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IT’S COOL TO BE KIND…& Some Words on Amanda Bynes

June 17, 2017
by
LAURYN

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Uhhhh…UHHHHH!! What is wrong with the Internet sometimes?

That’s right, sometimes it’s so hard for me to keep my BIG ( big ), fat mouth shut. But you know that.

Here’s the situation: the other day I was aimlessly scrolling through Facebook & stumbled upon a post on Amanda Bynes.

( You know Amanda Bynes. She was most likely on your television screen circa 1999 starring boldly in The Amanda Show. Or maybe you recognize the name from She’s The Man or What a Girl Wants– kind of cult classics in the MID-ISH 2000’s. Or you may remember how she sort of went on a Twitter rampage after quitting acting ( ex. “I want @drake to murder my vagina.” – I thought she was being witty & I liked it. Seriously- I mean I feel like a lot of girls would like Drake to murder their VJ so it’s not too far off ).

Quick refresher: Amanda was arrested twice & went through a lot in front of the media. Stuff that no one should have to go through in front of millions of people. She struggled, like all of us do at one point or another, in a very public way. Many speculated she was using drugs. She ended up going to a treatment center that specialized in mental health. Obviously we will never know the entire story because it’s her story…As it should be ).

Where was I? Ahhh, why the Internet can be MEAN FOR NO REASON.

So I’m scrolling.

You know the type of scroll. The kind where it gets BLEEK. Like you’re in bed stuffing your face with coconut macaroons ( try them, they’re REALLY better than sex ) with a handful of dairy-free dark chocolate chip morsels while half ( ok maybe 1/3 ) paying attention to Billions as you scroll through social media going way deeper than ever anticipated. Just me? Hmm.

::scrollity, scroll, scroll, stop, scroll more, eat macaroon, SCROLL::

My freshly coffin-shaped, matte grey nail stopped on this: Amanda Bynes SPEAKS OUT for the First Time in 4 Years! – FULL STORY HERE.

Ok, so this has my attention.

It has my attention because addiction has been a theme in my family & I am curious to see how Amanda is doing. The spotlight has been off her for a while. For the past few years she’s gone from show pony to MIA. I’m curious. I’m clicking. I’m hopeful.

So click, click, click thru the ads to land on a video of Amanda speaking her truth & sharing how she’s getting her life on track by attending school & planning for her future. In the video Amanda looks pretty, put together, & appears to be sincerely working hard. Very promising. To be honest it seems like she’s really trying to improve herself.

I smile to myself. I am happy because I like people who are always trying. I am trying, everyday to be better. So many of us are trying to be best versions of ourselves day after day. We are all a work in progress.

Also I had compassion for Amanda- she is putting herself out there to the media who once tore her to shreds. Whether she suffered from drug addiction or mental illness or both, the media was UNKIND. Really, THEY WERE SO MEAN.

Besides, think about it: it takes strength & confidence to put yourself out there to the same media who was once so vile. She showed up.

The reason the Internet disappointed me, however?

Well after the video I clicked back to the FB post. Even though I’m not super active on random Facebook posts, I wanted to write an encouraging comment, you know, cheering her on.

So, I go to the comment section…and I read through the comments.

There were about 153 comments, give or take.

And GUYS, they were all MEAN, DISGUSTING, HORRIFIC comments.

Some were bringing up her past, others bashing the way she looked, & most of them, making fun of her interview. Curse words. Calling her names. HATEFULNESS. Just the works.

I honestly couldn’t believe it?

Because here is someone who’s trying.

She is putting the work in to get better & people are kicking her. What is the point of kicking her or anyone who’s trying to better themselves? Who even knows what she’s been through. I’m sure she’s nervous putting herself out there in the first place- ESPECIALLY after the vicious media went after her.

In my experience, I’ve learned that for anyone who’s going to treatment for addiction: compassion is key.

To go even further, my girlfriend, who happens to be plus-size, told me someone was making fun of her for working out.

WAIT WHAT??

WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU MAKE FUN OF SOMEONE WHO’S TRYING TO BETTER THEMSELVES?

It boggles my fucking mind.

But day after day, it happens online. Not only online but behind people’s backs or even to their faces.

I guess my point here is that I choose to lead with compassion & kindness. And if I can use this platform to point something out to help others see things from someone else’s perspective, then YES YES YES!!

