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Get Sexy In These Lacy VDAY Intimates

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homebodii Dahlia Lace Robe Lace plunge sweetheart bra Lace sweetheart Brazilian knickers Lace bralet Lace Brazillian knicker Lace jersey triangle bra Lace and mesh underwire bra

Let’s face it, lace is just 100% HOT, spicy, & beyond sexy.

Wearing lace makes you feel like a woman. I swear, just wearing a lacy robe or bra boosts your mood.

For Valentine’s Day, lace isn’t just recommended, it’s kind of required, right?

Here are a few lacy VDAY intimates to spice up your wardrobe. Wear them under a casual white tee, with a baggy flannel, &/or under the sheet.

MEOW!

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{ More V-Day must have’s HERE & HERE }

HOW I’M LEARNING TO WIND DOWN…( IT’S SO HARD! )

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Winding down is SO difficult for me.

Michael has been just really obnoxious lately about his routine to wind down. If you follow along on Snapchat you know he literally drinks magnesium tea at 8:40 PM on the dot, tracks his sleep with a sleep app (yes, this exists), AND he even wears a sleep mask.

I’rn sorry, but I can’t make this up.

Meanwhile I’m pounding around in my office, cleaning the house, being distracted, prepping veggies & fruits for the AM., being annoying, etc.

He may be obnoxious but clearly I’m highly annoying because I NEED to learn how to be a better winder-downer, you know?

So I’m working on it.

& when say I’m working on it, guys… I am actually, seriously working on it. Like it’s a New Year’s resolution that I’m not letting go of.

Let’s back up. My routine used to be going to bed at 2 AM ( bartending days, what up ). and then it moved to 1 AM when I moved in with Michael, & then in the last couple months midnight was my casual bedtime.

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NOW

I’m working on actually getting into bed at 9:30 PM.

Anyone that knows me knows this is absolutely so not me. BUT I’ve been doing so much research about sleep/winding down & all research says you get your best sleep between the hours of 10 PM & 2 AM. It’s best for my hormones to be asleep by 10:30 PM latest.

Annoying, but it’s true.

SO. Here’s how I’m working on getting to bed at a decent hour:

1.) In bed by 9 PM ( no computer ), reading ( a hardcover or paperback, no electronics ) by 9:30 PM. & lights are going out at 10 PM. I’m not perfect so these are ideal times. I try, try, try. It’s easiest for me to do this on Sundays because there’s not a lot of work going on on Sundays. Obviously, Monday is the hardest. The no electronics thing in bed is a freaking game changer. It’s so hard but after a while I have started to associate the bed with no electronics which is kind of a relief. It’s nice to get into bed & shut off. A real book IS AMAZING. I’m in love with the smell of books anyways.

2.) A gentle skincare routine: as a blogger I get sent products a lot. I try almost all of them. When I like something, I blog about it. Recently, bareMinerals sent me their skincare line— & LOVEEEE, guys. First off, my favorite is their ‘Oil Obsessed.’ Its awesome for taking makeup off. So much easier on the skin than rubbing makeup off with harsh wipes.

After taking my makeup off, I HAVE to have a serum. It sort of seals your skin in. I’m obsessed. I was happily surprised with SkinLongevity because I’m very, very picky about my serum. Basically I hate if they’re too sticky or too heavy. This one is just right.

Then on top of that I’ve been using this insane product called ‘BUTTER DRENCH.’ That’s exactly what it feels like…a facial butter drench. I’m so into moisture, moisture, moisture. It’s the key to fighting wrinkles so I even use the BUTTER DRENCH on my neck.

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winding down | by the skinny confidential

By the way, my nightly skincare routine ALWAYS includes drenching my neck in moisturizer. Don’t forget about your neck & hands before you go to bed!! Radiant skin is JUST as important on the neck area & hands.

Lastly, I rub raw coconut oil all over my arms, legs, & stomach…so basically you get it: I’m moisturized_ EVERYWHERE. Lol.

