HOW TO BE A RELENTLESS BADASS

by
LAURYN

how to be relentless

There’s a book I keep going back to time & time again.

I’m here to give you the Sparknotes of it because…well, I want to give myself the Sparknotes.

That’s right, sometimes I do blog posts that I can go back to & reference.

This is one of those posts.

Before we get into it: HI HOW ARE YOU?

Last week was one of the most nuts weeks ever- it was literally non-stop from the second I woke up to the second I went to bed. Fun & rewarding but VERY MUCH exhausting. Yesterday ( Sunday ) I crashed. My body physically gave out- so I ended up in bed, watching TV, reading, eating day old pizza. You know, what you do when you’re lying around like a slob. I needed to re-shift my energy & re-shift it QUICK for Monday.

And magically: I woke up feeling relentless.

( Well not magically, actually practice- but we will get into that, k? )

Like I said, relentless is a word ( & book ) I keep going back to. There’s something about the word that lights my fire…every single Monday. I use it when I’m feeling tired. I use it when I don’t want to go to the gym. I use it when I don’t want to write a blog post. I use it when social media feels draining.

I use it a lot.

To explain why, I need to explain the back story.

Tim S. Grover wrote a book called…shit, you guessed it: RELENTLESS: From Good to Great to Unstoppable

LET ME GIVE YOU SOME QUOTES OUT OF THE BOOK SO YOU GET THE FULL PICTURE:

“Being relentless means demanding more of yourself than anyone else could ever demand of you, knowing that every time you stop, you can still do more. You must do more.”

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“Do. The. Work. Every day, you have to do something you don’t want to do. Every day. Challenge yourself to be uncomfortable, push past the apathy and laziness and fear. Otherwise, the next day you’re going to have two things you don’t want to do, then three and four and five, and pretty soon, you can’t even get back to the first thing. And then all you can do is beat yourself up for the mess you’ve created, and now you’ve got a mental barrier to go along with the physical barriers.”

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“Anyone can start something; very few people can finish.”

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“Don’t tell me the glass is half-full or half-empty; you either have something in that glass or you don’t.”

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“People who start at the top never understand what they missed at the bottom. The guy who started by sorting the mail, or cleaning the restaurant late at night, or fixing the equipment at the gym, that’s the guy who knows how things get done. After he’s eventually worked his way up through the ranks, he knows how everything works, why it works, what to do when it stops working. That’s the guy who will have longevity and value and impact, because he knows what it took to get to the top. You can’t claim you ran a marathon if you started at the seventeenth mile.”

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“Make a plan that truly reflects your goals and interests, and you’ll be more likely to execute. Why pretend you’re going to work out every single day when you know you’re only going to do it three times a week?”

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“Decide. Commit. Act. Succeed. Repeat.”

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– ALL QUOTES BY TIM S. GROVER of Relentless

FIRST THINGS FIRST, ask yourself: are you relentless?

If you are, this post isn’t for you.

…& if you aren’t, good news! You can try yourself too, to be relentless.

To not accept no. To keep pushing forward. To practice discipline. To rinse & repeat EVERYDAY towards your goals NO MATTER what the obstacle.

Personally I deal with a fire every single day. I can’t tell you how many times content has been put out that’s not ready, someone forgets to do something very important, something is late, things don’t go my way, etc. The point is how you handle it though really. Instead of getting depressed, I decide I’m going to allocate my energy towards fixing the problem.

I’ve been told no 29387432948732048 times more than I’ve been told YES.

I’ve been laughed at.

In fact, I’ve been on the phone when people tore me to shreds.

I’m not saying any of this for sympathy.

I’m saying it because I’ve had many openings to sit around & feel bad about myself.

Instead I’ve made the decision to be relentless.

Obviously I’m not perfect & have so much more to learn but I DO FEEL LIKE THIS BOOK has sparked something that no one else has sparked in me. The spark has come from realizing no one else is going to light a fire under my ass.

Someone was interviewing me the other day & asked: what I do when I feel un-inspired.

I mean I feel un-inspired 80% of the time soooooo….I told them what I do. I said, “I tell myself to get the fuck up & over it. Self-discipline , motivate myself, whatever it takes to pull up my boot straps & move forward.”

I feel like that comes from a lot of practice. Whether it is reading or coaching or mentors or creating a strategic future by design, planning & practice makes perfect.

If you’re feeling un-inspired, I highly recommend checking out this book. I’m dying for Tim to come on TSC PODCAST so feel FREE to Tweet him. He would be one of the most amazing guests EVER.

At the end of the day if you’re giving any energy to negativity, that energy could be used in a positive way. Check your energy- I evaluate mine on a regular basis. I’m CONSTANTLY checking where I put my energy.

( I feel like this is one of those books you should read and if you can’t read it- listen to it on audio ). 

Are you relentless? If not, what’s stopping you from becoming the best version of yourself? Would love to hear from you.

Happy Monday! Now wake up & kick Tuesday’s ass.

OH AND I’ll leave you with a Tim quote: “You make decisions, not suggestions; you know the answer while everyone else is still asking questions.”

That my friends, is being RELENTLESS.

