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It’s My Birthday!!! & Here’s What I’ve Learned So Far

The Skinny Confidential talks birthdays.

Since it’s my b-day ( HEY FELLOW GEMINIS!!! ) I figured I’d compile a little list of some of the most important things I’ve learned thus far.

(Here’s the thing: blogging is fun because I always imagine my kids growing up & being able to see an online scrapbook of my life. So if anything, this could potentially be a cool post for my future kid(s) to read? Kind of like “oh Mom is talking about something other than organic tampons, cool!” Let’s hope they don’t see my posts on vagina steaming, camel toes, &/or Kegels but that’s neither here nor there…).

So here’s what I got:

1.) YOU ARE GOING TO GET criticized NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, SO DO YOUR THANG.

Honestly, this is number one for a reason. No matter where I’ve been in life, people have criticized me. If I had listened to every piece of negative feedback, I’d be like sitting in a dark cellar counting flies on the wall, drooling. We’ve all been criticized at one time or another. You gotta do what you gotta do, & either way someone, somewhere will have something to say. If you don’t want to be criticized, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.

2.) START WITH A SMALL IDEA, ZONE IN ON IT, & BECOME REALLY, REALLY GOOD AT THAT IDEA…TO LEAD TO BIGGER OPPORTUNITIES.

Instead of thinking big/BIG/BIGGGG, think small & grow outward like an upside down triangle. Remember the Chinese proverb I posted on Instagram? “If you chase two rabbits, you won’t catch either one.” I always try to focus in on the niche & expand outward. Having 6 million ideas ( AHEM SONJA MORGAN…I mean WOW ) is scattered & doesn’t allow you to be a full-on PROFESSIONAL at one thing. I’d rather be a fucking genius in one area, than average in twenty.

3.) BEING AN ASSHOLE GETS YOU NOWHERE. BE NICE.

We’ve all been there. I had a moment where I was in the Post Office a few months back. I was grumpy, irritable, & annoyed at something going on at work. When I got to the counter, I snapped at the man working because he was taking a long time. Immediately I regretted it and guilt consumed my whole body…so I apoligized sincerely. I still go to that Post Office & now we’ve become friendly.

Being a bitch is nasty.

Smile, be gracious, be kind, & be humble.

4.) YOU NEVER KNOW…

Oh geez. Don’t judge until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes. People assume they know everything about me because a lot of my life is documented through social media. They don’t. In fact, they don’t know 80% of my past or my life. I have had MANY bumps in the road. MANY. No one has seen my struggles, & that’s ok with me but to judge without knowing isn’t logical. Life online looks flawless, #blessed, & glamourous. Don’t judge a book by its cover because you never know. No one likes a Judge Judy anyway.

The Skinny Confidential talks birthdays.

5.) DOGS ARE LITTLE BITS OF HEAVEN.

Honestly guys I had to add this to my list. My dogs are SO important to me. I have a special connection ( as we all do with our dogs ) with my fur babies. They bring so, so, so much joy into Michael’s & my life. We’re so lucky to have such amazing, beautiful creatures. They’ve taught me so many lessons in loyality, companionship, & love.

6.) YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE.

This is PROBABLY THE HARDEST THING EVER FOR ME. For years I would try to control the outcome of family drama, friendships, work, etc. This year I’ve realized that ‘it is, what it is’. Me trying to control the situation & change people into something they’re not is counterproductive & fucking pointless. It’s a waste of breath. People are who they are. This year I’ve become more accepting…especially because you never know the whole story. People are set in their ways for their own reasons.

7.) DIETS SUCK. A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE IS WHERE IT’S AT.

Yesssss, yesssss, yesssss. A diet is like a stupid ex-boyfriend that you don’t want to text when you’re drunk. You text him & then regret it afterwards. Diets give you that empty feeling once they stop working. It’s a quick fix & high with short term results. Sticking to healthy living, wellness remedies, green juice, weekly workouts, water, oils, herbs, clean foods, & good vibes is a long term, sustainable goal. Balance is key!

The Skinny Confidential talks birthdays.

The Skinny Confidential talks birthdays.

8.) NO ONE IS GOING TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU.

If you want something to happen, get off your ass & make it happen. Ok if we’re being honest, I asked Michael to add one of his life tips, so this was his addition. A fairy godmother isn’t going to come create a dream career for you because you went to an amazing college… Life is what you make of it. If you want to be a real estate agent, go for it. It’s not going to fall into your lap. If you want to be in a better relationship, work on yours or get out & say BYE. If you want to do good in the world, then do good. Opportunities don’t just fall from the sky, you gotta make it happen.

9.) WORRYING IS LIKE A ROCKING CHAIR, IT GETS YOU NOWHERE.

