Warning: I come with LOTS of questions!
On that note: How are you using today to cultivate a happy, healthy life? What situations or chores are you doing daily that don’t really serve you? And most importantly, how are you adjusting instead of staying stagnant?
Recently I wrote a post called “Stop Doing Shit You Hate.” And well, this is kind of a part 2.
Firstly, I’m not a full-blown expert on this subject, I’m just sharing what’s worked well ( & not so well… ) for me in hopes that maybe it inspires something in you. & for the record, don’t forget that you guys also have shared a TON of tips/advice & I’ve applied it to specific aspects of my life too. So I guess our relationship is a win/win, right?
When I read the above quote I immediately thought of the part 1 post I wrote about doing shit you hate. I thought to myself “I wonder how many people went back to doing shit they hated after reading the post.”
Is this a weird thought?
It’s certainly not because I think my words are holier than thou & should promote an immediate, swift change. It’s more having to do with the fact that I’m curious about what it takes to actually make a change.
What will it take for someone to quit that job they hate working for the boss they hate in the office they hate? What will it take for a writer to stop doing that 9 to 5 PR job to really pursue writing? What will it take that girl who’s stuck in an extremely toxic relationship to break up with that guy who treats her like crap? What will it take for someone to say NO to that person they really don’t want to grab a drink with?
I guess my question is when does enough become enough?
I have had points in my life where enough is enough & I’m done. Just done. I suppose I’m kind of black & white that way. I’m on or I’m off, like a switch. Total Gemini.
When I think back at those breaking points in my life where enough was enough I can remember one distinct thing I did every time: I made lists ( pro & cons, compared them, & adjusted them to make myself comfortable…because the distress was not worthy in my life ).
Anyway, a lot of you have e-mailed me about breaking away from specific jobs or lifestyles that aren’t serving you anymore. This post is for YOU.
You are in control of what happens in your life. No one but YOU.
So if you’re in a situation that doesn’t serve you anymore, I encourage you to do the work to remove yourself. It sounds weird that there’s ‘work.’ But to get uncomfortable & make a change, there is absolutely groundwork.
Today my question is for those of you who are unhappy with some aspect of you life: what ground work are you doing to remove yourself from the current stressful situation? Do you have a pros & cons list? Have you let yourself think of the process of removal & uncomfortable outcome?
Or are you simply just putting your head down, every day, showing up, huffing and puffing while putting limitations on yourself?
Ultimately I think a lot of people are not actually acknowledging the situation they’re in which makes it impossible to change. Change is work. Change is weird. And change is fucking uncomfortable.
Here’s the thing: it’s difficult to adjust accordingly, because change & adjustments are difficult in general.
But anything worth it in life is usually uncomfortable at first.
Those are my two cents.
I’ve been thinking about this post for a while because this quote is so simple but so spot on.
At the end of the day it takes a conscious working effort to adjust accordingly. And it’s work to keep tabs on yourself daily to make sure you’re living life on your own damn terms.
Food for thought! Ok, I’m done.
Until next time, lauryn x
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