Let’s just start off with a little history on this amazing drink. I was first introduced to it by, you guessed it, Ingrid. She lives in Monaco & we were at this cute little restaurant called Petite Maison in Nice. Ingrid casually ordered ‘à la piscine de champagne.’ Immediately I had 100 questions.
A big goblet of champagne showed up, packed with ice cubes. As I was guzzling, Ingrid explained this is the chic way to drink slower. & while you’re drinking, you’re hydrating from the ice & staying cool in the heat.
I very much liked this idea because I’m someone who will down a flute of champagne in 5 seconds because it’s so easy to drink. But when it’s in a goblet with lots of ice, you tend to drink it slower. You don’t get buzzed a quickly.
No fear, this drink isn’t just for women, men enjoy it too. Michael loves to order Domaine Ott rosé & a bunch of ice & pours it into a white wine glass. In my opinion it’s something everyone needs to try. It’s very French, very chic & very bougie in a good way.
“For years, Bill Murray has enjoyed an unorthodox alcoholic drink: Champagne on ice. “The way I like to drink it is in a big pint glass with ice,” the actor once said. “I fill it with ice and I pour the Champagne in it, because Champagne can never be too cold.”
Of course, this goes against centuries of tradition and the advice of Champagne makers, who have long believed that the wine has a completeness and harmony that should be enjoyed neat. To dilute the flavors and aromas with ice was gauche.
But it turns out Mr. Murray was a trendsetter. Others are just now catching up. At events including Coachella, the tennis tournament in Indian Wells, Calif., and a party for the men’s wear label Orlebar Brown during the recent shows in New York, the attendees were, heretically, drinking Champagne on ice.
The driver of the trend is Moët, the French Champagne producer. Benoît Gouez, the company’s chef de cave, said his colleagues noticed Champagne sales slumped during the summer months, and blamed the drink’s formal tux-and-gown reputation.
Inspired by jet-setters in the south of France, who, like Mr. Murray, have long added ice to their Champagne (the drink is called a piscine — or pool), Mr. Gouez conceived Moët Ice Impérial, a Champagne designed specifically to be consumed over ice. Think of it as a looser, T-shirt-and-halter-top Champagne.
It has become more of a party drink,” Mr. Gouez said. “New generations are looking for more freedom, a more casual approach.” – via
YES, you’ll say it goes against traditions & advice of champagne makers who say ice has no place in champagne. But that’s neither here nor there. I’m here to tell you that this drink is on the pulse & all the trendsetters are drinking it. You can even find Olivia Palermo with a huge goblet of ice & champagne.
As the article already mentions, this drink is inspired by the jet-setters in the South of France because it’s so hot here. Sure you can reach for a frosé, but why not feel French & sip on a la piscine de Champagne.
& like Bill Murray says: “You don’t want to crash. you want to keep that buzz, that bling, that smile.”
With love from Antibes,
+ if you’re more of a frosé girl, check out my watermelon frosé here.
++ & if you’re more into hard alcohol I got some vodka kombucha for ya.
On the blog today we have Val who worked on The Skinny Confidential team for about 3 years. She was such an asset & one of the most amazing team members I could’ve ever asked for. She recently had to leave us ( so sad ) to move to Bali. She was exploring some new endeavors & going on her own journey. Val is so smart & well-spoken so I wanted to have her come on the blog to share how to meet like-minded people & how to be ok with being alone.
With that, let’s welcome back Val…
Hey everyone – it’s Val here reporting from Bali, Indonesia. I was a member of The Skinny Confidential team for 3 years and recently decided to go the nomadic route and move to Bali for a bit. When Lauryn invited me to come on the blog I felt inspired to talk about how to make friends in a new city, loneliness and being alone. I feel these are very common issues for people these days and obviously something I’ve experienced myself.
I’ve moved multiple times, each one larger than the last. Throughout this process I’ve learned a few things about adapting to new cities.
At some point in your life it’s pretty likely you’ll move to a completely new city. Once you arrive and discover the best places to eat and lounge you’ll want to find people to share your experiences with. Connecting with the community and making friends are an essential part of our well-being and happiness. Today we’re going to discuss 6 tips for moving to a new city & coping with being lonely while making friends.
In my opinion, it’s really important to distinguish between feeling lonely and being alone. Loneliness is the feeing of being disconnected from others, not being seen and heard for who we are. In contrast, when we are alone we may not physically be with anyone however we are content and fulfilled in this spaciousness. We still feel connected to others and the world around us. We may feel lonely in a crowded room and we may feel happy in an empty room.
