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HIM SERIES: Following Up With All My Single Ladies ( + Where To Meet A Date ) | By Michael

February 23, 2016
by
LAURYN

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michael bosstick's HIM series | by the skinny confidential

Hi, hi it’s me, Lauryn. HELLO.

This has been a VERY much requested post so I figured what a perfect time to post it because, FUCK, I’m sick. UGH.

Throat Coat & silver ( yes, silver ) on repeat over here.

In the meantime, my better, not as witty half will be posting on The Skinny Confidential tonight.

Anyway, we talked last time & I told you guys we launched the ‘HIM’ series so today Michael wrote a follow up post along with advice on where the hell to meet men.

( I mean I feel like if I were single, I’d just camp out in front of the library? Like ‘hey anyone got a library card?’ Really though, no thanks clubbing, creepy after hours clubs, or weird guy on a random dating site flexing the mirror with olive oil on your abs.

Ok, I’ll let Michael take it from here:

Hey Guys, Lauryn let me hop back on here to follow up with all of you on my last post!

I have to be honest, writing that last post gave me a little bit of anxiety which is really strange for me because I am really not the guy to get shy or nervous about speaking my mind ( as you can see if you follow my Snapchat, shameless plug: @michaelbosstick, hahaha! )

I really thought I was going to get my head torn off after that last one.

I debated softening it up or changing it around or making it less harsh ( does that make sense? ) but after I read it I just couldn’t and I’ll tell you why. I firmly believe in what I wrote, I lived a lot of those experiences myself. I have friends ( both girls and guys ) that are living them now! I have two sisters that I have constantly coached on these topics and I felt like delivering anything less than what I wrote before would be an unauthentic version of what I would actually tell the women in my life.

Am I 100% right on what I wrote? Probably not, but anyone that spouts off advice and tells you they are is full of shit. Do I believe I am mostly right? Hell yea I do! I firmly believe that the advice in my previous post can help the majority of single women in the dating circuit and that was my overall goal. To help.

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So now that we got that off my chest, did my advice help anyone? Were any of you able to apply these tips to your current dating situations? Were you able to help a sibling or friend? Did any light switches go off that provided insight on any of your past dating experiences? I would be really interested to hear if any of these things happened.

This brings me to my next topic, how do you meet the right guy?! Where do you meet him and what do you do when you do meet him?

First let me tell you that you can’t force this. If you are set on meeting someone quick and jumping right into a relationship, it may end up being a bad move. There are a lot of Mr. Wrongs out there lurking in the last call section of the bar waiting to pounce on desperation.

Just like business, you need to be patient.

You need to wait for the right moment. You will feel it when it comes but don’t try to convince yourself, just let it happen.

So what do you do when you see someone you may be interested in?

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First, I can guarantee you that we’re just as nervous as you. I got a lot of questions asking if it was inappropriate to make the first move on a guy? Yea, it probably is if you live in 1927. Lucky for you, you don’t.

If you see someone that you think you could develop a connection with, go ahead and approach. I personally think it’s rad when a girl takes initiative. What’s the worst that can happen? You get denied and move on with your life? Welcome to our lives. Or maybe it turns out to be something and all it took was a simple ‘hello.’ That being said you still need to make it a challenge after the approach, don’t blast in like a hungry beaver ready for war.

Second, can you guys please make it a little easier for us to know when you’re interested? Women do this thing where they expect men to know what they’re thinking. We don’t, we never have, & we never will. If you’re interested, make it known so that we can work up the courage to make a move.

So back to where you should meet guys.

This is a tricky question. I think that all depends on the type of person you are. If you hate night clubs and dive bars, then why the hell are you going to a night club and dive bar expecting to meet your dream guy? What about dating apps? Do you like guys on dating apps? Maybe, again depends what you’re looking for. I have heard horror stories and I also know people who have met online and are happily married. Maybe you will meet someone at the park? Or maybe on a river rafting trip, or maybe at a concert to save the whales. I DON’T KNOW! The point is, you will meet someone when you meet them and trying to set the stage won’t work.

michael bosstick's HIM series | by the skinny confidential
michael bosstick's HIM series | by the skinny confidential

I think the more important topic here is on not settling.

