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Spring Cleaning…Online. How to Deal with Toxic Crap on Social Media

Updated: March 15, 2016
by
LAURYN

quotes | the skinny confidential
quotes | the skinny confidential
I’m a big fan of crowding crappy stuff out.

When it comes to eating clean, I crowd out the bad shit to make room for the good.

When it comes to people, I crowd out the gloomy Eeyore’s to make room for the positive Penny’s.

And when it comes to social media, I crowd out the negative to make room for the motivational.

The older I get the more I choose to follow motivational, uplifting people on social media.

So instead of reading negativity on all of these social platforms, I’ve made a strong choice to follow/like/etc. positive role models, gurus, people and magazines. Basically I crowd out angry statuses ( or block them ) so I can focus on things like “Entrepreneur Magazine” or Ghandi quotes or whatever makes me happy.

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This could be positive blogs, funny people on Snapchat, a dog’s Instagram page, entrepreneurs on Twitter, a rad charity on Facebook &/or motivational quotes ( << like the ones in this post).

The reason I do this is because I feel like social media is a part of my life so I might as well make it a pleasant experience every time I log on, right?

And the reason I’m telling you guys this is because I want to encourage you to really look at who you’re following/liking/etc. I mean think about it, if you’re on social media for even an hour a day throughout the day, that’s like 3% of each day, 21% of every week…AND about 7665 MINUTES a year.

TOXIC, RIGHT?

Way too much to be looking through negative crap. No matter how much you want to stay positive, motivational, happy, etc., if you’re constantly scrolling down negative statuses, updates, etc., it gets exhausting…

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Anyway, as you can see, over the past two weeks I’ve screenshotted some quotes ( see above & below ) that I’ve read while scrolling through my daily newsfeed to share with you guys. I see these types of quotes, articles, statuses, every time I log into social media & every time I log out. POSITIVE VIBES.

I swear they’ve made a difference in my personal, business, & overall mindset.

& if you think you’re not paying attention to the negativity on social media, I still encourage you to delete anything that’s not positive. Because maybe, just maybe your subconscious is paying attention.

REALLY, you’d be surprised how effective little changes like this can be in life in general.

It may sound stupid but it works wonders for me.

Even if it’s just social media, surrounding yourself with positive vibes is always the way to go, in my opinion.

OK SO, how do you crowd out the negative, toxic bullshit to make room for the motivational? AS ALWAYS, your tips are welcome!

– lauryn x

+ if you guys want me to do a post on some of my favorite sites/people/blogs to follow, let me know below.

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  • Love this post Lauryn! I totally agree that positive quotes can have a huge impact on your mindset. They can really turn your day around. Would love to hear about the great people you follow xxx
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  • LindaB

    Yes, I would love to know your favorites. Thank you for your wonderful blog. It always brightens my day!
    Linda

  • Great post! Would love to hear more about your positive list :)

  • This was exactly what I needed to see today! I’ve recently realized I have way too much negativity in my life, especially on social media, and have made a conscious effort to remove the people, things, etc. that no longer speak to me in a positive way. Crowding out the bad to make room for the new people, things, and ideas that support me or inspire me. Thank you for posting this :)

  • I’d like to practice yoga, meditation, to reduce stress and negative thought process. Any references would be great. I was just reminded by another blogger to spring clean Facebook friends list.
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    • Hi Yvonne, I love meditating. I am just starting to get really into it. I meditate a little longer each time. Do you have any meditation tips?? Thanks for reading! xx
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  • This is soooooooo timely. I just got my icloud hacked and have been harassed and blackmailed by someone as of late, who stole my icloud photos :( it’s jsut made me really think about what to share on social media who is out there and to be as aware as I can be!

    But, this is so spot on. In the secret they talk about not reading the news, because it perpetuates negativity and the same is true with this. Would love to know who you follow on social :)

    Have a good week girl.

    xox
    Krista
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    • Hi Krista, OMG that is terrible! I’m sorry you’re going through that. Have you gone to apple to try to regain access to your account? Don’t let the haters get you down! Focus on the positive. Thank you for reading :))
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  • Yes please do a Post about your favourite sites and blogs. I also try to surround myself with things and people that make me feel good and motivate me. Sometimes it can be a little selfish. But its the best way to stay positive.

  • I think this is so great and so very true! I also feel that you shouldn’t follow anyone that makes you feel bad about yourself. By this I mean, if you love fashion, but every person you follow makes you envious, then you shouldn’t be following. Definitely need to follow like minded people that open you to dreams, laughter and joy!

    • Hi Julie, I completely agree. Follow people that inspire you, not people that make you feel bad about yourself or your current situation. Get motivated! Thanks for reading :))
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  • would Love to see a post on people you follow!

  • Watch YouTube videos. They make me calm and it gives me great tips on anything.
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  • You should totally check out WANT (Women Against Negative Talk). It’s a great website with positive articles and podcasts. I just discovered it last week and have really been enjoying the podcasts!

  • Hmmm such a bummer about the junk on social media. I don’t have a Facebook or Instagram but I am sorry to hear about the atmosphere. I guess if you make your own filters, there’s motivational and inspirational things to be had everywhere. Neat quotes!