3.) Lavender oil: burning in the diffuser, every night, makes all the difference. I rub it on my pillow too. Sometimes I even add a spray to our sleep masks. YUM.

4.) CALM magnesium tea: obsessed with this powder. It’s like Xanax but all natural. Really relaxes you. BIG time. I swear I’m so high-strung & this stuff like zens me out. Highly recommended. I add this to mint tea ( just a scoop ) or to warm water.

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5.) Melatonin ( sometimes ), magnesium, & a probiotic: my nightly lineup. I like melatonin once in a while, not too much. Magnesium is my nightly pill. Make sure it’s the Oxide one, not the other one. And lastly, my daily probiotic is the main ROCKSTAR. Probiotics are just amazing in every way. Really gets things moving if you know what I mean.

So those are some things that are helping me stay on track at night.

Next step is getting into the whole bath thing. Baths are goals, for sure.

winding down | by the skinny confidential

winding down | by the skinny confidential

How do you guys unwind? I actually would really love to hear any tips. I really, really struggle with this part of my day every day. My mind doesn’t stop.

if you have ANYTHING ( & I MEAN ANYTHING ) that works for you, please share. Honestly, at this point I would run around the neighborhood naked doing high kicks if it calmed me down.

…SOS kind of post here.

On that note, off to bed ( sue me because it’s 9:16 PM ).

Night, lauryn x

+ this post is in collaboration with bareMinerals.
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HIM SERIES: SINGLE GIRL DATING TIPS | by Michael

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Well hi, hello, it’s me Lauryn, duh, AND tonight I’ve got something up my sleeve.

Michael’s decided to guest post on DATING TIPS. GET READY; he’s honest, black & white, and straight to the point.

& he’s here to share the real deal from a male’s perspective.

On that note, hope you guys like this new fun series called ‘HIM.’ We’ve decided to launch the series in February because, hello Valentine’s! This series is targeted towards women but this post in particular is for the single ladies. Single babes need some love during the month of love, right? Anyway, stay tuned for much more because we’ll be posting some fun shit in the HIM SERIES. NOW HOLD ON TO YOUR HORSES…really though, he’s NOT holding back:

Warning this is a long post.

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Ok girls here we go. This new series is going to be a fun project for me. First & foremost I want to apologize in advance for this post and then I want to say you’re welcome.

This is kind of like a fitness trainer putting someone through hell only to come out the other side with a better physique & healthier body. The reality check and hard work SUCKS but the reward is well worth it.

For years I have sat back & watched women give other women dating tips. HAHAHA! I would compare this to men giving other men advice on exactly what women think & want……………Have you ever met a man that knows exactly what a woman really wants and thinks? In my own experience I’ve learned that when I am absolutely certain I understand what a woman’s thinking, I can be absolutely certain that I am absolutely wrong!

So…I’m going to give you advice as a MAN for what men want on a date and in a relationship. It may be hard to hear, & may be even hard to follow, but trust me when I tell you, this is what the majority of men want/think. If they tell you differently it’s probably to make you feel good or to keep their ass(es) out of the hot seat. Alright, I’m going to give you 5 general tips with some sub tips that I have developed over the years… Here we go.

Don’t talk about your ex’s or old relationships:

We get it…your old boyfriend was great, or maybe he was terrible, more than likely he was both great & terrible? Nothing’s worse than going on a date with a girl who has to tell us about her previous relationship. Instead, put the focus on your NEW date. Ask him questions, ask him about his life, get interested in his job or career. Talk about something interesting in your life: what makes you unique? What ambitions do you have? Lauryn had a friend a while back that would NOT stop talking about her exes. Needless to say she only ever had EXES because of this trait.

Keep the past in the past & make a new future!

If we aren’t calling or pursuing, don’t call or pursue us ( AKA play hard to get ):

Over the years I’ve heard so many girls say, “he isn’t calling me because of this and that”. “He said he’s really busy right now & doesn’t have time but when his time frees up, he’ll call me back.”