Be patient & get with the person that actually makes sense to YOU. Don’t settle for someone that doesn’t treat you right. Don’t stay in a relationship just to be in a relationship. What a waste of time! If you get lonely get a pet (or a Chihuahua, trust me they’re great ), hang out with friends, read a book!

But don’t settle.

When you do meet someone, take your time— develop a real relationship. Maybe think about some of the advice in my last post. I find that when I really force something, it usually backfires in my face. Life is funny that way. So take your time, be yourself, don’t settle and you won’t have to look for a place to meet someone. You will both find each other. I promise. It just might not happen right away.

Let me know what you guys want to see next, – Michael

SHOP HIM: black tee | green jacket ( similar ) | jeans | shoes ( similar ) | sunglasses

SHOP HER: black dress | sunglasses ( similar ) | shoes ( similar ) | purse ( << this one looks just like it too! )

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Lauren Conrad’s Chocolate Coffee Stirring Spoons

December 23, 2015
by
LAURYN

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Lauren Conrad chocolate spoons | by the skinny confidential

Remember when Lauren Conrad had that perfect single tear mascara cry?

…damn her, because now she has the perfect holiday dessert: peppermint chocolate coffee stirring spoons.

UM YUMMMMM.

Really though, these LC-approved treats were such a hit in our house that I couldn’t NOT share the recipe with you guys.

Firstly, if you’re into tea, coffee, & hot chocolate – like the rest of the world – you’ll DIE FOR THESE. And they take like 4 seconds to make. YES, me & my 4 second recipes— the quicker the better, really.

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Lauren raves about this unconventional dessert & after testing out these minty spoons, they’re definitely TSC approved. Basically these are portion controlled chocolate treats that you can eat alone ( I may have had 3 to 4 ) OR infuse them in any warm drink ( how good does a hot toddy sound with this?? ).

LC says you need:

Metal spoons
Microwavable bowl
Baking sheet
Parchment paper
White & milk chocolate melting chocolate
Candy cane pieces

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How To:

♡ Line a baking sheet with parchment paper & set aside.

♡ Melt either your white or milk chocolate in a bowl in the microwave. Tip: Be sure not to overheat your melting chocolate or else the whole batch will be ruined!

♡ Take your spoons and dip each one in the melting chocolate. Be sure to get as much chocolate as you can on the spoon.

♡ Set each spoon on the baking sheet and sprinkle each one with the candy cane pieces.

♡ Once you’ve repeated these steps for each spoon, allow each spoon to harden completely.

♡ Serve the spoons at place settings, deliver them on cookie plates, or dip them straight into a mug of coffee or hot chocolate. Enjoy!
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Ultimately I feel like Lauren Conrad’s chocolate coffee stirring spoons are more memorable that her blackened tear? I mean I guess anything having to do with chocolate outweighs everything.

Too bad Spencer was such an ass to LC, he could have been stuffing chocolate spoons down his throat every Christmas.

Sucks for Speidi.

On that note, happy holidays to the best readers on the planet. Get buzzed, enjoy some chocolate spoons, AND BE MERRY.

X lauryn

{ spoons & coffee }

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GIVEAWAY…& Let’s Talk Fitness Playlists

November 11, 2015
by
LAURYN

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As you guys know I am a HUGE fan of sharing playlists with you guys!!

Ever since I created The Skinny Confidential Bombshell Body Guide, I’ve been adding walking & running to my off days. If you follow me on Snapchat you already know this though.

Pretty much, I make it my mission to hop on the Treadmill at least 4 times a week.

