We’re back for part 2 of my alligator pastel themed baby shower. If you missed part 1, be sure to scope it here so this all makes more sense. To give a quick refresh:
Patricia from Southern Charm threw an alligator themed party on the show & I just thought it was so unique so I had to copy her on the idea. We met Patricia to record a podcast not too long ago & she was kind enough to send us some of the alligators for the party.
Anyway, we kept the theme masculine with the alligators, but added in a pastel element to keep our friends & family guessing before we revealed the gender. The whole thing turned out very Disneyland & Alice In Wonderland-esque. As I said, head over to part 1 to peep all the specifics.
Today, we’re breaking down my outfit & the goodie bags.
I wanted to wear white because no one knew the gender except Michael & my sister Faye ( her son Daxton guessed it was a girl which is so funny ), but other than that we were very hush hush.
For my outfit, I wore a two-piece set from ASOS. The shirt was a cropped, v-neck long sleeve & the skirt was a white pencil skirt. The material was thick & it really held me in. The skirt is here, but the top is sold out ( similar here ).
I paired the set with a lilac headband to bring some pastels into it, & I found this perfect one on Amazon. It’s really pretty & perfect because it looked super expensive, but it wasn’t. It was like a patent leather lilac. Talk about the shoes
SHOES! Mimi, my other little sister Faye, Erica & I all decided to wear shoes inspired by Romy & Michele. We found 4 different different colors on Amazon & they were surprisingly comfy. They were a bit stripper-y but we wanted it that way to be funny. They’re such a good find & were only $35. Scope out all the colors here ( I got pink of course ).
Mimi actually made hers by getting some blue shoes & pasting some blue feathered boa on it.
Anyway, I completed my look with a bubblegum pink, faux crocodile wrist bag. The bag is from Cult Gaia & it’s sold out now, but they have tons of other cute ones. You can find a similar pink one here. It’s just so cute & I can’t wait to wear it again. My mani & pedi were white- thank you Glamquad ( seriously the most efficient thing ever ) & I had an organic spray tan before.
Kelsey ( @kelsey_long_artistry ) came to the party as my friend but also did my makeup. Shawn did my hair & we did a Barbie curl to go with the lilac headband. ( If you want Shawn’s favorite hair products, check out her post here. )
Arielle who’s been my friend for years shot the whole baby shower ( & my wedding too ) & Chris Tran, was there taking video. ( Video to come soon !! )
Ok, moving right along. Let’s get to the goodie bags.
We really wanted all the brands ot show through, so we did cellophane bags with pink ribbons & an alligator sticker & Baby Boss sticker on each bag.
Obsessed with Glow Recipe. I love their products & it also helps that all of them are pastel colored. They made sure our goodie bags were nice & packed with their pink juice moisturizer. If you haven’t heard of it, it’s this gel kind of moisturizer that’s so good for fine lines & wrinkles, plus dryness & redness. It’s super lightweight & made with watermelon extract, hyaluronic acid & other botanicals. It’ll leave you so glowy.
Big fan of Kopari. We included their mini coconut scrub which is so good to get your lymphatic system going in the morning. Honestly, this scrub is so good – “The one-of-a-kind Coconut Crush Scrub is infused with a uniquely delicious blend of coconut oil, crushed Tahitian coconut shells, and brown sugar to hydrate and buff dry, dull skin for a silky smooth, lit-from-within glow. The complexion is left looking polished, restored, and radiant with a sweet, milky coconut scent to transport you to the tropics.”
If you want to try other Kopari pråoducts, their all natural deodorant is a game-changer & I’ve been using their lip balm forever. The best part is all their products are safe for pregnancy.
Lana worked with me to make custom Cheeto’s bags that said BABY BOSSTICK & skittles bags that said BABY BOSS. We also made BOSStic tic tacs for the goodie bags. I thought this was such a fun way to personalize some takeaways for the guests.. Any opportunity I can get to be creative & to make a project fun, I take. I just love a special touch like this.
Poo~Pourri is all over my house- it basically works like magic. You spritz the bowl before you go & it creates this barrier on the surface of the water & traps the odor below. This is incredibly efficient if you share your bathroom with you S.O. or a roommate. You should know that there are NO harsh chemicals—just the good stuff. Unlike the other guys, Poo~Pourri is safe to breathe & safe to flush. All the stuff we like: no fake fragrances, no parabens, & thank God- no formaldehyde. It’s just a bunch of essential oils that work. This is all so important when getting a house baby-ready so I thought it was perfect to include a little bottle in the goodie bags.
This is my favorite straw brand on the planet so instead of using paper or plastic at the shower, I wanted everyone to experience a Softy Straw moment. I reached out & asked if they could send us a bunch of straws so we also included them in the goodie bags. We had them throughout the party hanging out of watermelon mimosas.
This brand makes these drinks with prebiotics, botanicals & plant fiber. Fiber has been a huge theme on the blog this year so it was very on brand to have these. We served Olipop drinks at the party, but also included them in the goodie bags. Pop a pink Softy Straw in them & you have the most Instagrammy drink.
We worked with Taja Collection to create Baby Bosstick candles. These were all around the tables & in the goodie bags. They made these beautiful matte white candles that fit perfectly with the theme.
This is one of my favorite candle brands because of their customization. They’re out of control with how gnarly they customize. If you’re looking for a brand that really takes it to the next level, then this is the brand for you. I cannot recommend them enough when it comes to candle customization. They also worked with me to design a candle specifically for my niece Luna. This company also does custom diffusers & vases.
