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GIRLBOSS 101: The Importance of Positive Affirmations

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I have been thinking about this post for a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnng ( long, long, like a year ) time.

For a while there, I didn’t know why I had to think for so damn long & then I kind of had an AHA! moment.

The reason this particular post required so much thought is because it’s something I do everyday that’s kind of er, maybe personal…& even a little weird? Also, it has a huge impact my business, friendships, relationships, & day to day life.

Basically it’s about a little thing called positive reinforcement.

Instead of looking for reinforcement from other people, I look for the positive reinforcement from within by surrounding myself with constant, daily reminders.

In a way, it might sound strange or maybe even stupid that I tell myself ‘keep going!’ ‘You can do it!’ Or that I straight up have cliché quotes hanging around TSC office to remind myself to ‘just do it!’ BUT. It works.

Listen- like I said, this is a personal thing that works well for me. It may not work for you, but I wanted to share a piece of something special that’s helped me ‘keep going’ in business/life.

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Of course I really never realized the exact practice of positive affirmations until one random day, I just sort of did realize it, ya know? I was probably 19 years old. That sounds confusing? & maybe I’m not making any sense?…but practicing positive affirmations was something I always just kinda did unintentionally.

I remember being 9 or 10 & having tiny little stickers in hidden spots that said quotes like ‘you go, girl’ or ‘success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out”. And I remember having pictures of how I envisioned my dream room to look when I was 12 or 16, and having some serious quotes on the front of my binder with pictures of how I envisioned life after high school. Almost like a vision board, I guess.

I mean, I never realized that displaying certain words/pictures/etc. were to ultimately appease my subconscious & serve as motivational reminders when things got tough, boring, or when life didn’t go as planned.

( I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again: I’ve had some shit happen in my life. Some of the stories are not mine to tell & some are ones I prefer to keep personal, but the point is: having positive reminders around my house/workspace/bedroom have provided a sense of comfort & positivity ).

Are you lost yet? Hope not. Ok so, what is positive affirmation? What EXACTLY do I mean?

This is my definition ( feel free to form your own ): having positive reminders around everyday that help you to manifest & create a happy life.

This may mean quotes around your house, candles burning with comforting phrases, business cards proudly on display to remind you of your goals, a tiny locket with a little picture or word, a painting that represents something to you ( for instance if your goal is travel the world, maybe it’s a map ), an inspiring book that’s highlighted and bookmarked, &/or a phrase that you quietly repeat to yourself each morning during a yoga class.

My girlfriend, Erica bought me a notebook for my birthday that says: BUILDING THE SKINNY CONFIDENTIAL EMPIRE TODAY!

Every morning I wake up, go to my desk & there it sits. RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE. Maybe I don’t acknowledge it every morning, but maybe I do?…subconsciously!

TSC bookmarks sit on my desk too. Why? So I can remember what I’m building.

Tiny positive life quotes are kept around my house. Some in secret spots. Some in open spots.

Each time I leave my house there’s a print that says HUSTLE ( remember this post? ). Reminding me & Michael to HUSTLE. Again, maybe we don’t acknowledge it…but we see it when we come home & when we leave. Every. Single. Day.

I blog, obviously. Sometimes I blog positive affirmations so it’s in front of an audience & it feels more real. Like this post about my wedding. It’s out in the open now, my measly list, but at least it’s a start you know? And sometimes I post inspiration on Instagram to share a specific quote that really resonated.

I EVEN WENT AS FAR TO HIDE ANYTHING NEGATIVE ON FACEBOOK & ONLY ‘LIKE’ THINGS THAT WERE POSITIVE, UPLIFTING, & MOTIVATING. ( Some of my ‘liked’ favorites are: chihuahuas/dogs, entrepreneurs, Business Insider, some cool bloggers, books I like, healthy food brands, my friend’s businesses, & Vogue magazine ).

I’ve been wanting to start my own foundation, so I made a little vision board & I keep it on display in TSC office.