My walking/running routine goes like this:

30 minutes of intervals. I walk 2 minutes at 3.5 on 3.0 incline & then run 1 minute at 6.0 on 3.0 incline.

And then sometimes I just walk at a brisk 3.5 on 3.0 incline if I have too many e-mails to return. Returning e-mails on the Treadmill is my favorite thing in the WORLD, by the way. I feel so productive. I absolutely love it. Sometimes if I’m overwhelmed with a flooded inbox, I’ll walk for an hour & just return a bunch of e-mails. HEAVEN. I get off feeling like a weight is lifted off my shoulders: a sweat & a million e-mails!

So anyway, I’m either doing intervals or doing a quick walk.

BUT. I CANNOT do walk/run/fly/glide without my playlist. Like, don’t even think about me getting near a Treadmill without a playlist, k?

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You guys know you can access my favorite fitness playlists via Spotify so when I heard they recently launched ‘Spotify Running,’ I nearly died.

Basically you can choose music from a wide range of genres. Some playlist examples include country, throwbacks, rap music, and so many more ( I admittedly love smooth jazz, lol ). The feature will match the music tempo to your running pace. Every beat matches every step.

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Here’s why I’m obsessed: if I’m doing intervals the music goes perfectly and if I want to just walk & e-mail, the music goes perfectly.

Music can make or break a workout. The worst thing ever is if you’re sweating at the gym & some totally off country song starts to play, you know? No thanks.

On that note, Spotify & I are hosting a giveaway for YOU GUYS to inspire you to run, run, run, we’ll be giving away:

One year Premium subscription to Spotify

One pair of Bose SoundSport in-ear headphones

One $75 Nike Gift Card

Healthy Gourmet Snacks

One signed copy of The Skinny Confidential Book

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To enter, follow & comment on my latest Instagram post naming your favorite Spotify Running playlist or genre & mention why you absolutely HAVE to win.

For extra credit follow @theskinnyconfidential on Bloglovin’ & comment below sharing why you have to win!

Good luck! The winner will be picked later next week. Must be 18 or older & a USA resident to be eligible to enter.

Basically this whole package is a REAL fitness game changer AKA a swift kick in the ass. ARE YOU READY TO RUN? Let’s do this!

Next up? I’m thinking of sharing my favorite Brazilian lounge/Bossa Nova playlist— thoughts?

Good luck guys!

Chat soon, lauryn
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+ In partnership with Spotify; all opinions are my own.The prize ( Spotify Premium Subscription, Bose SoundSport in-ear headphones, $75 Nike Gift card, healthy gourmet snacks ) was provided by Spotify, but Spotify and its agents and representatives are not a sponsor, administrator, or involved in any other way with this giveaway.

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Mini DeLites: Puerto Rico

November 10, 2015
by
LAURYN

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{ on the beach | dress is sold out but similar here }

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{ morning vibe }

So Puerto Rico was fun!

Have any of you ever been? It was a totally new thing for me. First off, the frogs make this amazing sound that’s extremely therapeutic at night. A lot of the guys we were with thought they were annoying, but I was OBSESSED. Super relaxing in a weird way.

Also, one of my girlfriends who lives in PR took me to workout every single day…which was GREAT. We did gnarly Pilates and strength training. STILL SORE.

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{ the usual suspects: chips, salsa, & guac }

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{ the coolest, little pool }

OK, also I should note, in the humid weather not only do you gain like 23948 pounds ( WATER WEIGHT! ), you also get swollen.

Now the last thing in the world I need is to become more swollen so ugggghhh.

But really, other than the humidity ( & mosquitos…the little shit heads ), Puerto Rico was awesome. We rode bikes, worked out, read, & ate a lot of awesome food.

Anyway, now we’re in New York City for The Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show! Super excited.

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{ beach vibes }

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{ swimming in the rain }

If you guys subscribe to TSC newsletter you know that today I’ll be backstage with the Angels for the VS Fashion Show. You can find me Snapchatting the whole experience ( peppered in with some Instagrams too! ).

