Sometimes when I’m blogging I feel like I want mentor you guys in a way that’s like been there, done that.
Kind of like “I’ve fucked up this way, so try doing it this way instead! But no really, trust me! HA!”
But at the same time I don’t want to sound like a preachy/arrogant know-it-all.
I’m by no means some professional who totally has all their shit together. In fact, I have my own issues & I’ve definitely don’t have a degree in counseling.
On that note , I gotta share a little sometimes. So today’s post is about how I’ve found happiness on my own.
This is what has worked for me. It might not work for you. But it’s worked for me…
Ok so, being happy is work.
It doesn’t come easy.
I’m a firm believer that even if you’re pretty, skinny, rich, rad, nice, successful, sweet, etc., it doesn’t automatically make you happy.
I believe happiness comes from within. It’s a conscious decision. And again, it’s work.
In my opinion SOMEONE ELSE CANNOT MAKE YOU HAPPY. Don’t rely on a boyfriend/friend/family member for your own happiness.
GUESS WHAT THOUGH?!
Everyday I wake up I make a decision to have a good or bad day. I decide to be a happy person.
Keep the positivity in, push the negativity out.
Another tip would be to surround yourself with happy, positive people.
After certain experiences I’m super conscious of the people I surround myself with because let’s be honest: no one wants to be around a miserable person. The people you surround yourself is a direct reflection of YOU…so:
That’s kinda my motto lately.
If I’m making the conscious decision to be a happy person then the last thing in the world I want to do is surround myself with a miserable cow.
Why would I surround myself with an unhappy person when I’m working towards a happy, happy life.
And BE GROOVY OR LEAVE is kind of the best saying ever.
So back to being consciously happy.
I’ve been through some shit in my life.
I could choose to sit in a corner & say “poor me” or “this sucks” or “I can’t do this because this situation happened TO ME.”
The victim would be a fun one to play.
But seriously, that would be so damn boring I’d go bat shit.
I’m a fan of taking a not-so-pretty situation & making it pretty.
This is one way I cultivate happiness for myself.
I like to aspire to inspire.
I also find happiness in weird things like going to restaurants alone and having a glass of white wine while working on my computer.
Other ways? I like to spoon my chihuahuas & watch Sons of Anarchy with popcorn. I like to listen to Brazilian Lounge music & clean my closet. I like to light candles, eat my favorite Brussels Sprout salad & read a book. I also like to go for a hike with a friend or Michael to talk/talk/talk. I like to blog. I like to take pictures. I like to cook. I like being around dogs. I like taking Pilates. And I like to create.
My family makes me happy.
Silence makes me happy.
Cleaning makes me happy.
& even though all these things make me happy, I STILL have to find happiness within myself.
As I grow, I’ve learned I’m a person that needs my space.
Space to have ‘me’ moments.
This is essential to my mind/body/spirit & keeps me happiness.
Again, I told you once/twice & I’ll say it again: you work at happiness.
If you’re not happy, what are you doing that’s not making you happy? What’s the root of the issue? My suggestion would be to find the real root of what’s not making you happy, fix it as best you possibly can, & move forward to live your life as happy as possible.
Because at the end of the day all we really want is to be the best version of ourselves.
Ok so, what’s your take on happiness?
– Lauryn, xx