I MEAN IF SOMEONE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME THIS AT 20, I WOULD HAVE HAD SO MUCH LESS STRESS THROUGHOUT MY LIFE SO FAR. Worrying is pointless. Pointless. What’s the point of worrying? Whenever I start worrying about something I cannot control, I shift my focus. Life is going to flow how it flows.

And lastly,

10.) THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAIR OR UNFAIR.

Things are what they are. I keep the words ‘fair’ and ‘unfair’ out of my vocabulary. You make your own life, your own destiny, & your own future. You can get what you can get, or you don’t. Life isn’t fair or unfair, unless you cultivate that— focus on moving forward & don’t worry about what other people are doing…remember as Bethenny Frankel said “stay in your own lane!”

Obviously this is a list of things that I need to work on daily because I’m not perfect by any means & need daily reminders. Really, it just kind of helps to write these reminders down! I’m not preaching, just sharing…again, do what works for you!

What would you add to this?

Off to celebrate!! Have some chilled champagne for me guys, k? lauryn x

ps. thank you guys so much for all the thoughtful Snapchat birthday messages ; ) you made my day!

The Skinny Confidential talks birthdays.

Mini DeLites

The Skinny Confidential talks fitness, diet, and food.

{ the prettiest, lil desk candle }

The Skinny Confidential talks fitness, diet, and food.

{ three ingredient cookies: almond flour, almond milk, & maple syrup }

Well, shit— it’s been a hot minute.

I haven’t given a ‘Mini DeLites’ update in a week & half ( tisk, tisk, bad blogger ). Hey, what can I say, I’m a Gemini & days don’t always go as planned…let’s just say I probably won’t win Consistency of the Year award.

Speaking of that, I have been learning to BE.

Do you know how hard it is for me to just BE?

Ya, you probably do because I’m sure it’s difficult for A LOT OF YOU GUYS to just BE.

BE like be present, be relaxed, be…nothing.

You know what I mean? Just sit still for a second.

Not like vacationing or reading or writing…but just sitting still.

The concept is just foreign as shit to me. I’m like an elephant in a China shop, ‘being’.

Ok, so what caused me to seek out this new Ghandi-esque attitude?

The Skinny Confidential talks fitness, diet, and food.

{ wind blown in my favorite kimono ( << on SALE aka $150 off reg price ) }

The Skinny Confidential talks fitness, diet, and food.

{ champagne/rosé gummy bears?! yessss please }

I don’t know really.

Sometimes I just feel like I’m going, going, going, going, without one second to kind of take it all in.

What’s the point of working so hard if you can’t enjoy it?

I’m really trying to sit still for at least 5 minutes a day ( I know this sounds pathetic but this is life ).

Lately I’ve been waking up a little earlier than normal & instead of reaching for my phone like a full blown heroin addict who needs immediate drugs, I just sit in bed & lie there. When thoughts come in my head, I sort of push them out.

Is this what some would call meditating? Do I dare call it that? Five minutes has turned in to ten on some days. It’s actually a really refreshing way to start the day.

Afterwards I jump in the shower & do this water trick that wakes your ass up in 90 seconds ( << will blog about this trick because it’s such a goodie for jumpstarting your AM ).

Say what you will about me… & ok, yeah… I am the worst, WORST driver on the planet, always fashionably late, and say “I swear I’m going to relax today & take a bath today” ( even though it never happens— special shout out to my email inbox for crowding out bathtub time! ) wayyyy too often, BUT after years of trying to meditate, I think I’m finally kind of getting the hang of it. ( Huge contrast to my driving which I clearly, will never get the hang of ).

How do you just ‘be’? Any tips are welcome, literally give me anything you got.

Nice chat!! Goodnight, guys ( or to some of you, good morning? ), lauryn x

The Skinny Confidential talks fitness, diet, and food.

{ brought a little piece of China back home: pu’erh tea }

The Skinny Confidential talks fitness, diet, and food.

{ the Nanz’ vintage vase, that sits on our window sill }


You Asked!

First of all, can we talk about how chic I look in the default pic of this video?

So Gisele, right.

HA aka the worst picture on the planet.

So!!

You guys asked me a bunch of questions via Instagram so I answered some of them via video.

Obviously this was filmed a few weeks ago because TSC Bombshell Body Guide has launched now!!

If you have any other questions, leave them below & I’ll shout you out in my next Q & A video ( leave your blog name too if you want ; ) ). ASK AWAY, everything & anything, guys.

Also, to subscribe to TSC YouTube channel, click here. You’ll get videos/updates & all that jazz straight to your inbox.

All the product links I mentioned in the video (like my absolute favorite dry shampoo!!!), can be found on my channel.

Enjoy!!

Happy weekend, x lauryn
{ sweater | jeans | lipstick | phone case | ringschair | castor oil }



How To Sex Up Your AM Coffee

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew.

YOU GUYS—!!!

ALMOND MILK ICE CUBES.

I MEAN.

Pretty much, my coffee is a total loser without almond milk ice cubes.

