Peggy Curry is back & today she’s talking all about building a strong foundation within your family.
You’ve heard Peggy & her daughter Megan’s strange health hacks & their approach to talking to your kids about sex- I keep inviting them on The Skinny Confidential because I feel their posts bring so much value to the audience.
Anyway, in this post Peggy shares her top 10 things to do for a strong relationship within your family.
Let’s get to it.
How To Build a Strong Family Foundation
Growing healthy kids & creating a strong family foundation is what most parents hope for, but it’s not always easy to accomplish. Kids come into our world & it takes boatloads of time, commitment, patience & energy.
For me & my husband Tim, raising healthy, happy, loving & kind children was always a priority. Forty+ years ago, everyone was curious how we were going to raise our kids with two different religious backgrounds. Opinions were that it just wouldn’t work.
Tim & I decided before getting married how our core values would be the forefront for raising our children. The main value was communication. We have been together for nearly 50 years & raised 4 incredible daughters so I’m here today to share our top 10 tips for building a strong & healthy family
10 Tips For Building a Strong Family:
♡ Communication is LOVE.
It is our #1 core value practiced daily in our family. I talked about this in my last post about how to talk to your kids about sex. Communication is key.
♡ Create a home base.
Our family kitchen table was where all meals were eaten nightly. The table brought opportunity to check in daily with the kids. They felt seen & heard. Children become great communicators with daily practice.
♡ Sunday family meeting.
Our weekly meeting taught our core family values. Being loving, compassionate, communicative, respectful, honest, generous, trustworthy, open-minded, forgiving, caring, independent thinkers & generous humans… modeling was critical for how we wanted our kids to grow up & behave.
♡ Create a safe space.
A place where kids felt safe, could learn to trust & were able to open up without judgment. It was NOT always easy. Kids can be so mean. Practice built trust.
♡ Be available.
So your child can come to you & share. Ask if they want advice or just want you to LISTEN & allow them to dump. They will learn to ask you for advice & feel respected.
♡ Create a bedtime ritual.
Tuck your kids in bed. Massage their hands or feet with lavender oil, hug & kiss them, touch is so important. This time of day is when kids are most vulnerable, relaxed & are open to talk…IF they feel like it. They’ll feel your love.
♡ Practice vulnerability.
Your family is where you learn how to work through challenges & talk through hardships. It’s where you learn important life skills to take out into the world. Your family can & hopefully will be your BFF’s for life.
♡ It is not your job to be your kid’s friend.
It’s confusing to a child. Who’s in charge? It actually can create feelings of being unsafe. It is your job to be their parent.
♡ Establish & define good boundaries.
Kids push boundaries to the limit, but they need to see that you mean what you say. Consistency rules. Boundaries help kids feel safe & create stability & kids actually appreciate them. Make partner agreements & stick to them.
Partner agreements are:
+ Never allow your kids to put a wedge between you & your partner. If that happens, & they will try, there are consequences for trying. What it shows is that you are both in agreement, & them trying to do that is them being deceitful. Explain that to your kids. So if mom says no to one thing, then they go to dad & dad says yes, that has serious consequences.
+ Important rule… parents must stick together! Decide before kids are too old how you will work together. There’s always a good guy & bad guy, and that is ok. BUT make sure your partner is on the same page. Have the other ask the kid first, “did you ask mom/dad?”
♡ Take a long road trip.
Camping or glamping brings a built-in closeness. It helps build strong relationships & memories that last a lifetime. Ignore complaining. They’ll thank you as adults!
Be sure to listen to the Make Life Delicious podcast episode where Peggy & Megan discuss all these tips further.
You should also know that the Curry girls have launched a winter reset program that starts January 11. It’s 21 days & geared towards people who want to get rid of inflammation, have chronic pain or have breakouts & other skin conditions.
You’ll get an eBook with recipes, meal plans, plus tons of videos to help you cook & grocery shop. As I said it starts January 11, PLUS Peggy & Megan are giving all TSC readers 15% off with the code TSC15. So mark your calendars!
+ check out Peggy’s tips on how to talk to your kids about sex.
++ scope my time management tips for new parents.
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9 replies to “How To Build a Strong Family Foundation”
Lauryn – I LOVE this post. As someone who suffers from a lot lot of fears around pregnancy and having children, this post really hit home for me. I know we’re not all totally prepared before getting pregnant and giving birth, but I often feel like many women just KNOW they will be a good mom, they are ready and they are fully prepared. I am the total opposite. I’m working through this a lot in therapy (lifesaver!) but reading things like this reassures me that with guidance, books, etc I might just be ok. Thank you for bringing Peggy to my attention and for this post! It’s so insightful and helpful and brings about things that I never thought, but also wasn’t sure how to do, with basically steps on how to make them happen. I appreciate this so much. xo
Adrianna, thank you for the kind feedback! <3
This was such a great blog post, thank you for sharing!
Thank you for reading!
LOVE this article and how you’re always promoting the value of family. xx
Thank you, Liz! xx
Thank you, now this is became much so clear for me!
Hi Lauryn! This was truly a pleasure to read.I am definitely going to try these rituals just as part of ‘good family communication’ as I think they’re great tips for relationships generally. Thanks for another insightful post!
Thanks you very much