect. In life everyone has an opinion about what you should do in your relationship or how you should wear your hair or why you should stick it out in a job that’s not for you or, in general, just has negative things to say about your life. I take a step back, know it has nothing to do with me, & continue doing cool shit.

I’m not going to let people’s negative opinions stop me. In fact, I’ll let them fuel me. GIVE ME ENERGY, INSTEAD OF DEPLETE MY ENERGY- you know?

I’m going to be myself & frankly if people don’t like it, it’s their issue. I am going to go ahead and practice the subtle art of not giving a fuck here.

Regardless, I hope this post will inspire you to NEVER STOP doing your thing because of someone else’s opinion. Keep doing what you’re doing even if people don’t like it. Don’t let ANYONE’S negativity dictate your life & journey.

Like my sister always says: WHAT YOU THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

Thoughts? Would love to hear. 

Hope you’re all doing you on your own terms & not letting outside noise get to you. Continue to be fresh, new, distruptive, & interesting…because like, it’s working out pretty well for Jeff Bezos.

+ speaking of Amazon, shop TSC Store– so many good finds!


  1. Love this post! Whenever you’re not mainstream you get trolled…but I always continued to stay true to myself.
    DON’T FEED THE TROLLS – is news to me, but I love this tip so much!

    And don’t take anything personally is just key to live a happy life. (4 Agreements)

  2. I totally agree with your sister’s quote. I just read a book called “The Courage to be Disliked” and it basically says it’s not your task to make sure everyone likes you, it’s on them

  3. Lauryn I just wanna say I love your blog…you are amazing and you inspire me daily xx

  4. OK, love TSC, and I appreciate this whole post, but Jeff Bezos is a monster.

    He has more money than he could ever spend in his lifetime, yet he allows Amazon warehouse workers to work in horrible conditions. It was cheaper to have ambulances waiting outside of warehouses than it was to provide air conditioning so they wouldn’t collapse from heat exhaustion. When pressured to pay 15/hr, hundreds were fired or deprived of their benefits to meet that wage and maximize profit. People avoid taking bathroom breaks too because they’re under such stress to meet their quotas.

    A lot of these workers can’t afford good health insurance. And Bezos allows it. His fortune could cover all of these things, but instead, he lets these people work in his sweatshops. Amazon paid $0 in taxes. They got a tax break. They can afford it. These aren’t new or interesting things. They aren’t even good business. These actions warrant legitimate criticisms because he is a monster.

    Like I said, I love TSC, and I understand about trolls and haters, but Bezos is not the one to look to, so I offer a quote from non-icky person and comedian Steve Martin: “Be so good they can’t ignore you.” Or here’s one from Helen Keller: “I do not mean to object to a thorough knowledge of the famous works we read. I object only to the interminable comments and bewildering criticisms that teach but one thing: there are as many opinions as there are men.“

    Love you, Lauryn, and thanks for all the quality posts.

  5. This is such great advice! It is so important to not let negativity get to us. Thanks for sharing!!


  6. Bravo, Lauryn! Three thousand cheers for not giving the bad stuff energy. Eyes forward and keep marching on! Thank you!! <3

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