As you guys know Woo is my husband’s company. They make coconut oil lube which just makes everything better. It won’t mess with your PH & is totally safe to eat. Fun! They also have Freshies which are wipes that come in this fun little box that you can just throw in your bag. They were such a fun addition to the goodie bags.
We wanted each guest to leave feeling fresh from the Freshies & dewy from the skin care.
After filming all the details of the party, Chris Tran went around & asked each guest to say something to me, Michael, Baby Bosstick, or all of us. We didn’t see this happen so it was so special & fun to watch it & reflect on it after the shower.
Another fun thing we did is we had a book at the goodie bag table. But not just a baby book, we bought a Beverly Hills Hotel coffee table book. If you haven’t seen one, it’s this beautiful pink book full of all the secrets of the hotel. We had pink sharpies in a BHH mug for everyone to write notes in the book. It was so special to me that my dad & Julie found the page with the picture of Faye Dunaway ( that we recreated for our pregnancy announcement ) & signed it. I thought it was so fun & creative.
So there are all the specifics on the baby shower. If you haven’t checked out part one, be sure to check it out! Hope you guys loved being included in the shower & let me know if you have any questions about anything below.
It was so fun to have you guys come along on the Instagram stories & if you don’t know what I’m talking about, go checkout the highlight on my Stories called ‘bb shower.’
I have to say though, I’m not throwing a party for a while. I need a hot minute.
Hopefully this inspires you to have a baby shower, your way & on your own terms. For me, that meant no games, no opening presents, & coed. Doing things the way YOU want & the way YOU want to remember them is better than tradition. Personalize your event for you.
Sometimes we do things the way society tells us to, but it’s more fun to do it your way & curate events to your personality. ( Like I just didn’t want to wear something blue to my wedding, ya know ? )
If you know me, you know I love a detail & details were exactly what consumed my entire baby shower. But lets back up.
The inspiration for my alligator & pastel baby shower originally came from Patricia Altschul. Surprise, surprise. Love her so much ( more on that here ). She threw this alligator party on an episode of Southern Charm, you know the one where Kathryn & Thomas fought at the dinner table?
The theme is so unique & chic, & isn’t quite masculine or feminine. It’s right in between which was perfect because no one knew the gender. The alligators kind of teeter on the masculine side, so I decided to add pastels to trick our guests.
To keep the theme cohesive, we asked all the guests to wear pastels. From the party being scented with cotton candy, to Baby Bosstick Cheetos, to passion fruit probiotic mimosas, to pomegranate Meyer lemon pancakes, to the Bossa nova jazz music, the five senses were happening. It all felt very Disneyland & Alice in Wonderland-esque.
You can watch footage of the baby shower on my Instagram highlights, but I also wanted to do 2 in-depth posts in case any one needs some inspiration for their own baby shower ( or a friend’s ).
You know that I’ve been to a lot of baby showers & my personality is that I’m not a games fan. It’s not my thing, never been my thing. I wanted mimosas. I wanted mimosas flowing everywhere. & I didn’t want anyone to watch me open presents for an hour. It doesn’t sound fun, but that’s just me.
No games, no presents, lots of alcohol, & I always wanted a coed shower. I have tons of girl friends, but I also have a ton of guy friends who are truly my best friends. Hopefully I’ll be at their bachelor parties LOL. I also wanted my dad & father -in law there so that’s what we did. You should also know that for big events like this ( like our wedding too ) we keep it really intimate & only have our closest family & friends there.
My stepmom, Julie, mother-in-law, Lisa & I worked together to make the vision come to life with Encore Events. So thankful for Lisa & Julie because they really helped the event go off without any glitches.
As far as the gender reveal, we decided we didn’t want to pop a balloon or cut a cake. Nothing wrong with those at all, but I just wanted to do something super different & creative. So we utilized the ‘Man Servants.”
If you haven’t heard of Manservants, welcome to the best thing of your life. We used them for my bachelor party too. You can hire them to basically do anything. It was such a hot day so these hotties were holding pastel parasols over everyone’s head while we noshed on banana bread & egg white frittatas. Half of the Manservants were dressed in mint green & the other half were dressed in funfetti pink, serving cocktails at the door with cotton candy. As I said, we really wanted to confuse our guests with the gender.
So when the baby shower was about 2 hours in & everyone was nice & toasty we blasted Girls Just Want to Fun which was so fitting because Micheal & I were in a 6th grade play together & I sang that song. All of our friends from school immediately got it & remembered I sang this at the 6th grade Jubilee.
Anyway, as the song was playing the Manservants came out dressed head to toe in pink, even the shoes & sunglasses. One was carrying a huge matte pink bottle of rosé, another had a Barbie, one had aa pink vintage phone, & someone had light pink & dark pink roses. Michael also wore a pink polka dot shirt & walked out with them. We also had the Encore Event girls come out with a big sign that said “Michael is so fucked” & they were wearing pink blazers too.
Sidenote: I found this old photo of Michael dressed as an alligator when he was 2 years old so we had that photo blown up & brought out too. I asked my mother-in-law if she still had & she does !! So our daughter can wear it for Halloween when she’s 2. So cute !
It’s probably worth mentioning that I strategically placed the alligators all over the even tin doggy-style to keep it light & funny. This wasn’t a PG shower & there’s nothing wrong with having some fun with it.
We decided to have the shower at the Beverly Hills Hotel which was super fitting since we did our pregnancy announcement photo shoot there too. It was inspired by Faye Dunaway, sitting by the pool after she won an Oscar.