Next time anyone sees an article online & wants to write a negative comment, let’s all stop & think about it. Because really, we never know how the words behind a computer screen can affect someone who’s trying to better themselves. Maybe they’re reading? And even if they’re not reading kindness is contagious. I mean I GUARANTEE if that thread of comments had started out up-lifting, the whole 153 comment thread would have gone in a very different direction.

I know I always want to be the person who stands out of the crowd & sets the tone with kindness ( I feel like so many of YOU are the same way ).

Obviously I’m not perfect, but I’m trying…just like Amanda ( YOU DO YOU, GIRL ).

Thoughts?

Ok, I have an early morning tomorrow! Over & out!

Love you guys- lauryn

The Skinny Confidential YEAR IN REVIEW: 2016

March 12, 2017
by
LAURYN

year in review 2016 | by the skinny confidential What a whirlwind this year has been.

If I could sum up 2016 in one word: it would be EXTREME. There were extreme highs, extreme lows, extreme schedules, & extreme goals. I really felt the the pressure, in a good way, in 2016.

2016 has been good to The Skinny Confidential.

BECAUSE OF YOU.

This community has grown & that makes me proud to work every day towards the bigger picture. I really can’t thank you guys enough for being a part of it all. As always, your support means everything.

That being said, here are some of the major themes & most memorable moments from 2016. Shall we?

First off: The Skinny Confidential cell phone cases !! I never leave home without one ( currently wearing THE FUN BAGS in bubblegum pink ). Do you guys like? Launching this project was a 2016 FAV!

With that here’s some other 2016 highlights:

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We got very REAL this year.

One of my favorite things about this community is how you guys LOVE controversial topics. I know sometimes it can get intense, but that’s what keeps things interesting right?

Some of my favorites:

+ Boob Job Realness

+ Time Blocking

+ Botox

+ Networking

+ Jealousy

More HERE.

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Michael & I started podcasting together in 2016!

It’s been a wild ride & a major learning experience. Podcasting was a totally new medium & we certainly had some bumps in the road, but overall both Michael & I LOVE podcasting.

Some of our favorite episodes:

+ Mr. Piss Pants

+ Daddy’s In The House

+ Excuses Are Like Assholes

+ Our Relationship History

+ Wrinkled Not Dead

+ Influencer Law

In 2017 we’ll continue to bring you guys weekly episodes for free. You can subscribe to TSC HIM & HER PODCAST HERE.

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In 2016 I decided to try everything & anything related to wellness & took you guys along to see the benefits.

Through TSC Bombshell Body Guide, I was able to share healthy recipes, workouts, & even the 7 DAY MEAL PLAN.

On the blog there was a lot of alternative medicine & new wellness trends. SNAPCHAT has been fun too because it’s like a live reality show.

Wellness was a major theme this year, and that will continue in 2017. Any new wellness trends you want to try?

Would love to add to my list! Here’s what we got into this year:

+ Cupping

+ Acupuncture

+ Yoga

+ Cryotherapy

+ Shredding For The Wedding Meal Plan

More wellness posts HERE.

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In 2016 Michael & I were definitely on the go, to say the least. Like I said Snapchat has become my platform of choice, because I can take you guys along. In 2017 you can expect more travel…& more making fun of Michael on Snap ( LOL ).

One of my favorite 2016 memories was traveling to New York City to be a guest on THE ASK GARY VEE SHOW. He’s someone I look up to so much. Honestly though to be a guest influencer on his show was SUCH AN HOUR. WATCH the show here.

Some of our favorite journeys:

+ Provence

+ Saint Tropez

+ Cabo

+ Florence

+ Venice

+ Miami

More Travel HERE.

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In 2016 Michael started voicing his opinions on The Skinny Confidential.

He covered everything from books, to business, to relationship advice.

Here are my picks:

+ Mental Toughness

+ College: Is It Necessary?

+ Thank You For Making Excuses

+ Failure

More from Michael HERE.

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One of the biggest highs of 2016 was FINALLY getting married ! FINALLY.

Thank you for all of your tips, advice, help, & support along the way.

+ Invitation Process

+ Bachelorette Party

+ Wedding Shower

+ Welcome Party

+ Rehearsal Dinner

Still a few more wedding posts to go, I promise they will be up in January 2017 so stay tuned.

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Lastly one of the hardest things about 2016 was losing my best friend & grandma, The Nanz.

I miss her every day.

Thank you to each and every one of you for being so kind to her. She loved sharing her advice & personality with all of you.