Cold hard fact here. If a guy wants you he will MOVE a fucking mountain with his bare hands, he’ll swim across a shark infested ocean, he will even cut his own arm off just to get to you. There’s no such thing as ‘we don’t have time or we’re busy.’ This is a guy trying to be nice so that he doesn’t have to say, “hey, not interested” or he’s keeping you on the back burner.

Is this a shitty cowardly thing to do? YES.. Does it make it any less of a fact? NO.

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Having two younger sisters I’ve always told them, “play hard to get, make him pursue you.” Don’t be a stage 5 clinger— this is a huge turn off for men. Where women like to be pursued, we ( men ) like to be ignored. I don’t know why this is, probably because it’s a challenge.

Men like a challenge, so don’t make it easy.

Don’t sleep with us on the first, second, or third date ( or fourth? ):

Any men reading this are probably going to scream “TRAITOR!!!” and it pains me to turn on my fellow man like this.

Like I said in number 2, we want a challenge. We want to conquer. If you sleep with us right away we have “conquered” ( that’s not a good term to use for this but you get my point, right? ) we no longer have a challenge.

In the past ( pre-Lauryn ), whenever I’d pursue a woman I’d go at it full force. It was only when they would sleep with me early on that a light switch would go off in my head & I’d be immediately un-attracted. I thought something was wrong with me until I recently read Evolutionary Psychology by Dr. David M. Buss & discovered that this reaction is actually called The Attraction Reduction Effect.

This is a quote from the book: “he is most passionate and all over me just as we meet; after we have sex he is content and doesn’t seem to miss me that much any more”.

Now that we know this is a scientific psychological effect on men, what is the simple answer? DON’T SLEEP WITH HIM RIGHT AWAY! Make it a challenge, go on a few dates, develop a relationship, & a friendship ( that’s what Lauryn did, for the record ). He will not like you more if you sleep with him right away, actually it’s just the opposite.

…Now if you’re just in it for the sex & not the relationship then go ahead & get it girl.

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If you do sleep with us, go home early:

Now this is the worst. You never want to be the guy that sends the girl home after…”a nice evening”…You also don’t want to be the guy early on in the relationship that has to wake up next to a girl you’re just getting to know after a HEAVY night of whatever the hell you guys were doing the evening before…

Think about it like this, when you’re getting ready for your first dates, do you roll out of bed, throw on an old sloppy t-shirt, let your make-up from the night before drip down your face, go in with morning breath, & say “yea, this is the look, this will get him.”

Of course not!

So why would you think he wants to see you like this early in the morning when he also looks & feels like shit.

Wait a couple of weeks until you know the guy to spend the night & if you do spend the night? Set an alarm & get your ass out of there before he wakes up! Trust me. This will accomplish two things: first it will keep the attraction levels HIGH. Secondly, it will stick to our “hard to get method” which will trigger a reaction in his head that he needs you and needs to pursue you. See?!? Win, win.

If your boyfriend or new guy you’re dating wants to go out without you, encourage him:

This is probably THE biggest tip. Honestly nothing is worse than an insecure girl who thinks another girl is going to pop out of the bushes & steal their man the moment he steps out with his friends. Is this a possibility? Sure. Do you want to be with someone that will cheat on a moment’s notice? Probably not.

So based on that logic you should say, “Go ahead, go out with your friends, have fun!” We ( men ) are like children. When you tell us not to do something, we want to do it. When you say go ahead, we usually don’t.

I vividly remember a few years ago I went to Vegas with my guy friends & Lauryn said “go ahead, bye.” And while they were all raging I was outside of the club calling Lauryn. I didn’t even want to be in Vegas anymore.

Having a girl who’s confident & cool enough to let you do your thing is a real keeper…and men know it. It’s the insecure ones who will have issue after issue…after issue. Remember that.

That’s it for now!

I hope these tips are enlightening to you guys. Maybe it’s stuff you already knew. Maybe it’s stuff you knew, but didn’t want to believe. Maybe you had no idea. In any case I wrote this purely to help. Even if it may not come off that way?