The Beverly Hills Hotel is just iconic & so is the courtyard. I love the depth of the history with Hollywood Stars. Since we’re having a girl I thought it would be so perfect for her to frame this photo one day & have it on her wall & she can tell people that she had an alligator, pastel themed baby shower at The Beverly Hills Hotel. I mean, she better get this fucking picture blown up. I know this sounds so bougie but it’s just my dream.
Also the hotel is just so well-branded. From the second you drive in you’re surrounding by big palm trees, there’s white & pink striped wall paper, the font is iconic & everything is just very strongly branded. It was just the perfect venue.
We were very specific about the balloons so we need this specific balloon company. There were huge, beautiful balloons everywhere.
There’s nothing worse than working with a company who doesn’t bring enough balloons, but Belle Âme brought tons & tons so the whole place looked really full. There were pastel balloons everywhere, even in the trees.
Brittni makes the most epic, cutest, unique cakes in the world. She’s made cakes for Shay Mitchel, Jackie Schimmel of The Bitch Bible, & Stassi Schroeder & let me just tell you she does not disappoint.
As you can see, this came has Michael & I in doggy style & she used a little gummy worm for Michael’s weener which I thought was so funny. All the girls at the party were flicking it, & at the end of the day I pulled it off & ate it. Brittni also worked with us to make a custom alligator cake which was just perfect with our theme.
You guys might remember Bliss and Bone from my wedding invitations. Here’s the thing: sometimes I’m not the best at communicating exactly what’s in my head ( is anyone else like this? ). But Cindy immediately got my vision. In fact, there were no changes when she presented the custom invitations. Which is very rare in my case. Usually I am overly specific.
It’s nice to work with someone who GETS IT so it was a no brainer to have Bliss and Bone do our baby shower invites & menus for the event too.
I’m going to do a full post on this separately but as you can see we had alligator themed invitations with green & a pop of pink. We wanted to stick with the masculine/feminine look because we hadn’t announced the gender yet. We also did hints of pink marble every, like inside the envelopes. We really wanted to throw people off. The menus were such a highlight at the table too. We kept the same color-scheme but used a bit more pink.
You guys have met my stepmom, Julie before ( check out this post if you haven’t ). She has such an incredible, creative eye so obviously the nametags she made were adorable & chic. She’s such a visionary when it comes to events & she always helps me. Plus, isn’t her handwriting beautiful?
Thee planning could not have gone smoother because of Encore Events. I found this company through one of Kylie Jenner’s friends & Brittany & her team were able to completely streamline my entire vision.
They delivered EXACTLY what I wanted. I told them everything that was in my head, & using all their resources ( including an amazing graphic designer ) they made it happen. When I saw it, I LOVED IT. Like, no changes you guys. That never happens ! It was exactly, I mean exactly what was in my head.
It’s so nice working with someone who understands your vision without having to tell them every single detail. Their employees were wearing pink blazers & skirts & made everything streamlined. I could not recommend them more for any event.
When I was in St. Tropez there was this little beach club that does glitter tattoos while you’re partying & I get one every year. & so I wanted this at my baby shower because I wanted something interactive. Instead of everyone just sitting around, I wanted them to have something to do ( but not games ). This was the perfect way to keep people entertained & also have something for them to do while they were drinking & eating. I got a silver glitter tattoo with little rhinestones which reminded me of St. Tropez.
Lana worked with me to make custom Cheeto’s bags that said BABY BOSSTICK & skittles bags that said BABY BOSS. We also made BOSStic tic tacs. I thought this was such a fun way to personalize some takeaways for the guests.. Any opportunity I can get to be creative & to make a project fun, I take. I just love a special touch like this.
I had my first taste of ManServants at my bachelorette party. Basically, you tell them your type, his duties, & his name ( our’s was named SUSAN at the bachelorette party ). Then he comes over & treats you like a queen. He built my sister’s baby swing ( my nephew, Dax was there! ), fed me grapes, made skinny margaritas, & gave us foot rubs. He also took Instagram pics – a real catch. FESTIVE. Oh the ManServant can also speak French, fan you with a banana leaf, & propose to you in public. Who cares about strippers when you can have this?
So when it came to the baby shower, like who better to help us serve pastel colored cocktails, hold umbrellas over the guests ( they did this for the whole event because it was so hot out ), & help us with the gender reveal, as I said above. They can also rub your back & make a mean martini, so what’s better than that?
The linens needed to be very specific because, as you know, I wanted them to be pastel. We needed some that blended right with the alligators & plates. The ones that Objectify provided felt amazing & laid great. It’s so important that they don’t pop up on the tables.
If you want a cheese & meat plate that’s on fucking steroids then Olive & Nectar is your go-to. I’ve never seen Charcuterie boards like this before. They made one for my sister-in-law’s baby shower & first of all it was about 6 feet long. It was so decorated that it’s more like a piece of art. Sofia is so artistic with the way she lays it out- not only did she have all these amazing cheeses, but there were tons of fruits, nuts & crackers & the whole thing was out of this world.
Naturally, we needed a board at our baby shower. Sofia made one for my hotel room so all the girls could snack while we were getting ready. To keep in on theme we had tiny alligators climbing all over the food.
Pat was kind enough to lend us her alligators from her Southern Charm alligator party & she sent all different kinds. It was perfect because there were a lot of albino alligators which fit right in with the pastel theme. You guys know how obsessed I am with Patricia so this was a big moment.
Petals did all the flowers & they were honestly incredible. They were all pastel, covering the tables & made the whole party feel very ‘Disney princess.’ This company is amazing especially because when your party is over, you can give them back their vases & take the flowers home in the Oasis ( you know, the green foamy stuff florists use? ).