Hell, even my iPhone notes have positive affirmations!! You’d find tons of quotes, sayings, reminders, etc.

Pretty much, I have positive intentions everywhere.

And I believe in it. It’s the power of positive thought, right.

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Since I’ve been healing from a gnarly fucking surgery I’ve tried to put a lot of healing affirmations around the house. I have therapeutic essential oils burning, turmeric on hand, clean foods readily available, calming music, positive people, & happy reminders and books surrounding me.

I refuse to allow negativity in.

If this method is something you’re interested in exploring, I guess what I would suggest is to look around. What’s surrounding you? Are you surrounded by positive affirmations? If you’re trying to build a business, what’s your daily positive reinforcement? Is your vision laid out in front of you so you can see it? If you’re working on a relationship with a family member, friend, or boyfriend, are there little reminders around to remind you of what to work on? If you’re trying to adapt a healthier lifestyle, is that lifestyle the one that’s surrounding you? If you have a set goal, is there motivation around reminding you to stay focused?

A lot of you have asked me how I find motivation to blog everyday and a huge part comes from positive intention. And no one sets it for me. I do it for myself, a little everyday.

Do any of you guys do this? If so, what’s a positive affirmation that makes your day brighter & encourages you to attain your goals? As always, I would love to hear!

Happy Tuesday, x

– lauryn

{ TSC Book | notebook | gold pendant necklace | acrylic, gold stapler | bookmarks- email me }

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Cinco De Drinko Giveaway {!!!} w/ Three Sisters Jewelry

The Skinny Confidential giveaway with Three Sisters Jewelry.

The Skinny Confidential giveaway with Three Sisters Jewelry.

Ok, so you guys know I’ve teamed up with Three Sisters Jewelry before ( remember this post? ), & the giveaway was been a huge success…so!!!

They’re back.

& seriously we’re giving away some badass goods.

Like what?

Glad you asked:

The Skinny Confidential giveaway with Three Sisters Jewelry.Three Sisters Jewelry is gifting one lucky B with an initial necklace ( it can say whatevs you want it to say ; ] ) & a coordinates bracelet ( again, whatever your heart desires for the text ).

My choice? The initial necklace has a little coin that says Michael’s nickname for me ( ‘Womz’ ) with his initial ( M, duh ). My gold coordinates bracelet ( which I’m seriously in lurvvvvve with ) has world coordinates of a very special, secret spot.

What I love about Three Sisters is that their jewelry is different & creative…the originality shines through each piece & when you wear it, you feel special/hot/sexy. So if you’re looking for a Mother’s Day gift, check out TSJ site here. I’m sure all mom’s out there would love a pieces with their kid’s initials. Right?!

The Skinny Confidential giveaway with Three Sisters Jewelry.

To win, make sure you:

+ ‘Like’ Three Sisters Jewelry Design on Facebook.

+ Follow The Skinny Confidential on Bloglovin’

+ Leave a comment below & tell us how you’ll rock your sex kitten jewels.

The Skinny Confidential giveaway with Three Sisters Jewelry.

+ For questions/comments about Three Sisters Jewelry Design, e-mail Jessica at Jessica@ThreeSistersJewelryDesign.com.

++ Giveaway winner announced 5/12: Sarah Adams || anyone is eligible to participate.

Child of Wild x The Skinny Conf: A Halloween Gothy Giveaway

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

I’m sure you all remember Eileen Lofgren, creator of Child of Wild, from this post. Also, if you want to read about her love of different cultures/art/jewelry, click here.

Ok, so get really excited because…

We’re hosting a Halloween gothy giveaway today!

If you’re the lucky-ass winner, you’ll be gifted with a Child of Wild velvet choker {!!!}. I have one of these bad boys & I wear it all the time. I love layering it with other rad necklaces from C.O.W. or wearing it by itself with a hot, little tank. Check it:

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

Not only are we just hosting a giveaway, but Eileen has provided a 15% off code for Skinny Confidential readers. Just use the code WickedKitty15 ( code ends 11/3/13 @ midnight ) at checkout.