I grew up with two sisters & now that I’m going to be marrying Lauryn, I have 2 more sisters ( hers ) to look after. Men are animals…we really are. Don’t make it easy on us!

Of course, I’d be really interested to hear your thoughts. Women in relationships: what are your experiences? And what do your husbands or boyfriends think of this post? Single ladies, what have your experiences been like?

Good luck and happy Valentine’s MONTH! Be back soon,

– Michael

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Mini DeLites: DALLAS

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Hello, hello! Fresh from Dallas, in bed drinking CALM, winding down after a non-stop day.

How are you guys? What’s new? Any news?

Create & Cultivate was totally awesome & it was AMAZING meeting some of you. Really amazing, to the point where it made me take a step back. Every single woman I encountered at C & C was smart, kind, ambitious, & driven. It was just special.

Not going to lie, I was a bit nervous to speak but after speaking for 2 minutes ( along with a pink vodka cocktail ) I was completely fine & could have talked for eer, hours. It’s weird because now I want to like, public speak. Which is actually entirely surprising. I really didn’t even know I liked it…at all?

Truthfully the environment at Create & Cultivate is just SO positive that everything just FLOWED.

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{ packing for Dallas: avocado oil, hoops, Wisps, balm, floral cosmetic case }

So! Let’s talk about the conference…it was just beautiful in every single way. Check my Instagram if you don’t believe me.

Think cactus macaroons, beautiful green & pink decor, colorful cocktails, watermelon jerky ( this is insane, you know this already though if you follow along on Snapchat ), lots of fabulous music, INSANE popups, & of course: BOSSY BITCHES. In the best ways possible.

I will do a full breakdown recap on what we talked about this weekend so stay tuned. Please ask ANYTHING BELOW about the conference if you weren’t there! It’s very, very important to me to share with those of you who are interested but unable to attend.

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{ pastel desk candies…that everyone ALWAYS steals }

So since the C & C breakdown is coming, can we talk about what else happened while we were in Dallas?

:::CRICKETS:::

MICHAEL/SUSAN got Snapchat.

He was so, so, SO proud of himself for like 3 days straight.

The high is slowly dying today but not really because he’s still running around the house snapping everything like he’s in The Blair Witch Project.

If you saw his Sunday snaps ( & mine ) you most definitely saw the rip in his crotch. Basically his pants were so ripped in Dallas ( he only brought one pair which I secretly loved ) that he basically had JORTS by the time we were home.

( URBAN DICTIONARY describes jorts as “jean shorts. Worn mostly by children and douchebags. Jorts are perhaps the easiest way to recognize people you will not like. If you wear jorts, you probably don’t talk to girls. Used in a sentence as: “The kid next to me was definitely a total dick; he was wearing jorts.”” ).

These weren’t like just jorts though guys, these were like some of the jortiest jorts I’ve ever seen.

It was a real hoot.

His Snapchat is MICHAELBOSSTICK if you want a laugh or two.

Happy Monday!

lauryn x

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{ our Alice & Wonderland-ish coasters…my drug of choice? Tequila }

Valentine’s Day Gifts For Your Man… by Michael

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Moscow Mule Copper Mugs | The Art of Shaving Kit | Smart Battery Iphone Case Carry-On Cocktail Kit | Amazon FirestickTom Dixon Charcoal Scent Diffuser | Schrade Survival HatchetNike Free Hypervenom Sneakers

Happy Valentine’s day month!

That’s pretty much the anxiety every guy has come February. It’s just one more chance for us to fuck up something that’s really working. Haha!

All kidding aside, I have put together a simple list of Valentine’s day gift suggestions for the men in your life. If they are anything like me they are just doing their best not to screw this “holiday” up.

Avoid a mushy romantic gift and get them something cool. They are men! We don’t need flowers or cards or a spa date for 2. We just want to make it through February in one piece.

I am putting together a dating tips post that is going to go live soon. Let me know if you guys have any questions that I can answer.

Happy Vday Month!

-Michael

( More gift guides by Michael HERE & HERE ).

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