They provided us with tables & chairs & worked with me to make sure the chairs were just perfect. As you can see it was very ‘Alice in Wonderland’ & without these chairs it wouldn’t have been the same.
But you should know that Revelry does amazing event design. Think table settings that will have your jaw on the floor. They have furniture & are basically & interior design company for events.
This company scented Katy Perry’s candy concert with a sugar scent & did Coca Cola’s latest event in cola scent. When I found out about this I immediately asked them if we could scent my baby shower with cotton candy. Boy oh boy he did not disappoint.
The entire shower smelled of fresh, fluffy cotton candy & it really evoked the five senses. I normally have all 4 senses going but to have 5 going with the smell involved was just a whole new world. Let’s just say the whole event was ‘sweet.’
This is my favorite straw brand on the planet so instead of using paper or plastic at the shower, I wanted everyone to experience a Softy Straw moment. I reached out & asked if they could send us a bunch of straws so we also included them in the goodie bags. We had them throughout the party hanging out of watermelon mimosas.
This TSC reader reached out & wanted to make us some custom cookies which I was all about, of course! She took them to the next level. We had tiny alligator cookies with pearls on them, we had cookies with the instagram photo we used for our pregnancy announcement, & little Beverly Hills Hotel ones.
I’ve been a longtime fan of Suja. Their drinks have been a theme over the last 7 years so it’s no surprise I wanted them at the shower. Suja makes cold-pressed, organic juices & they’re just so good. We did watermelon mimosas & we used their probiotic passion fruit to make mimosas too. This way you get your probiotics while having a little fun!
This company was kinda enough to make these chic, marble cakes for the shower. They worked with me on the color scheme & also did some cake pops for us. I requested mint green cake pops & they were totally game. Not only were these so pretty, they were delicious too. They had these flowers sticking out of the pastel colored cake & it was such a pretty touch.
The goodie bags were filled with Kopari, Taja Collection candles, Glow Recipe skin care, Woo, Softy Straws & PooPourri but we’ll do a whole post on that next week ( along with my outfit deets ).
Hope you guys liked these ideas. I just wanted to get as detailed as possible on each aspect of the party in case any of you wanted to throw an alligator/pastel baby shower or party ( specific, I know ! ). If you do use any of these ideas, please tag me on Instagram so I can repost it.
&, I’m well aware of how extra I am. I can’t help it. The creativity of pulling everything together & executing a vision is what gets me off. But I can tell you I was hungover after this party even though I didn’t have one sip of alcohol. The following day I actually couldn’t even get out of bed.
Massive respect to all the party & event planners out there. Be sure to stalk part 2 next week where we’ll be talking goodie bags & my outfit.
Kristine & I met in an Coronado at an event I was speaking at. I liked her right away.
She came right up to me & her energy was super real & straight to the point. She was beautiful & one of the first people who was really vulnerable & raw about motherhood to me. She was very authentic in sharing her experience & didn’t sugarcoat anything.
She has been a very supportive TSC reader who has now become my friend. After one of my events we went to a Mexican restaurant & while we had skinny margs, chips & salsa, she told me about her idea to start a blog. I thought I was great idea because she has such a unique perspective on motherhood. She’s my favorite kind of girl because she EXECUTED !! Her blog will be up & running soon so be sure to check out theticklespot.com.
Since I love her approach on motherhood, I wanted her to come on the blog to tell us all her no bullshit take on what it’s really like in the hospital & what you’ll need to bring with you.
Let’s get right into Kristine’s tips.
Hello TSC Community!
IT’S SUCH A PLEASURE for me to be able to share some of my tips & tricks with you all!! As a longgg time reader, huge supporter & friend of The Skinny Confidential, I am just SO SO SO HONORED to be here!! Now in true Lauryn fashion, let’s jump right in shall we?!
My name is Kristine & I absolutely adore The Skinny Confidential! The team is just the sweetest group of ladies. Lauryn has built such an incredible community, & an endless library of tips & tricks for the modern chick ( it’s no wonder that her name means beauty… wink-wink!). & like all of us do, I can totally relate & benefit from all of the knowledge she dishes!
It was early 2014 when I discovered a TSC bookmark ( I think?! Maybe it was a biz card ) at a coffee shop in San Diego. It was super cute & 100% my vibe, so I couldn’t wait to check it out- & basically, the rest is history! I loved her platform & her blogs because of her no-nonsense writing. I’m a pretty picky pickle if you know what I mean, so I’ve gotta be really intrigued to get into someone’s content. I’m the kind of girl that’s all about quality over quantity, ya know?
So anyway, a couple years had gone by & I had read Lauryn’s book, followed along on Insta + YouTube + beyond ++, & eventually into the secret Facebook group when she first created it, in early 2017. That Spring I went to an event on Coronado Island for Brides & Friends where Lauryn was appearing for a live Q&A session.
( Backtrack real quick- I moved to San Diego from Lake Tahoe in 2003 & have been in the F&B / Catering & Events Industry ever since. I graduated from cosmetology school in 2006 & obtained my CA license, so I’ve been lucky enough to incorporate all of my beauty & wellness passions into my career. I’ve had the pleasure of working alongside some of the industries best Chefs & top professionals. Needless to say, Lauryn & I have similar obsessions when it comes to ingredients in products, the perfectly balanced buzz, detecting bullshit& the art of the hustle. )
Lauryn & I met right after the Q&A session in Coronado & hit it off with a glass of champagne ( so on brand, right?! ). We chatted for a bit & eventually went our separate ways but exchanged info before we left, & still stay close today. Lauryn inspires others because she is such a bright, intuitive soul. I’m grateful to know her. She really is even more amazing in real life ( if you can even imagine )!