Like, Vanessa Hudgens just Instagrammed her new COW necklaces.

DIE!

Our poor, poor bank accounts. I mean, right?! Her stuff is to die.

Oh, & not only does Eileen just have jewelry on her site, this babe also does custom orders for skulls. If you follow me on Instagram you know that we just collabed on a gothic skull- his name is The Spanish Inquisition & he’s currently living on my dining room table ( surrounded by black candles, naturally ). Guys, meet the handsome man created by Eileen:

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

Eileen & I totally agree that a girl with a darker edge with depth is way sexier than the typical run of the mill pink princess…so be who you are & rock your own unique style! Child of Wild-style.

Side note: The Skinny Confidential is “The Nightmare Before Christmas Event” in late December with Van De Vort in Del Mar, CA & Child of Wild will be there too. I hope all of you guys can come say hi!

Blogger Erica from Fashionlush ( & my partner in Blog-Doo ) will be there hosting a DIY project. Also, you’ll get to meet Annie co-founder of Suja Juice, Elena from The Lovely Savage, Jacqueline from JNB Jewelry ( my other Style Kitten ), Briana from Brachelle Jewelry, Faye ( my sister ) from Evillarts, Julie ( my stepmom ) from Burlap and Crystal, blogger Katie from The Fashion Bite, & all the cutie Van De Vort girls.

Included: flowing champs, apps, green juice, shopping, & some chill music/vibes. More deets on the event later this month! xx.L

{ To follow Child of Wild on Instagram, click here }.

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

So. Here’s how you enter to win the necklace:

To win, make sure you: 

+ Like Child of Wild on Facebook

 + Follow @theskinnyconfidential on Instagram

 + Leave a comment below telling Eileen & I know how you’ll rock your Child of Wild choker.

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

Lauryn Evarts and Eileen Lofgren host a Child of Wild giveaway.

* { Giveaway winner will be announced next Wednesday, November 6, 2013 // everyone eligible to enter }.

‘Tis The Season for Presentssss: Three Sisters Jewelry Design Giveaway

Lauryn Evarts and Jessica Kitty team up to bring you a Three Sisters Jewelry Design giveaway.

Lauryn Evarts and Jessica Kitty team up to bring you a Three Sisters Jewelry Design giveaway.

Yay! – – – It’s Friday!!

I have I mentioned how amaze you all are? Your continued support/readership is what makes this blog- so thankyouthankyouthankyou. To show how grateful I am, every Friday of December I’ll be hosting a giveaway on the ze bloggy de blog.

PRESENTS!!!

And boy oh boyyyyyy, do I have some goodies for you babes…

So!!! To kickstart the month full of giveaways is Three Sisters Jewelry Design. These ladies make rad custom hand stamped jewels; each piece is extremely personal & dainty.

They designed me a necklace [ in the 1st & 5th photo ] exactly how I wanted it: rose gold, supa, supa long, w/ a tiny feather. I love.

Anddddd the lucky winner will receive this necklace [ w/ whatevs you want it to say ;p ]:

Lauryn Evarts and Jessica Kitty team up to bring you a Three Sisters Jewelry Design giveaway.

To win, make sure you: 

+ ‘Like’ Three Sisters Jewelry Design on Facebook

 + ‘Like’ The Skinny Confidential on Facebook

 + Leave a comment below & tell us how you’ll rock your sexy ass necklace.

Lauryn Evarts and Jessica Kitty team up to bring you a Three Sisters Jewelry Design giveaway.

Lauryn Evarts and Jessica Kitty team up to bring you a Three Sisters Jewelry Design giveaway.

+ For questions/comments about Three Sisters Jewelry Design, e-mail Jessica at Jessica@ThreeSistersJewelryDesign.com.

+ Giveaway winner will be announced Wednesday, 12/19/12.