I’ll be interviewing the Angels up close & personal while they’re in hair and makeup, so send me ANY questions you guys have for them! Comment below with your comments/questions for the VS Angels OR ask away on my latest Instagram picture. I’m really going to try to ask them about their diet, favorite beauty tips, & healthy/clean snack go-to. And I would LOVE to ask them your questions directly. Can’t wait to take you guys behind the scenes!

Ok, wish me luck after the 3 slices of Margarita pizza I just ate…FML. Why is NYC pizza SO good?!

& of course, I’ll be recapping the whole thing on the blog, so stay tuned!

XO from New York, lauryn x

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{ outdoor shower…I wanted to bring it home with me! }

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{ a peek inside our trip }

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{ PR nights, when the Coquí frogs came out to hang }

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A Follow Up Post

November 8, 2015
by
LAURYN

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Warning: I come with LOTS of questions!

On that note: How are you using today to cultivate a happy, healthy life? What situations or chores are you doing daily that don’t really serve you? And most importantly, how are you adjusting instead of staying stagnant?

Recently I wrote a post called “Stop Doing Shit You Hate.” And well, this is kind of a part 2.

Firstly, I’m not a full-blown expert on this subject, I’m just sharing what’s worked well ( & not so well… ) for me in hopes that maybe it inspires something in you. & for the record, don’t forget that you guys also have shared a TON of tips/advice & I’ve applied it to specific aspects of my life too. So I guess our relationship is a win/win, right?

When I read the above quote I immediately thought of the part 1 post I wrote about doing shit you hate. I thought to myself “I wonder how many people went back to doing shit they hated after reading the post.”

Is this a weird thought?

It’s certainly not because I think my words are holier than thou & should promote an immediate, swift change. It’s more having to do with the fact that I’m curious about what it takes to actually make a change.

What will it take for someone to quit that job they hate working for the boss they hate in the office they hate? What will it take for a writer to stop doing that 9 to 5 PR job to really pursue writing? What will it take that girl who’s stuck in an extremely toxic relationship to break up with that guy who treats her like crap? What will it take for someone to say NO to that person they really don’t want to grab a drink with?

I guess my question is when does enough become enough?

I have had points in my life where enough is enough & I’m done. Just done. I suppose I’m kind of black & white that way. I’m on or I’m off, like a switch. Total Gemini.

When I think back at those breaking points in my life where enough was enough I can remember one distinct thing I did every time: I made lists ( pro & cons, compared them, & adjusted them to make myself comfortable…because the distress was not worthy in my life ).

Anyway, a lot of you have e-mailed me about breaking away from specific jobs or lifestyles that aren’t serving you anymore. This post is for YOU.

You are in control of what happens in your life. No one but YOU.

So if you’re in a situation that doesn’t serve you anymore, I encourage you to do the work to remove yourself. It sounds weird that there’s ‘work.’ But to get uncomfortable & make a change, there is absolutely groundwork.

Today my question is for those of you who are unhappy with some aspect of you life: what ground work are you doing to remove yourself from the current stressful situation? Do you have a pros & cons list? Have you let yourself think of the process of removal & uncomfortable outcome?

Or are you simply just putting your head down, every day, showing up, huffing and puffing while putting limitations on yourself?
Ultimately I think a lot of people are not actually acknowledging the situation they’re in which makes it impossible to change. Change is work. Change is weird. And change is fucking uncomfortable.

Here’s the thing: it’s difficult to adjust accordingly, because change & adjustments are difficult in general.

But anything worth it in life is usually uncomfortable at first.

Those are my two cents.

I’ve been thinking about this post for a while because this quote is so simple but so spot on.

At the end of the day it takes a conscious working effort to adjust accordingly. And it’s work to keep tabs on yourself daily to make sure you’re living life on your own damn terms.

Food for thought! Ok, I’m done.

Until next time, lauryn x

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