As a Wife + Mom of two ( Max: practically 8 yo boy / Ellie: practically 5 yo girl), I always told Lauryn to WAIT TO HAVE KIDS! Lol!! Michael Bosstick has been eager for babies since Lauryn spoke to him for the very first time. Not joking ( NO SURPRISE! ). And I personally planned on being a glorified Aunt- never a Mom ( SURPRISE, lol!!! ). I dreamed of being the kind of Aunt that’s like a fucking fairy godmother, ya know? They stop in, bring you stickers, pink sparkly tutus, nail polish & twirl your hair, then let you jump on the bed & eat candy way too late… that was going to be me.
BUT THEN- a few too many micheladas one Sunday morning long ago, & here we are! So it will come as no surprise that the first time I met Michael & Lauryn all the questions were about babies, babies, babies! I gave them the most honest, realest shit ever- I told Lauryn DON’T DO IT!!! This was a few years back, & her career was MASSIVELY TAKING OFF ( quite obviously! )- & I did not want to see her put it on the back burner. So I suggested they wait & think about it & wait some more & then wait a little longer.. until it felt right.
Because the truth is no one is ever ‘prepared’ for pregnancy, child birth or motherhood & the truckloads of unexpectedness that it tows. It’s something you have to embrace & balance. Because when you finally realize it’s the universe’s way of conditioning you for this whole thing, you can’t go back. So no matter when it happens, if it’s meant to be, it will be. We’re not all aspiring to be soccer moms in mini vans- & that’s OK! One thing Lauryn said to me that has always stuck with me, is that I don’t lead with being a Mom- I take that as such a compliment. Because before I was/am a Mom, I’m ME. I’ve always been ME. & it’s SO EASY to forget when you are giving all of yourself to someone else. You’re still YOU, & you need to feel like you!
Like I said, I never planned on having children, so it took a HUGE adjustment & level of acceptance for me to really embrace it. We know everyone’s adventure is different. Clearly, my journey into motherhood was not all lollipops & rainbows. But at the end of the day, it’s truly a miracle & such a heart-filling experience, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Of course there are so many joyous moments- & there are so many more challenging ones. But I hope this series of ’10 tips through motherhood & how to be a real mom’ help provide a little perspective & shed a little light onto some of the things I knew nothing about ( & wish I had! ). I hope this also acts as a little reminder that you’re not alone- millions of moms ( & their s/o, friends, & family ) feel just like you!
So, with that- grab a cocktail ( or a mocktail ) & cozy up for this one, it’s a doozy! CHEERS!! I hope you enjoy it & find a few takeaways.
10 Real Life Tips On Prepping For Birth
♡ The No-Plan Plan:
A girlfriend of mine once told me, before I had children, that there is a meditative practice you can exercise during childbirth that creates an orgasm. And recently, it’s been redefined as a ‘birthgasm’. No joke- whattoexpect.com even did an article on it! ( check it out here ) & so sorry to burst your bubble, but no, unfortunately this did not happen to me. The complete opposite actually, so I can’t speak on it– but what I can say after 8 years of experience as a Mom having gone through two completely different deliveries, is that no matter how many birth plans & back up birth plans you have; your baby has a birth plan, & it wins.
Of course it’s important to be prepared for decisions during delivery– but it’s quite another to bawl hysterically because you have a c-section & not a vaginal birth, ‘as planned.’ I think one of the most liberating things about motherhood is embracing that we cannot control it all. What we can do, is control our reactions & words to reflect our best intentions. So no matter how your baby enters this world through your body, it will be amazing, wonderful and exactly as they intend. So don’t stress too much, & don’t set unnecessary expectations. AND don’t skip the hospital tour! Just go with the flow. <3
♡ Labor Essentials:
Hee-hee. Hoo-hoo. Hee-hee. Hoo-hoo. Always reminds me of Look Who’s Talking! So the breathing exercises are great & all, but sometimes a girl needs a martini, ya know?!! Luckily, there are lots of ways to ease the pains of labor & it all depends on how natural you’re willing to go. Starting with simple things to get through the initial labor pains are some main homies you need to hang with in your 3rd trimester anyhow, so bring these ones along to the hospital:
In addition to the 4 listed, getting “upright” can help majorly. Standing, walking, slow dancing ( wink, wink Michael Bosstick! ), & squatting, all allow gravity to help move the baby down. Obviously when the time comes you can opt for the good ol’ epidural too, just be sure you consult your doctor. The timing of it, specifically- because if you take it too early it can become incredibly counter productive. ( Just trust me here! )
♡ Stretch your Vagina:
OK- SO! THIS IS MY FAVORITE TIP!! I had a lot of difficulty with my first delivery, & my second was a breeze ( by comparison ONLY! ), & I believe this is largely to do with my Doula. I did not have a Doula the first round with my son, & man-oh-man WHAT A DIFFERENCE!! Even if you don’t have one throughout your entire pregnancy, to have a nurse trained as a Doula or even experienced is a game changer. And here’s why: they STRETCH YOUR VAGINA!
YES. When you give birth you dilate & expand. Depending on the nature of your birth, you may tear. You may not. BUT if you have a Doula lube you up & stretch your vagina like mine did, you will be smooth sailing all the way! I was so thankful for my Doula, I called her my Fairy Doula with the magic lube wand ( *keep in mind I was also induced & on meds sooo, ya know… ). If I had to do my first all over again, honestly- I would ask my nurses on duty to lube up a wand with some special magic & get to stretching!
