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HIM SERIES: SINGLE GIRL DATING TIPS | by Michael

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Well hi, hello, it’s me Lauryn, duh, AND tonight I’ve got something up my sleeve.

Michael’s decided to guest post on DATING TIPS. GET READY; he’s honest, black & white, and straight to the point.

& he’s here to share the real deal from a male’s perspective.

On that note, hope you guys like this new fun series called ‘HIM.’ We’ve decided to launch the series in February because, hello Valentine’s! This series is targeted towards women but this post in particular is for the single ladies. Single babes need some love during the month of love, right? Anyway, stay tuned for much more because we’ll be posting some fun shit in the HIM SERIES. NOW HOLD ON TO YOUR HORSES…really though, he’s NOT holding back:

Warning this is a long post.

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Ok girls here we go. This new series is going to be a fun project for me. First & foremost I want to apologize in advance for this post and then I want to say you’re welcome.

This is kind of like a fitness trainer putting someone through hell only to come out the other side with a better physique & healthier body. The reality check and hard work SUCKS but the reward is well worth it.

For years I have sat back & watched women give other women dating tips. HAHAHA! I would compare this to men giving other men advice on exactly what women think & want……………Have you ever met a man that knows exactly what a woman really wants and thinks? In my own experience I’ve learned that when I am absolutely certain I understand what a woman’s thinking, I can be absolutely certain that I am absolutely wrong!

So…I’m going to give you advice as a MAN for what men want on a date and in a relationship. It may be hard to hear, & may be even hard to follow, but trust me when I tell you, this is what the majority of men want/think. If they tell you differently it’s probably to make you feel good or to keep their ass(es) out of the hot seat. Alright, I’m going to give you 5 general tips with some sub tips that I have developed over the years… Here we go.

Don’t talk about your ex’s or old relationships:

We get it…your old boyfriend was great, or maybe he was terrible, more than likely he was both great & terrible? Nothing’s worse than going on a date with a girl who has to tell us about her previous relationship. Instead, put the focus on your NEW date. Ask him questions, ask him about his life, get interested in his job or career. Talk about something interesting in your life: what makes you unique? What ambitions do you have? Lauryn had a friend a while back that would NOT stop talking about her exes. Needless to say she only ever had EXES because of this trait.

Keep the past in the past & make a new future!

If we aren’t calling or pursuing, don’t call or pursue us ( AKA play hard to get ):

Over the years I’ve heard so many girls say, “he isn’t calling me because of this and that”. “He said he’s really busy right now & doesn’t have time but when his time frees up, he’ll call me back.”

Cold hard fact here. If a guy wants you he will MOVE a fucking mountain with his bare hands, he’ll swim across a shark infested ocean, he will even cut his own arm off just to get to you. There’s no such thing as ‘we don’t have time or we’re busy.’ This is a guy trying to be nice so that he doesn’t have to say, “hey, not interested” or he’s keeping you on the back burner.

Is this a shitty cowardly thing to do? YES.. Does it make it any less of a fact? NO.

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Having two younger sisters I’ve always told them, “play hard to get, make him pursue you.” Don’t be a stage 5 clinger— this is a huge turn off for men. Where women like to be pursued, we ( men ) like to be ignored. I don’t know why this is, probably because it’s a challenge.

Men like a challenge, so don’t make it easy.

Don’t sleep with us on the first, second, or third date ( or fourth? ):

Any men reading this are probably going to scream “TRAITOR!!!” and it pains me to turn on my fellow man like this.

Like I said in number 2, we want a challenge. We want to conquer. If you sleep with us right away we have “conquered” ( that’s not a good term to use for this but you get my point, right? ) we no longer have a challenge.

In the past ( pre-Lauryn ), whenever I’d pursue a woman I’d go at it full force. It was only when they would sleep with me early on that a light switch would go off in my head & I’d be immediately un-attracted. I thought something was wrong with me until I recently read Evolutionary Psychology by Dr. David M. Buss & discovered that this reaction is actually called The Attraction Reduction Effect.

This is a quote from the book: “he is most passionate and all over me just as we meet; after we have sex he is content and doesn’t seem to miss me that much any more”.