It just like sits there sad & pathetic without my almond milk ice cubes. Cinnamon is great & all, but almond milk ice cubes add a whole different element.

And fully knowing my extremist tendencies, AKA everything has to be fucking freezing, below zero, arctic style or so hot that my skin is literally falling off from the hottest shower in the world, the freezing almond milk thing adds a perfect touch.

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

 

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

AND.

Today I tried my coffee cubes with coconut milk ( on such a coconut milk kick after Thailand ).

All you do is…

Simply freeze your favorite milk ( coconut or almond for the win ) in a silicon ice cube tray. Make regular coffee or use cold brew ( remember I’m a cold brew coffee whore? ), add milky cubes, top with pumpkin pie spice, & a lil drizzle of GINGER SYRUP ( yes I know, this exists & it’s die ). Coffee on CRACK! Cheers!

P.S. Why I don’t like hot coffee: because I like straws, duh. Firstly, using a straw to preserve the whiteness of my teeth is fully worth it. So. If I drink hot coffee, it makes me wonder if BPA is melting in to my coffee, slowly poisoning me? I usually use paper straws, but who the hell knows what’s in Starbucks/random coffee shop straws.

…this is the kind of shit I think about when I can’t sleep at night…

Uhmmm, perhaps it’s time for me to get another hobby? Or pick up knitting? Or maybe I’m just a full blown weirdo?

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

Anyway.

I am very happy it’s Friday ( JAZZ HANDS!! ). You can find me cruising down the freeway, casually screaming singing the lyrics to Dirty Dancing’s “Hungry Eyes” with an iced coffee full of coconut milk ice cubes, on my way to get a blowout because I haven’t washed my hair in a week & half.

It’s time, right…I mean, I think there’s a decent sized family of crickets living in there, #relatable.

Ok, happy Friday! xx, Lauryn

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{ video }

{ white top in video | skirt in video ( similar ) }

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

The Skinny Confidential talks cold brew coffee.

 


COMPLETELY PSYCHOTIC OVER THESE LEGGINGS

The Skinny Confidential talks leggings.

The Skinny Confidential talks leggings.

Ok, FOR THE RECORD?!!

I LOVEEEEE, LAHHHH, LOVVVEE ZELLA.

If I had to describe my PERFECT workout wear it would 100% be Zella.

Oh yes, & I have serious reasons for my Zella obsession:

1. it fits my body better than any other activewear line ( they’re true to size ).
2. it’s priced right.
3. it’s cute without being douchy ( sorry to a lot of brands: some of your workout wear is well, douchey…I don’t want to look like Zoolander sweating, thanks ).
4. their leggings having lasted me two years & are still in great condition ( plus they wash well ). They aren’t see through AND they’re reversible!!

Specifically I want to touch on Zella’s ‘Live In’ leggings: if you read my blog you know I’ve talked about these exact black leggings three million times. BUT. I really, truthfully believe they are the IT LEGGING.

The Skinny Confidential talks diet and fitness.

The Skinny Confidential talks Zella.

When I’m having a fat, fluffy day ( we all have them ), I throw on my Zella black leggings and INSTANTLY feel better. They hold ya in in all the right places & well, they’re SO DAMN SLIMMING, MAN. Plus during the colder seasons they really hold in my winter coat ( aka that cute layer of too much pumpkin roll ).

Oh ya, & they’re $52 dollars.

So there’s that.

They’re comfortable too, guys. I can do the splits- Kyle Richard’s style, organize my closet, go for a walk, practice yoga, ice skate, clean the kitchen, work on the computer, &/or run a F-ing, casual marathon run with these babies.

Serious realness: if you ever get one thing out of TSC, get Zellas.

Bible, they’re THAT good.

Ok, ok so the top. Recently I found this baby pink top that’s totally to dieeee for. It’s off the shoulder ( you know how I do ), lightweight, & again, slimming in all the right places ( p.s. I bought a size up because I like it baggy, homeless chic ).

I paired it with this bright patterned bra ( << cutest bra of my life ) for a pop of color…AND can we talk about these hot purple kicks?!!

The Skinny Confidential talks leggings.

The Skinny Confidential talks leggings.

Ahhh. So damn fun for summer.

Anyway, I’m very happy about this outfit, seriously though, I’ll probably live in ( you see what I did there? They’re called the Live In Legging, GET IT?! HA ) these for the next five days.

Let’s hope no one will notice…?

Anyone else have black legging recommendations that they live & die for?

( By the way, this get-up was worn during/after my 27 minute TSC Bombshell Body Guide workout. Since doing the workout plan I’ve lost inches & have TONS more energy— I’ve been doing them religiously for about 13-ish weeks ).

x, Lauryn

{ aviator sunglasses here }

* photos: Jade Park

The Skinny Confidential talks leggings.

The Skinny Confidential talks leggings. 


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