♡ BYO Snacks:
You forget how bad hospital food is until you’re there. And you’re hormonal. And you want, what you want. So HAVE IT. Make a master dream list in your third trimester of all the things & have your S/O or support person, pack & deliver. I would suggest quality over quantity when creating this list because the hospital rooms are tiny, so pick your absolute faves. If you have a special Postmates order saved ( for instance, a highly micro-managed smoothie, hh-hhhmmm Lauryn! ), send these to your person in advance, so when the cravings hit there’s no hesitation or added stress.
♡ Pack your house:
GET COMFY! Like, THIS- IS- IT!! You should have your Barefoot Dreams leopard blanket, ice cold Hydro Flask within reach ( you’ll need it, it’s a journey ), teas of choice nearby, snacks on demand, cozie jammies & big panties ( like 5 big pairs lol ) & pillows & slippers. ALL OF IT. ALLLLL. OF IT. You are going to be in the hospital for at least 2-3 nights-ish ( or more ) so bring your essentials to make it feel as comfy & soothing as possible.
The softest pair of pajamas ever are these. They’re worth the splurge because you will be living in them for the next few weeks/months. Opt for a little or no elastic on the waist. A thick waistline, tie or push buttons are ideal here.
Same goes for bringing your own pillow. The hospital beds & pillows aren’t from Nordstrom. Bring yours- again, you’ll be in recovery mode & in the hospital for at least a couple of nights, so this one is not to be forgotten! If you do forget your pillow in the heat of the moment, send someone to get it for you! You will feel SO much better during your stay. And in turn, so will bebe.
A few things I would bring; salt rock plug in lamp, fave candles, noise machine, iPads ( w/ downloaded shows + movies), books, magazines, humidifier, sage, face wash + routine, & cute scrunchies. Full shower program & baby washcloths & towels for you too! Also- chances are there’s a photographer in the hospital, or you’ve hired one, or friends &, family are camera happy so keep your survival pack close by & hopefully Glamsquad is in the area!
*HOT TIP: If you have a scheduled delivery, spray tan & Drybar the day before. You will feel SO much better in photos. If your baby makes the unplanned grand entrance, don’t worry, you can still edit anything!
♡ Delegate the Room:
This one is important. You need to make sure your concerns are heard & addressed. Don’t let anyone else make decisions for your body or your environment. This is a sensitive, wonderful time, so any additional &/or unwelcome stress should be eliminated on arrival. It’s really only YOU + BABY in these moments that need to connect & focus to make it happen. Listen to your heart & intuition & instruct your nurses, S/O as necessary. YOU run the show.
*HOT TIP FROM my husband: As the S/O have an iPad or phone or device in place to capture the babies first sounds. Even if you don’t film the actual ‘event,’ the sounds of your baby for the first time is irreplaceable & so special to be able to look & listen back on. They grow so fast, & the first coos are the most precious.
♡ Pain Management:
I didn’t realize how all of it would go, until it happened. And for me, the first time was less than desirable to put it politely. I overheard a conversation between my nurse & my doctor, who was taking their dog on a walk on the beach, while I was not dilating to desired levels. Blah blah blah, we’re all healthy & fine, but the point is, after the second round I discovered how much better it can go- SO, I recommend prompting the important convo with your OB/GYN about your delivery, specifically.
Questions I wish I would’ve asked:
+ If they are out of town, who is in charge- really?
I got a spiel about ‘out of town conduct’ when I first met my doctor, but didn’t get full disclosure, ya know? Definitely DO! If your doctor is not part of a group ( which means they likely have a doctor on call rotating at the local hospital ) ask what protocol is in place.
+ Can I request a specific nurse or Doula?
This is specific to each practice & hospital, so you’ll have to consult within. But I truly wish I would’ve known that this was a service at my hospital & with my group of doctors the first time!
+ How do I prevent tearing?
Again, I didn’t ask this question the first time, but I made certain I was prepared the second. It’s all about what you know.. ya know! 😉
Ask for options if your birth plan cannot be achieved, so it’s not shocking or disappointing if it ends up becoming the reality of the situation. OVER ASK. ALL THE THINGS. This is the time, so don’t be shy. There are no stupid questions.
♡ Meet your Latch Consultant:
So this was a NEW TERM for me! I hadn’t heard of this until I had given birth & felt like my nipples had been drug through hot gravel while simply attempting to breast feed. Don’t squander this opportunity! I cannot recommend it enough.
I didn’t know there was a difference between a proper latch, poor latch, or barracuda feeder! Milk comes in differently for everyone, & the new C Word in your life: COLOSTRUM, can be a real b* in some cases. So these magical Latch Consultants are here for you. They are incredibly helpful & most of them volunteer their time, so I highly recommend soaking up their suggestions. They are THE breast feeding pros. Even if you’re not adamant about breast feeding, they have great knowledge & resources for all feeding styles & types. You can inquire with your hospital ahead of time to see which services are available for you.
♡ Push Playlist:
Get in your GRROOOVVEEE! This is it. The big show. Whether it’s just a solo act, you & your s/o, or you invite an audience- this is it. Feel good in your zone. Make a light, fun, soothing playlist with some of your favorite music. Think of things you’d like to wake up to, since these are the first things your baby will hear. This is also a fun project to connect with your s/o on to help them feel more included in the moment.