2016 was her last year here and you guys really helped make it a great year for her. I will continue to share posts in 2017 of her advice & recipes.

Below are some of the special moments with The Nanz.

+ The Nanz on TSC HIM & HER PODCAST

+ Tribute To The Nanz

+ Relationship Realness

+ Get Acquainted With The Nanz

+ Insider Flower Tips

+ Nanz Egg Salad

SO 2016 was a wild ride. Now it’s time to look forward. Have any New Year plans or resolutions? What are your NYE plans? Send us a SNAP! Michael & I will be taking it easy on NYE.

BTW: in 2017 there are a few new exciting things happening! TSC Bombshell Body Guide is launching something NEW. I don’t want to give it away yet, but here’s a hint: IT WILL HELP FIGHT BLOAT BIG TIME.

Also, something with product ; )…

I hope you’re ready to kick ass in the New Year & make it WHATEVER you want it to be.

Happy New Year! CHEERS. Live it up,

lauryn x

Shop My 2016 Favorites:

HUGE ASS GIFT GUIDE FOR EVERY PERSON IN YOUR LIFE | by the skinny confidential

HUGE ASS GIFT GUIDE: PART 1

December 16, 2016
by
LAURYN

HUGE ASS GIFT GUIDE FOR EVERY PERSON IN YOUR LIFE | by the skinny confidential

Usually I am a MAJOR procrastinator.

It’s a problem…

NOT THIS YEAR THOUGH. I’m shopping EARLY. Getting it done, turning a new leaf, making changes. Pretty excited about the stress I’m hopefully saving myself. Right?

This year, I’m shopping for every single person in my life BEFORE the rush shipping prices kick into gear. Great news for saving money too!

That being said, I figured I’d share A HUGE ASS GIFT GUIDE for every kind of person in your life. So buckle up, it’s about to get SERIOUS.

Since this holiday gift guide is going to be HUGE, we’re truly covering it all, I decided to break it up into two parts. PART 1, we’re covering the friend that likes to drink, the BOMBSHELL BODY BABE, the workaholicthe kids, & the bougie babe. Fun right? Be sure to follow these boards on Pinterest for even MORE gift ideas!

Part TWO will feature the friend that likes to cook, pets, the beauty guru, & the jet setter. Stay tune for a gift guide by Michael as well!

OKAY so let’s get right into it, shall we?

HUGE ASS GIFT GUIDE FOR EVERY TYPE OF PERSON IN YOUR LIFE

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PINEAPPLE SHAKER:

One of my friends recently bought this for me! It gets A TON of use. It currently lives on my bar cart at home, but it was a life saver at my bachelorette party too. SO CUTE! Your friend that likes to drink will love it, I promise.

BOTTLE OPENER & CORK SCREW:

This bottle opener & cork screw make great bar cart decor, & they will obviously get a lot of use. A friend that likes to drink is always in need of a good bottle opener & cork screw, trust me!

GOLD RIMMED MARTINI GLASSES:

The friend that likes to drink needs gifts that are both cute, & functional. So martini glasses are always a good choice. They can drink & look cute while doing it!

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BOMBSHELL BODY GUIDE MEMBERSHIP:

Get the Bombshell Body Guide Membership for any of your friends. Use code ‘SANTABABY’ at checkout to earn ONE MONTH of free membership! Via the membership, you get access to TONS of healthy, easy, SKINNY recipes, targeted workouts, supplements info, & so much more!

EDGY SPORTS BRA:

The friend that likes to work out is ALWAYS in need of new workout clothes. Plus, women pretty much live in yoga pants these days. You really can’t go wrong with a good sports bra, pair of yoga pants, or a cute workout top.

ROSE FITBIT:

I personally LOVE tracking my steps & calories burned in a day. Plus, this rose colored Fitbit is just SO CHIC. Your bombshell body babe friend will love it!

YOGA MAT:

The bombshell body babe probably loves yoga too, so you can’t really go wrong with a good yoga mat or any yoga / workout essentials.

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A PRETTY CALENDAR:

Calendars are LIFE changing for the workaholic GIRL BOSS. It will help her stay organized, on time, & on track. Plus, this one is so pretty that it will look great on her desk / wall too!

FUN TRAVEL CHARGER:

The workaholic’s phone is ALWAYS DYING. It’s just a fact. Grab a super cute travel charger for her so she can always stay connected.

CHEEKY STICKY NOTES:

Sticky notes are great for office life. I also use them to mark pages in books or magazines that inspire me. You can use them for notes, to-do lists, anything really. These will get A TON of use by the GIRL BOSS!