Now that we know this is a scientific psychological effect on men, what is the simple answer? DON’T SLEEP WITH HIM RIGHT AWAY! Make it a challenge, go on a few dates, develop a relationship, & a friendship ( that’s what Lauryn did, for the record ). He will not like you more if you sleep with him right away, actually it’s just the opposite.

…Now if you’re just in it for the sex & not the relationship then go ahead & get it girl.

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If you do sleep with us, go home early:

Now this is the worst. You never want to be the guy that sends the girl home after…”a nice evening”…You also don’t want to be the guy early on in the relationship that has to wake up next to a girl you’re just getting to know after a HEAVY night of whatever the hell you guys were doing the evening before…

Think about it like this, when you’re getting ready for your first dates, do you roll out of bed, throw on an old sloppy t-shirt, let your make-up from the night before drip down your face, go in with morning breath, & say “yea, this is the look, this will get him.”

Of course not!

So why would you think he wants to see you like this early in the morning when he also looks & feels like shit.

Wait a couple of weeks until you know the guy to spend the night & if you do spend the night? Set an alarm & get your ass out of there before he wakes up! Trust me. This will accomplish two things: first it will keep the attraction levels HIGH. Secondly, it will stick to our “hard to get method” which will trigger a reaction in his head that he needs you and needs to pursue you. See?!? Win, win.

If your boyfriend or new guy you’re dating wants to go out without you, encourage him:

This is probably THE biggest tip. Honestly nothing is worse than an insecure girl who thinks another girl is going to pop out of the bushes & steal their man the moment he steps out with his friends. Is this a possibility? Sure. Do you want to be with someone that will cheat on a moment’s notice? Probably not.

So based on that logic you should say, “Go ahead, go out with your friends, have fun!” We ( men ) are like children. When you tell us not to do something, we want to do it. When you say go ahead, we usually don’t.

I vividly remember a few years ago I went to Vegas with my guy friends & Lauryn said “go ahead, bye.” And while they were all raging I was outside of the club calling Lauryn. I didn’t even want to be in Vegas anymore.

Having a girl who’s confident & cool enough to let you do your thing is a real keeper…and men know it. It’s the insecure ones who will have issue after issue…after issue. Remember that.

That’s it for now!

I hope these tips are enlightening to you guys. Maybe it’s stuff you already knew. Maybe it’s stuff you knew, but didn’t want to believe. Maybe you had no idea. In any case I wrote this purely to help. Even if it may not come off that way?

I grew up with two sisters & now that I’m going to be marrying Lauryn, I have 2 more sisters ( hers ) to look after. Men are animals…we really are. Don’t make it easy on us!

Of course, I’d be really interested to hear your thoughts. Women in relationships: what are your experiences? And what do your husbands or boyfriends think of this post? Single ladies, what have your experiences been like?

Good luck and happy Valentine’s MONTH! Be back soon,

– Michael

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Valentine’s Day Gifts For Your Man… by Michael

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Moscow Mule Copper Mugs | The Art of Shaving Kit | Smart Battery Iphone Case Carry-On Cocktail Kit | Amazon FirestickTom Dixon Charcoal Scent Diffuser | Schrade Survival HatchetNike Free Hypervenom Sneakers

Happy Valentine’s day month!

That’s pretty much the anxiety every guy has come February. It’s just one more chance for us to fuck up something that’s really working. Haha!

All kidding aside, I have put together a simple list of Valentine’s day gift suggestions for the men in your life. If they are anything like me they are just doing their best not to screw this “holiday” up.

Avoid a mushy romantic gift and get them something cool. They are men! We don’t need flowers or cards or a spa date for 2. We just want to make it through February in one piece.

I am putting together a dating tips post that is going to go live soon. Let me know if you guys have any questions that I can answer.

Happy Vday Month!

-Michael

( More gift guides by Michael HERE & HERE ).

Michael’s Monthly Book Club!

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Hi guys,

After the response on my last book post and due to popular demand I am going to start writing about my monthly book recs at the end of each month. I think everyone should try and get through at least one book a week so I will give four recommendations each month.

Let me know in the comments what type of books you guys prefer and I can adjust my picks.

Here are my monthly book recommendations for February!