Chat tomorrow, lauryn x

+ more posts like this: coyotes howl but the caravan keeps moving | how to be a badass BOSS.

++ be sure to listen to the latest podcast with Ashley Tisdale ( she’s a BADASS example of someone who’s been relentless ). 

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  1. AvatarPaige @ Paige Schmidt

    Going to come back to this post when I need a kick in the booty 😉 I looooooved this part: ““PEOPLE WHO START AT THE TOP NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY MISSED AT THE BOTTOM. THE GUY WHO STARTED BY SORTING THE MAIL, OR CLEANING THE RESTAURANT LATE AT NIGHT, OR FIXING THE EQUIPMENT AT THE GYM, THAT’S THE GUY WHO KNOWS HOW THINGS GET DONE. AFTER HE’S EVENTUALLY WORKED HIS WAY UP THROUGH THE RANKS, HE KNOWS HOW EVERYTHING WORKS, WHY IT WORKS, WHAT TO DO WHEN IT STOPS WORKING. THAT’S THE GUY WHO WILL HAVE LONGEVITY AND VALUE AND IMPACT, BECAUSE HE KNOWS WHAT IT TOOK TO GET TO THE TOP. YOU CAN’T CLAIM YOU RAN A MARATHON IF YOU STARTED AT THE SEVENTEENTH MILE.”

    It makes me excited to go through the hoops it takes to improve, and to learn so much along the way! ? xo

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  2. AvatarEmily Farina

    I am always looking for motivation and inspiration and this post came at a good time (currently 6am, woke up early before my full-time job to work on my blog). Thanks for always providing such great tips on the productivity front, I have picked up a few books you recommended and have “Relentless” on my list as well!

    https://www.fizzandfade.com/

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  3. AvatarCelina

    I have to say this was awesome motivation. I’m a first year teacher and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done by far. I need to become relentless.

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  4. AvatarBea

    Thank you , thank you so much for this morning’s kick in the ass! This is why your blog is always in my morning reads. x

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  5. AvatarAlison

    Wow – I needed to read this today. The first quote really stuck with me:

    “BEING RELENTLESS MEANS DEMANDING MORE OF YOURSELF THAN ANYONE ELSE COULD EVER DEMAND OF YOU, KNOWING THAT EVERY TIME YOU STOP, YOU CAN STILL DO MORE. YOU MUST DO MORE.”

    I stick quotes to my mirror to motivate me in the morning, best thing to wake up to! I switch them out every week or two – so this one is definitely going up next. I’ve been thinking about blogging for over a year, and two months ago decided to just jump in, go for it, and have some fun!

    Thanks for the motivation today Lauryn.

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  6. AvatarLarissa Novello Colvara

    I’ve already tweeted him, I desperately need him on the podcast (which, by the way, are getting unbelievably better each week)!!!!
    Even though I tweeted him saying that his book is the next one on my reading list, I realized that I did read his book in the beginning in the year, and since this has been a LONG year (like, l-o-n-g) I decided to read it again NOW.
    Anyways, thank you for your post Lauryn, thank you for putting out so much useful and positive and powerful and and and and and and everything!!! Most of the books I’ve been reading were because you and Michael recommend it to me and you are one of the reasons why I remembered my love for books.
    Keep on shinning!!!!
    All my best wishes,
    Larissa.

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  7. AvatarJacqueline

    Lauryn – the universe put this in front of me on a day that I am having to make some tough decisions about my business. This came at the perfect time for me. You rock and I am downloading my copy now! BE RELENTLESS!

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  8. AvatarMoira Niesman

    Had a horrible day, not getting something I’ve been working towards, so this came at the right time. No pity, only motivation. Thank you Lauryn, needed this today!

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  9. AvatarDominique Bagnoche

    Literally bookmarking this post because DAMN. These quotes are so on point especially for a college girl working on self-motivation and discipline, aka me 🙂

    Always love your post’s Lauryn! Thank you
    <3

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  10. AvatarEbony

    the quotes are so motivating. Def bookmarking this post <3 Thank you so much for sharing xx
    ebonyknowles.com

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  11. AvatarMira Edorra

    Great post! Good thinking, At the end of the day if you’re giving any energy to negativity, that energy could be used in a positive way. Check your energy- I evaluate mine on a regular basis. I’m CONSTANTLY checking where I put my energy.

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  12. AvatarLucy Clarke

    Great book! “DO. THE. WORK. EVERY DAY, YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING YOU DON’T WANT TO DO. EVERY DAY. CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE, PUSH PAST THE APATHY AND LAZINESS AND FEAR. OTHERWISE, THE NEXT DAY YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TWO THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO DO, THEN THREE AND FOUR AND FIVE, AND PRETTY SOON, YOU CAN’T EVEN GET BACK TO THE FIRST THING. AND THEN ALL YOU CAN DO IS BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR THE MESS YOU’VE CREATED, AND NOW YOU’VE GOT A MENTAL BARRIER TO GO ALONG WITH THE PHYSICAL BARRIERS.” Now that part? Such a powerful reminder to just do it and not let laziness kick in.

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