In my own experiences when I have felt lonely, I was disconnected from others and this caused feelings of depression. It was not fun, however it taught me so much and I am truly grateful for those times. Now I love being alone because even in my alone states I know I am connected with others.
Here are some tips I’ve learned along the way of how to make friends and feel less lonely:
6 TIPS FOR LONELINESS / HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS
If you are interested in making friends, create consistency in your actions. What does this actually look like? It means showing up to the same activity often. Maybe it is the same yoga class each week, going to the same coffee shop, or joining a weekly woman’s circle. When you do something you enjoy you will find like-minded people. When you do something you enjoy consistently, you will become familiar with those people. When you are familiar it will feel more natural to introduce yourself and connect. You already have something in common. I’ve made a lot of friends at my yoga studio, going to the same dance class and even hanging at the same restaurant while working. Give it a try and give it some time. It’s not instant.
If you are feeling really lonely put your energy towards a creative outlet. Rather than spending time inward letting feelings of depression spiral, harness that energy and express outwardly. This is something purely for you. Something that lights you up for your own enjoyment. It doesn’t need to be anything complicated or fancy. Find something that inspires you and put your energy towards that. This could be painting, writing, playing music, dancing or even cooking. Bonus: if you make some delicious treats you can even share some with the people you’ve met. Bring them to your next meeting. Everyone loves a fun homemade treat.
3. QUALITY OVER QUANTITY
Yes, it’s cliche and we’ve all heard it a million times, however it’s cliche for a reason. It’s true. Are your friends people you can call in the middle of the night when you’re crying or people who can help you when you’re sick? Are your friends people who will only respond if there’s a glass of wine involved or an invite to an exclusive event? Focus on creating deep connections with a few great individuals rather than 20 loose ties. It is so much more beneficial, fulfilling and nurturing for your soul.
4. SWITCH FROM FOMO TO JOMO
Rather than FOMO ( fear of missing out ) try JOMO ( joy of missing out ). Remember, social media is a facade and comparison is the thief of happiness. Cherish your time alone. It may not feel special, especially if you’re feeling lonely, however it is a sacred time to go inward. Utilize this time to create some inner peace. Reflect on your accomplishments, learn a new skill and get to know yourself so you can show up more fully and whole with others in your life. Stop comparing yourself with others. We are all on different paths and exactly where we need to be.
5. ACTIVE ENERGY
Building and forming relationships requires energy. You must do something. It is not a passive process. This means ask people to lunch or ask them to activities you’re interested in such as a yoga class, a concert or a hike. Do not wait for people to invite you. Act with confidence and make the initial move. Most people are too scared and will appreciate being asked. Some people will say no and most people will say yes. I think it’s important to note that a rejection usually is never personal. There’s probably a valid reason that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Be bold, have the courage and take action.
6. PATIENCE & LEARNING
Remain patient and learn from the experience. Everything is temporary. The feelings of loneliness are probably trying to teach you something. Embrace the quiet times to dive deep and see what those lessons are. Meditate. Often I experience a deeper sense of gratitude and appreciation for those in my life. Finally, imagine you are planting a seed. In order for a flower to bloom the plant must be nurtured over time. It is the same with relationships and new cities.
I hope these tips help you if you are ever feeling lonely or in a new city trying to make friends.
How do you enjoy spending time alone? What are your creative outlets?
Thanks so much to Val for being on TSC. Let us know if you’re interested in Val’s traveling tips, & Bali specifically. She’s become a real jet-setter & I feel she has a lot of tangible takeaways.
Hope everyone is having a great Sunday. We’re packing & getting ready to fly to the South of France for a month. Bring on the la piscine!
About a week ago Michael & I unexpectedly had to go to New York for work. A lot of Michael’s Dear Media business is in NYC – they have a studio there. For those that don’t know, he paired up with the Digital Brand Architects – you can follow them on Instagram here. Dear Media is a new kind of podcasting studio with a focus on leading female voices & narratives. As a company, Dear Media helps individuals conceptualize, develop & produce customized podcasts with the same personalized touch applied to DBA clientele.
Anyways, I like to go to New York with him because we usually interview a few fun people & I can also take meetings. This time we brought Westin along whose been our best friend since we were 12, & Mimi, my sister & right hand man.
While we were there we ate a lot, drank a lot, got a lot of work done, & met with the Wander Beauty team ( & podcasted with the co-owner, Divya ).