For me, it’s the soundtrack to We Bought a Zoo by Jonsi +/ Sigur Ros. ( On Spotify- here. )
♡ Help at Home:
Arrange for help at home with baby for the first few days if you can. Meal prep, laundry, humidifiers, laundry, errands, laundry & LOTS & LOTS OF HANDS! All are required duties at home with a newborn. Planning for this in advance will help you set up for a stress-free arrival home from the hospital & hopefully a punch-drunk ease into the first few days/weeks with baby.
I was fortunate enough to have a family member, my mom, make preparations for us both times coming home. I cannot begin to tell you how BEYOND helpful it is to come home to a house prepared just the way you want & full of love for baby & MOMMY! This also means, REST & RELAXATION which is ultimate! If you get to have help at home then it’s wise to follow the old wives tale- sleep when baby sleeps! <3
♡ THE ONE THING YOU CANNOT FORGET !
These will bring more comfort to your perineum than you could ever image. I promise.
If you enjoyed reading this piece, please follow along & lmk on my latest instagram post @tinikristini for a fun giveaway! I’m working on my NEW website/blog: theticklespot.com ! It looks like a butthole right now, but just you wait! It’s going to be amazing.. a stimulating resource for the BFF’s ( beauties. foodies. fashionistas. & beyond ). Lots of fun stuff will be coming to the site early 2020.
Hope you loved this post & thank you to Lauryn & The Skinny Confidential community for having me!
If you guys have anything to add to this hospital list let me know in the comment below.
+ scope these tips on keeping it together in motherhood.
++ 10 things I’ve experienced in pregnancy so far.
Today we’re getting really into it. We’re talking labor pain & epidurals with my friend, & anesthesiologist, Nicole.
Nicole & I met at Delicias in Rancho Santa Fe when I was a bartender. Her brother Alex was one of my friends & a regular at the bar. Nicole joined him one day & I liked her immediately. What I really liked was how smart she was. Smart, sharp, focused & even though she was young at the time, I knew she was going to do big things.
So here we are. Obviously I have a bun in the oven, so I thought it would be fitting for her to come on & spew some realness. Today on The Skinny Confidential Nicole is sharing everything she knows about labor pain & epidurals. Yikes.
Without further ado, let’s welcome Nicole Andonian.
Hey Babes! I’m stoked to be on the blog today. Lauryn & I go way back from growing up in San Diego. Lauryn is a true hustler – I remember so many nights where my brother & I would go sit at the bar Lauryn bartended at, & she would pour us each a nice, heavy-handed pour of Cab Sauv, & we would just shoot the shit on life. The Skinny Confidential was just a little idea at that time. Fast-forward tenish years… Lauryn & Michael are killing it.
I went to medical school & am now an anesthesiology resident at UCLA. Since Lauryn has a bun in the oven, & I know tons of you are expecting or will be over the next few years, I wanted to share some common questions I get asked about epidurals & pain during labor.
♡ What should I expect from labor?
There are three stages of labor. The first starts with regular uterine contractions & ends when your cervix is fully dilated, at ten centimeters. The first stage is separated into latent & active phase as your contractions get closer together & stronger. The second stage starts when you are fully dilated & ends with delivery of the baby. This stage is where you feel a lot of pelvic pressure & the urge to push.
The third & final stage involves delivery of the placenta. There is a wide variety of how each one of us will perceive pain associated with labor. We all have seen the Kardashians episode where Kourtney is just chilling & pulls out her baby. Sorry babes, but that is not the norm! But she did look awfully comfortable & my guess is that is due to a good epidural.
♡ What is an epidural?
An epidural is when a trained doctor locates the space in your back, just outside the spinal cord, & places a catheter to give you medications that help with pain. Placement of an epidural catheter with a continuous infusion of medication usually results in minimal to moderate pain until after delivery. It is normal & expected to feel pressure, especially as the baby’s head gets lower in your pelvis & you feel the urge to push the baby out. The data is unclear if getting an epidural alone increases the amount of time in labor, but getting an epidural does not increase chances of needing a C-section.
♡ I’m scared! What are the risks of getting an epidural?
The side effects of epidurals include: a headache from something we call a dural puncture, low blood pressure, itching, nausea/vomiting, & shivering. Other relatively uncommon risks include being in the wrong space ( blood vessel, spinal cord ), infection, bleeding complications, nerve damage ( often reversible with time ), breathing problems, & abnormal heart rhythms. If your anesthesiologist thinks you aren’t a good candidate ( if you have bleeding problems or a history of surgery on your spine for example), the anesthesiologist will talk to you & offer you safer options.
♡ What can I expect during epidural placement? Will it hurt?
During the epidural, your nurse & doctor will monitor both you & the baby. You will also get some fluids via your IV. You will be sitting up, with your back curved into a C shape ( think of the shape of a shrimp ). The anesthesiologist will clean your back with a sterile solution. Next, we use lidocaine or a similar medication to numb your skin & back. Most women say this is the worst part & feels like a little bee sting, similar to getting dental work done. After that, you will feel pressure until the anesthesiologist finds the exact right space in your back. The catheter will be threaded into your back and taped into place. Don’t worry, no needle will be left in your back and you can & should lie on your back!
♡ What can I expect after the epidural is placed?
You lay pretty flat for the first fifteen minutes after placement of the epidural to allow the medicine to spread evenly. The nurse will be taking blood pressures often during this time. Gradually, your legs will feel heavy & numb but you should still be able to move them. Think of the feeling when your legs go to sleep. Most often, although there are exceptions, you will not be able to walk around or get out of bed until after delivery & the epidural is turned off. This also means the nurse will likely insert a Foley catheter to help drain your bladder ( sounds miz I know, but fortunately you will be nice & numb down there & shouldn’t feel much ).