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FLANNEL:

You just can’t go wrong with a traditional red flannel for a kid’s gift. It’s a staple item that any parent will appreciate. Honestly, anything from REVOLVE kids will make a great gift. LOVE all of their stuff!

RAD BOOTS:

If you’re buying shoes for a kid in your life, opt for something UNIQUE. Their parents probably bought them all the staples already, so buy something DIFFERENT & special.

CHILDHOOD THROWBACK BOOKS:

Who else remembers THE HUNGRY HUNGRY CATERPILLAR? Such a classic!! This was one of my absolute favorite books growing up; every kid should experience this story.

THE CUTEST BOMBER:

Again, buy something unique for the kids in your life for the holidays. This bomber is JUST TOO COOL. It’s the kind of piece that makes me wish I had my own kid to dress in it! OBSESSED.

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COFFEE TABLE BOOK:

A good coffee table book is a classic holiday gift for the bougie babe. Just make sure the colors fit the aesthetic of her home, or more importantly her Instagram! HA!

LIPS MUG:

I own this mug & absolutely LOVE IT. It makes for great decor, instagram / blog post photos, plus it’s actually a good mug for drinking coffee or tea in style.

CHIC SUNGLASSES:

I die for these glasses. Lets be honest, nothing is more bougie than pearl white glasses. I just couldn’t resist, had to pick these up for myself. You have to buy a few things for yourself during the holidays… right?

Okay so that’s PART 1 of this HUGE ASS GIFT GUIDE for every kind of person in your life.

Stay tuned for PART 2. Any requests for the type of people you’re shopping for? Leave a comment below and I’ll work it into PART 2.

Happy hunting & happy holidays!

lauryn,x

+ Looking for even more gift ideas? Follow my Pinterest boards for: the friend that likes to drink, , the girl bossthe bougie babethe kids, & the bombshell babe!

The Absolute Best Online Black Friday Deals | by the skinny confidential

The Absolute Best Online Black Friday Deals

November 28, 2016
by
LAURYN

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Can we PLEASE be real about Black Friday??

I know you guys will get me on this… Black Friday kind of creeps me out. Every year there are videos of people standing in lines all night long to gain access to the savings. Is it just me or is that CRAZY??

We live in the ONLINE SHOPPING AGE. Am I right? You can get all the same deals from the comfort of your own home, while eating Thanksgiving leftovers, & watching Netflix. I mean, what would you rather do?

I personally will be hanging out eating Michael’s grandmother’s left over noodles ( they’re the best! ), snuggling Pixy & Boone, & taking advantage of the absolute best online Black Friday deals.

Okay so for those of you that are doing your shopping in COMFORT today. Here is the ULTIMATE Black Friday sales list. This is where I’ll be shopping today:

The Absolute Best Online Black Friday Deals:

AMAZON: the deals vary. Up to 80% off!!

Revolve: 50% off these items!

ASOS: 30% off site wide with code THANKFUL30

Missguided: 50% off SITE WIDE!!

Reformation: 30% off

Free People: 50% off!

Nordstrom: an extra 20% off!

Forever 21: extra 50% off sale items

These are the sites I’ll be stalking all weekend.

Where are you shopping for the absolute best online Black Friday deals? Would love to know!

Hope you all had a boozy Thanksgiving!

lauryn,x

More Badass Black Friday Deals:

Fitness Expert, Terry Asher Talks Weight-Lifting For Women

November 12, 2016
by
LAURYN
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You know I love to mix it up.

So today we’re doing JUST that.

One of my good friends from high school is going to really INSPIRE YOU. He’s constantly inspiring me with his dedication to a healthy lifestyle, crazy work ethic, & knowledge about the fitness industry…plus all the girls always have crushes on him.

So because of those qualities, I had to ( DUH ) do an interview swap.

That’s right, I’m featured on his blog, GymJunkies, & he’s on mine. Flirty, right.

Terry is SUPER KNOWLEDGEABLE. I also love hearing from top trainers about tips for women. Seriously, though, it’s cool to hear from fellow ladies what women should do to stay tight BUT it’s also cool to hear from male trainers. A different perspective never hurt a flea.

