We’ve all been there.
I feel like it’s been almost a theme with specific people. Can anyone relate here?
Drama is yawn, yawn, yawn & usually very avoidable.
The problem with drama is it sucks the energy from you. It’s like a Dementor from Harry Potter. Sucking all positive energy giving power to the negative. Of course no surprise I do everything & anything to avoid it.
…Because if you think about it, it’s all very pointless?
To be honest I love drama when it’s appropriate ( design-wise, LOL ) but when it comes to people’s drama? I stay far, FAR away. Just because I feel like it’s a waste of energy. CREATIVE energy, life energy, positive energy. And boy do I vibe off energy…
ANYWAY! Recently I was listening to The Bitch Bible’s Podcast & her guest, Marissa Hermer ( << Ladies of London, darlingggg ) said THE MOST AMAZING QUOTE EVERRRRR: don’t be surprised if you see elephants if you buy tickets to the circus.
And I stopped & re-listened to this quote.
It’s true though: how many times have we subscribed to dramatic delusions & then we’re shocked there’s a negative response?
On my end? Eer, A LOT.
SO many times I’ve gotten sucked into negativity & was then surprised by the kind of gross, dramatic outcome.
Here’s the thing: there should be NO surprise if I entertained the drama in the first place ( AKA went to see the elephants ). Basically it’s my fault if I’ve given it energy.
Jackie’s response to Marissa was: if you’ve had a problem with everyone you know, IT’S YOU.
How many people are self-aware enough to recognize that?
I feel like the way to avoid drama is to mind your own business. This is a whole different post but really, I’ve found minding your own business is the key to a happy life. If you’re confused at what this means LISTEN to this podcast episode with Mark Manson. He wrote this book called The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck. There are SOOOO many fantastic lessons in his book- it’s nuts. Lessons that separate bullshit from priorities. Lately, I’ve been choosing carefully where to give my fucks & I’m giving none towards petty drama or toxicity.
For a drama-free life: if I want to give advice I ask someone if “they’re at request for coaching” & if they say yes I try to know my limits. Or I simply mind my own business & stay in my own lane.
If all else fails I say NO & try not to entertain the drama especially when it comes to gossip.
Again gossip wastes energy. Energy I would rather put toward my business or friends/family.
On that note, I’m headed out to drink rosé & eat Burrata with a girlfriend so I’ll leave you with this: how do you deal with drama? Do you avoid? Do you partake?
See you tomorrow, lauryn x
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