The Fish That Ate the Whale by Rich Cohen

Have you ever heard of the banana king of America? This book is based on the life of Samuel Zemurray, a Russian immigrant who became one of the richest men in the world. He made his fortune on bananas! Along the way he hired on mercenaries, took on the CIA, started revolutions, overturned foreign governments and built one of the biggest fruit companies of his time. It was a really quick and interesting read and I highly recommend it.

The Cartel by Don Winslow

This is the sequel to The Power of the Dog which is the story of the rise of the Barrera brothers and the rise of a drug empire in Mexico. The Cartel follows up the prequel 10 years after the events in the PotD. This book is based around fact and loosely based around the life of Jouquin “El Chapo” Guzman, the notorious Mexican drug kingpin that has been in the news recently. It was really intense and was the most informative book I have read to date on the drug war going on in the U.S. and Mexico. It is a really fast read as well, with a lot of action.

The Story of the Human Body by Daniel Liberman

Recently I have been really intrigued with evolution and psychology. Being in a relationship with Lauryn I hear so many tips and tricks on a regular basis about my diet, what is good, what is bad, what to eat, what not to eat. I wanted to know more about why our bodies react to different food and environments in both positive and negative ways and why they do so. This book literally tells the story of how we evolved over millions of years, shifted to a non-fruit based diet and how cultural changes like farming and the industrial revolution impacted us physically. Using this information, the author hints and even tries to compel his readers to pursue better lifestyles with healthier and happier long term effects.

The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson

This book has been out for a long time now and has gained even more notoriety now that Leo has signed on to play Dr. H. H. Holmes in the upcoming Hollywood movie. I don’t know why I didn’t get on the hype train a while back but I am glad that I recently did. This book is based on true events surrounding the Chicago World’s Fair in 1893. H. H. Holmes was one of America’s first documented serial killers. He claimed to have killed hundreds of women. The book tells the tale of how events at and during the Chicago World’s Fair helped to create a perfect atmosphere for one of America’s first serial killers.

I hope you guys enjoy these book posts & recommendations.

Reading really is the key to success in your life. If you want a sure formula for a miserable life, learn only by your own experiences and never by the experiences of others, both living and dead.

– Michael

{ read about my 3 book theory too! }

Mini DeLites + My BEST Blogger Tip

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{ trying out new lipstick shades lately | holder here }
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 { Khloe Kardashian-ED my cookies & loving every second of this OCD picture | cookie jars here }

All jazzed up & smiley today because I was able to get a bunch of work done. Monday’s a crafty bitch like that. You kind of love her because she makes you feel great at the end but at the same time want to stab her because EW…You get it, MONDAY MORNING typically projectile vomits on all of us.

I wanted to touch on a little somethin’ somethin’.

A lot of you badasses have e-mailed me about starting a blog.

Well, here is my advice.

It’s very simple.

The truth is— there is no specific tip. Do whatever the hell inspires you & write your little heart out.

Let your voice shine through the screen. And for God’s sake be YOU. Be different. There’s only one you & you are different.

In my opinion bloggers that succeed, succeed because they let their personalities shine through. Don’t do someone else’s formula, do YOURS.

& most importantly: DO IT.

Just fucking start.

Start tomorrow.

Why the hell not?

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{ filming some beauty tutorials today }

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{ PhotoLove printed TSC Instagram pictures for me. CUTE, right! }

Chances are your blog won’t be an overnight success, but what the hell is even an overnight success anyway?

The truth is you are you & you are fabulous, so pull the trigger & JUST DO IT.

On that note, if you guys are interested I will post more blogger tips & tricks. Let me know if that tickles your fancy below.

Lastly, for those of you headed to Create + Cultivate this weekend, I just found out that I’m not only speaking on branding/blogging, but also hosting a Flat Lay Tutorial ( what up, Instagram lovers ) at Bar III popup. If you’ve always wondered how to create this indispensable marketing tool, grab a drink & head over to say HI & learn about flat lays. FUN! Details here. Who’s going?

Literally exhausted from working since 6 AM so I’m going to zone out with some warm turmeric milk & a juicy book.