♡ What is this walking epidural thing I hear about?
“Walking” epidural is an option if you think you want to stay mobile during delivery. A lower concentration of medicine is used, which can result in a more painful labor. Although this is talked about a lot, I don’t see it used much!
♡ What effects does the epidural have on the baby?
Usually none at all! There is a very, very small chance that the baby’s heart rate will be slower during labor & the baby will be slower to breathe after delivery but most of the time the epidural medications are very safe & have minimal to no adverse effect on the baby.
♡ When is the best time to get my epidural?
Technically, the “ideal” time to ask for your epidural is when your cervix is 4-5 cm dilated. But getting it earlier does not necessarily increase complication rates with delivery! Many moms receive a medicine called oxytocin ( or Pitocin ) that causes an increase in contractions that are more painful & may make you want an epidural earlier.
♡ How about if I wait too long to get an epidural?
The only time that is “too late” to get an epidural is if you are on the brink of delivering that new bundle of joy. When that baby is coming, there is no stopping the little guy/girl. But typically, as long as you can sit still through contractions, a trained anesthesiologist should be able to get you an epidural. The only caveat is that between placing & activating the epidural, it can take up to 20 minutes to kick in, which if you are too close to delivery won’t be helpful for you. This is especially true if this isn’t your first baby since labor moves MUCH faster!
♡ What if I am in a lot of pain even after I get the epidural?
Sorry babes, that is never fun but it does happen on occasion. It could be that the epidural is in the wrong place, moved, or you aren’t getting enough medicine. Sometimes the baby can be facing in a certain direction that can cause some pressure that an epidural can’t help with.
Always let your nurse know what you are feeling & they can call the anesthesiologist for you to troubleshoot. If we think it’s not working at all, there is always the option to take it out & replace it completely.
♡ What are some non-pharmaceutical options to help me get through the pain?
There are always options other than medicine! These include nitrous oxide, use of IV pain medications, massage, use of heat or cold, hydrotherapy, acupuncture, relaxation training ( Lamanze classes ), etc.
♡ How long will it take for the epidural to wear off?
The epidural is usually turned off right after you deliver ( & after any potential tears or lacerations are repaired ). It wears off gradually. Usually in about 2-4 hours you should start feeling back to normal.
I hope this was helpful for all you mamas-to-be! You got this, women have been doing this for years & years. Women are bad-ass. We are tougher than men, which is why we were picked to do this! If you ladies have any other questions at all, I am here for you. XOXO
Hope you guys found some value in this post. I sure did. What am I in for ???
Guys, whats up? Today is my baby shower so I thought it would be so fitting to showcase what is actually on my baby registry.
Now let’s get real here. One of the reasons I didn’t want to tell anyone the gender is because I didn’t want a bunch of colored clothes, toys, appliances, etc. I wanted to keep it super neutral. To be honest, I want to get to know our baby before I started imposing a style on it.
The baby shower is at The Beverly Hills Hotel & we;re doing a co-ed, boozy brunch. We want everyone to get nice & toasty. Of course I’ll share TONS more details, but that’s not what this post is about. A lot of you have asked me about this, so here we are.
I really don’t want this blog to turn into a pregnancy/baby blog, but it is a journey that I want you guys to come on with me. So if you’re not into babies, aren’t planning on having one, aren’t pregnant, don’t want to be, skip this post & head on over to how to get the best blowout ever.
My friend Gillian totally deserves a shout out here. She gave me this list with all her notes & just really gave me a whole breakdown. Gillian is one of my best friends & the mother of my goddaughter, Coco. She knows what’s up, she knows babies, & has style.
Alright, on that note, let me break down exactly what’s on the registry & why.
This is essential because I’m obsessed with my ‘Kardashian’ blanket. The comfiest thing in the world so my baby needs one. Sidenote: take pregnancy out of the equation & just get one for yourself. More here.
Gillian says this is like a cozy baby holder that I can’t live without. It goes in a bassinet or crib, or in our bed with us ( I know, I know, you need to be careful when co-sleeping & with baby loungers. I get it. ).
I’ve done a tour of the Honest headquarters & had Jessica Alba & Cash Warren on the podcast so I have MASSIVE respect for Honest. They just get it, so I’ll be using their diapers, wipes & other products.
this is so efficient for us traveling & moving around. Just having it ready to go will be a bit of a time saver. There will still be a lot of movement when the baby comes & Michael will LOVE having this all prepacked & ready to go.
This is a hand soap that uses citrus instead of alcohol as a preservative. It’s gentle & moisturizing but still kills 99.9% of bacteria. It’s a thing that everyone has to wash their hands before they touch the baby right?
This is an extra gentle, extra safe sponge for bath time. There are no nasties: sulfates, parabens, phthalates, petroleum, additives & it’s cruelty free. You can actually use less soap & still get a big lather.
These are Michael’s recommendations. He’s a psycho. He has a Nest cam for our dogs, so it’s no surprise he wants to watch the baby 24/7.
So there you have it- my very gender neutral baby must-haves. We didn’t want to go crazy & have people bring us these big gifts so we went really micro on what we asked for. At the end of the day though, we don’t even expect gifts. We just want people to come celebrate, get drunk, & have fun.
Will be sharing all the deets on decor, venue, food, drinks, theme etc. It’ll be like you guys were there. If you’re pregnant get the kombucha & if you’re not, grab a skinny marg.
Ok, I’m off to celebrate the baby & I’ll see you guys tomorrow.
+ if you’re into party planning scope my sister-in-law’s baby shower here.