Anyway, we’ve discussed heavy lifting a bit before but I wanted to go deeper with another badass guy. & Terry Asher is the man for the job. Happy reading:

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| Introduce yourself: |

Hey! I’m Terry from gymjunkies.com! I currently live in Del Mar, California and started GymJunkies to help inspire others to work out & be healthy.

| How did you get into training? |

I was always kind of a runt growing up, so when I was a freshman in high school, I figured I would give weight lifting a shot and try to put on some muscle mass. Then it really became an addiction for me, I felt better, I could focus better, and I eventually started to get in better shape.

| Most important thing when you’re training someone? |

It’s been a minute since I’ve trained someone one-on-one but I think the most important thing is to remember that everyone is different. For instance, if you have a desk job you most likely exhibit rolled over shoulders, and or a craning neck. So there are certain things you can blend into your workout program to combat your client’s posture issues or muscle imbalances.

So it’s important to program people’s workouts and tailor it to them specifically because at the end of the day, one mold does not fit all.

| You’re ALWAYS so motivated, like what the fuck – how do you stay constantly motivated? |

It’s really an addiction for me at this point and I have to get my fix every day.

I feel like people often overlook the physiological effects of working out. It does a lot of great things including releasing dopamine ( happy hormone ), reducing your stress, improving your sleep, & squelching anxiety.

Not to mention now it’s a branding thing for me; in fact, someone called me out on Snapchat the other day and said, “hey I didn’t see a gym post today.” I thought to myself, damn who is motivating whom now?

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| If someone wants to lose fat, what do you recommend? |

First, don’t fall victim to fad diets. I see too many people get into something just to fall out two weeks later. Second, remember there are three components to fat loss: your diet, cardio, and weight lifting.

You can probably take a guess which is my favorite of the three and seems to be the least favorite of most women: weight lifting. It’s important to remember that while cardio does have its place in burning fat ( HITT cardio specifically ), weight lifting will assist your body in becoming a fat burning furnace.

What do I mean? Weight lifting helps your body burn fat after your actual workout by increasing your metabolism ( resting metabolic rate ). So after a solid resistance workout, your body is still burning fat! Even when you’re watching your favorite show on Netflix.

| What do you recommend for women between the ages of 18 to 40 for fat loss when it comes to diet? |

When it comes to diet especially, don’t skip breakfast, eat more often and consume calorie ( and nutrient ) dense foods. If you like sweets, try replacing it with a chocolate whey protein drink to curb your sweet tooth.

At the end of the day, remember it comes down to a simple rule: you will need a calorie deficit. So you need to find your caloric intake and minus 500 calories from there. And guess what? If you follow this rule 6 out of 7 days a week, you can have a nice cheat day and still lose weight!

| What do you recommend for women between the ages of 18 to 40 for fat loss when it comes to exercise? |

I would recommend researching HIIT cardio if your athletic level permits, & like I previously mentioned, ladies: pick up some weights!

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| Best snack? Why? |

There are tons! If I were to pick one pre-workout out food I would choose cottage cheese with mixed berries, as it’s high in natural casein protein. This snack will give your muscles protein over a long workout, give you a dose of antioxidants, & reduce muscle inflammation!

| I’m busy, really busy. So how can I stay healthy when I’m running around like a psycho? |

Aren’t we all? If you’re extremely pressed for time during the day then aim for high-efficiency workouts.

You’d be surprised how much you can accomplish in 25 minutes. For example, if you normally do 8-12 reps of an exercise, try switching it up and adding in drop sets ( dropping to a lighter weight when you fatigue ) & supersets ( jumping straight to a different exercise ). By incorporating these two variables, you can increase the intensity/volume of your workout substantially.

| COCKTAILS: tips? Tricks? Thoughts on wine? |

I’m more of a whiskey drinker if I do decide to drink, and guess what…?

Whiskey contains more antioxidants than red wine! It also contains Ellagic acid, a plant compound that acts as a free radical combatant, and for you ladies, if applied topically, could prevent skin damage & wrinkles. Not to mention it can aid in stress reduction, combat cancer, improve circulation, & helps digestion.

One glass every few days wouldn’t hurt. As long as you are consuming in moderation, the health benefits should outweigh any negative aspects!

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| How has fitness evolved to where it is now? |

I think people are becoming more aware of fitness in general, which is obviously a great thing. Information is more readily available and there are tons of apps, sites, and other tools you can track your progress with.

I think the future of fitness is promising, as people will be more integrated with apps, sites, tools, and trackers. No excuses!

+ Follow Terry on Instagram or Snapchat ( @terryasher ) for more fitness tips.

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