    • Hi Sara, yes I am completely committed to creating my own social media reality, and it’s all positive! LOL! Thanks for reading :))
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  • There is so much negativity (everywhere) but especially on the internet. It’s so important to not let it affect your daily mindset. This is such a lovely, inspirational post!
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  • You’ve been posting lots of quotes lately to Facebook and it’s been awesome! What helps me crowd out the negative is to be super focused on what I want and just not open the door when shit comes knocking… If that makes sense. But definitely do a post on inspirational/motivational people. Always helps!

    xoxo
    Dana
    http://www.thexclass.com – a success blog
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  • LOVE THIS! Positivity is so powerful… Sometimes it’s hard to block out negativity, because it’s all around but the older I get, the more I avoid it at all costs- including people that bring me down. No thanks!!

    Sending positive vibes to all you lovely ladies :)

    xx, jen

  • This is awesome, I would love to see a post on sites and people that you follow. Your blog is an everyday favorite. Keep it up!!
    Megan

  • I absolutely love this and you for writing it. I agree with you 100%, more like 200%. Several years back I was bombarded with toxic, negative posts all over my social media and I kept thinking “I’m 21/22 why is this a thing?” and then I realized it was the people I had surrounded myself with and allowed to be toxic in my life. I have severe anxiety and my husband noticed that my attacks surfaced from all the negativity I would receive or see on line. My old blog, in which I had for 9 years, got hit with negativity because I was “Too uplifting and Honest about my feelings.” and I didn’t understand that because I am a honest, uplifting person. Apparently negative people don’t like honesty? I had a ongoing series on my blog for about a year and a half called “Happiness: Growing and Regaining” and it was about building myself back up because of all the hate I was getting in my life from broken friendships, and this hate was being brought to all of my social media accounts. I couldn’t catch a break. I finally closed down the blog to start a new chapter of blogging in my life, which is the blog I have now. I am still positive and uplifting. and now that I’ve blocked out all the negative energies, I am loving the responses I am getting because of the people I’ve surrounded myself with. I’m 25 and married, I don’t have time for negative nelly’s. I’m all about the uplifting and motivational mollies! :)

    -Ashlee Michelle
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    • Hi Ashlee, there are always going to be negative Nancy’s. Just ignore them! Literally block them out. I’m glad you made a decision and it’s making you happier! Keep up the good work and stay the uplifting positive person that you are <3
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  • I am big on purging unnecessary negativity out of my life (I think it’s the Sagittarius in me), so this post really resonates with me. I completely agree! :)
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  • Wonderful post! I did a similar thing with my accounts…..unfollowed the unhappy people and it made a huge difference in my day. These quotes are wonderful and it’s certainly important to have positive up lifting messages throughout the day
    Dresses & Denim
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  • Oh yes I totally agree! I have a board on pinterest full of quotes and words to live by which keep me sane on days where I feel awful!

    <3
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  • Hi Lauryn!

    I know that I can be affected by negativity, and I think you make a solid point. I try to filter out the crap from my social media follows as well, and would seriously LOVE to hear who some of your favorite are! Please do a post! I actually searched your blog last week to see if you had any fellow bloggers listed that you love, so I’m dying to hear about them!

  • I wholeheartedly agree that getting rid of those negative folks on social media can have a super-positive effect! There’s something about scrolling through facebook and seeing people complaining about bad things in their life that can really bring ya down.

    And I would definitely love to see a post about YOUR favourite blogs– I’m always looking for good ones to add to my Bloglovin’ queue!

    -B
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  • Your first quote “the best way to predict the future is to create it”, is one I have had posted all over my social media accounts over the past year as a personal reminder and mantra!!?. I was under the impression that it was from Abraham Lincon, and it looks like you have Peter Drucker. Curious as to where this quote originated!?

  • Totally agree! I love to follow inspirational instagram accounts. It is a great way to get yourself motivated :)

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  • Mia

    Do you know Mimi Ikonn (mimiikonn on instagram)? She is my source of postive vibes. Would love to hear about yours.
    Mia
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  • I second (third? fourth? LOL) the idea of a post on your favorite people/site/blogs to follow. I’d love to hear!!!

    • Will definitely do one soon! x

  • So true, I started going through my feed after reading this and deleting all the girls who show are “skinny tea” detox reps and just show themselves half nude with this crap, I mean what was I thinking following them in the first place! Anyways, thanks for the push and you are so right, what you surround yourself with either drags you down or takes you places! Lots of love C
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    • LOL. I am glad it helped! Love how you did some spring cleaning : ) x

  • Kari F

    Please do a post on the blogs you follow.

  • That is one very good post you have written! Thanks for sharing!

  • Ohhhh girl this is so helpful & ON POINT! We follow inspirational people only as well & make a point to post positive images & inspirational quotes that relate to the modern day woman. @sheonlylivesonce

    This is such great advice for EVERYONE- especially those who struggle with the dangerous “comparison game.”

    KUDOS! :))

  • So true! Love your blog and this post. I actually wrote about my own personal experience with cutting out the social media clutter in my life- It truly is so beneficial. You don’t even realize the negative tone social media can add to your life until you step away from it.