See you on Snapchat, lauryn x

* for those of you guys that asked about my striped top on Instagram, you can find it here. There’s only a few left!
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{ Sunday: lots of oils, candles, & a card game ( Michael won ) }

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{ ingredients for my favorite dressing EVER }

Winter Essentials For Men | By: Michael

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Hey Guys…

Here we go again, seems like I’m basically a pro blogger now, right? Haha.

This guide is a winter essential items list for men— your boyfriend, husband, dad, brother, whatever. These are some of my go-to’s for the winter season…actually kind of every season, but let’s stick with this season for now.

If you guys like this essentials list I can give you some more ( maybe not always geared towards men ) travel? Office? Business? Summer? Skiing? Surviving a meal with 75 iPhone pics? You name it!

Let me know & I’ll try and sneak back on The Skinny Confidential for a post or two every now & then. On that note:

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Winter Essentials For Men by Michael:

H & M Easy Iron White Dress Shirt:

I like a crisp INEXPENSIVE white slim fit dress shirt for the winter or any occasion. I can wear this under a sweater, jacket, or sport coat. It’s perfect for dressing up or down. Plus it’s cheap enough that your girl can rub makeup all over it & you won’t stress out too much. Ahem, Lauryn.

Broken Homme Boots:

The most comfortable & stylish boots I’ve ever owned. Skip the designer shit & do yourself a favor by picking up any pair of these American made boots or Oxfords. You won’t regret it.

BLK DNM black jeans:

I used to be a Levi’s guy & I definitely still am, but if you want to splurge & have a really nice/comfortable pair of jeans, pick up a pair of these. I wear mine 90% of the time.

Tom Ford black leather briefcase ( or any black leather briefcase ):

Throw your computer, notebook, & a nice book in one of these & hit the road. Every man needs a nice case.

Loser Machine Hat ( or red trucker hat ):

This is my go-to when I don’t want to comb my hair & I need to run errands…the “I don’t give a shit” hat.

Penta Water:

One of my favorite waters. I get it delivered by the case from Amazon through their subscribe & save program which ends up saving you money big time. It’s dry right now, hydrate!

Valley Sunglasses:

My go-to sunglasses. Sturdy, stylish, & matte black. Best glasses I’ve ever owned.

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A good book ( American Psycho pictured ):

All year long I read. It’s the best thing you can do for your mind. If I don’t have a book or newspaper on me I have a digital book on an e-reader. These are some books I recommend.

Moleskin Notebook:

I like to keep it old school with my thoughts & reminders so I jot down all my random ideas in this notebook.

My Dog’s Leash:

Simple leash for my little homies, Boone P & Pixy.

BOSE Noise Canceling Ear Buds:

This is actually an all year long essential. If you live with The Skinny Confidential ( or any girl for that matter ) you need these to cancel out the noise of the slamming keyboard & Snapchat screams.

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White Saint Laurent Low Top Sneakers
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They are just the most badass sneakers in the game, get them a little dirty and throw on a leather. Similar pair HERE.

Passport Case:

I love to travel…& yes, I love to be organized when I travel. I need a passport case to accomplish both.

Kershaw Knife:

What guy doesn’t like to carry a knife? Maybe I’ll learn knife fighting…or maybe just open boxes.

Black Leather Biker Jacket:

This is my 100% go-to. If you ever happen to run into me there is a 95% chance I’ll be in a leather jacket covered in chihuahua hair. If I had to only wear one thing for the rest of my life it would be a black leather jacket, jeans, a t-shirt, & a pair of boots.

Picture of my dad with two women in the 70’s:

I love this picture. It sits on my desk and he has the most ridiculous hair style & mustache. He is in a white linen suit with a floral print shirt wearing a big grin with two women. I just love it.

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BONUS:

Wallstreet Journal:

I read this paper every day ( or try to ) to learn something about the world; read in the morning, read anything! Get your brain moving in the morning, it sets the tone of the day.

Stainless watch:

I’m a big watch guy & you can never go wrong with a stainless watch.

Thanks guys! It’s been fun writing these posts for you, I hope you guys enjoy them. More to come so keep your eyes peeled! I’m open to any suggestions or questions— just leave them below.

Cheers! – Michael

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