If you’re looking for some restaurants to go to in NYC I highly recommend:
L’Artusi – get the ricotta & honey to start & be sure to end with the olive oil cake- you can’t go wrong ).
Scalinatella – this is Blake Lively’s favorite restaurant in NYC. She said that if she was stranded on a desert island all she would need is their truffle pasta. & you can bet your ass that I stuffed my face with that pasta & also their penne with spicy vodka sauce.
Cipriani – their cucumber, corn & tomato salad is my fave, finished off with a famous Hemingway bellini.
Rubirosa – has the best vodka pizza in the city, in my opinion.
Anyway, we filmed a vlog for you guys that is super behind the scenes. Mimi got some really fun clips because she was able to be around us at all times. Hope this vlog makes you laugh & transports you right into New York City.
With that, presenting a week in New York City with The Skinny Confidential…..
If you’re about New York then definitely check out The Skinny Confidential’s guide to New York City here.
Also, I had some really fun outfits so scope them out below.
Did you know that there’s a The Skinny ConfidentialFacebook Group that’s dedicated to a book club? You have to join the main group on Facebook, then just search The Skinny Confidentialbook club & join.
Books are such a theme on this blog. Reading is such an important part of my life. When my mom passed away, reading really got me through it. I would immersed myself in books & it was this form of escapism I guess.
We’ve been traveling a lot lately. Right now we’re in New York, next week we are going to Mexico & then later this year we’re going overseas. That means lots of books. There’s nothing better than kicking back with a book. You know I LOVE long flights because it’s a time to disconnect, sip some champagne, & read a book without any distractions. Not going to lie, I kind of like when the wifi is spotty- gives me an excuse to read.
I just started this one & haven’t finished it yet, but so looking forward to diving deep into the life of comedian, Steve Martin. This book is all about his early beginnings working at the Disneyland Magic Shop when he was 10, his rise to comedic stardom, how & why he quit it all, how he loves to write. Can’t wait for this one. Have any of you read it yet?
If you listen to The Skinny Confidential podcast then you know that we just interviewed the highest paid, legal sex worker, Alice Little from The Bunny Ranch. Michael & I decided to actually go to The Bunny Ranch to interview her in her element. After I saw The Bunny Ranch, I wanted to learn everything & anything about it. I found out that the owner, Dennis Hoff, had passed a way a couple years ago so I did a deep dive into his life. His girlfriend was Heidi Fleiss, the “Hollywood Madam.” Heidi Fleiss wrote Pandering ( such a good read ) & used to arrange high-class escorts for celebrities. Anyways, Dennis’ life was so interesting & colorful & unique. I couldn’t put this book down- it explains everything from his perspective about how it is to be a legal pimp. I like to see things from other people’s perspectives instead of judge. It’s nice to see life through their eyes. This book kept me interested & curious. The how, why & his logic to why he got into is in this book too. I’m not saying I agree with it, I’m just saying it’s a unique perspective.
Ok guys, you have to check out this book, especially if you ‘ve ever watched The View. This book is by an award-winning journalist & he takes us behind the scenes of the show. It’s soooooooo good & JUICY. He talks about Rose O’Donnell, Barbara Walters’ career ( why she is single ), Debbie Matenopoulos being the youngest person on The View, & Star Jones’ rise to celebrity. It’s just one of those books that you can’t stop reading. I would stay up til 4 am reading it, which isn’t good- Must’ve needed some more CBD that night. It’s explosive. The author is so good & really takes you through the whole story of The View which has been around for 22 years. This is a great book to gift to your girlfriend or your mom.
Jackie, Janet & Lee: The Secret Lives of Janet Auchincloss and Her Daughters Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis and Lee Radziwill by J. Randy Taraborrelli
You know I’m obsessed with The Kennedys & Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy. & if you don’t know this, definitely check out my post on her perfume & this book club post, featuring The Other Man ( who she had an affair on JFK jr. with ). This book is a biography of Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis, her mother Janet Lee Auchincloss, and her sister, Princess Lee Radziwill. These women are iconic & it was so interesting to see where they came from & the inner workings of their family. Jacqueline married JFK ( obviously ) & went on to marry shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis. It’s all about how these women personified beauty, style & fashion. Their mother always taught them to go for “power & money”, so that’s just what they did.
This is my favorite book that I’ve read all year. I’m trying to convince anyone & everyone to read it. It’s the autobiography of Anthony Kiedis who is the lead singer of The Red Hot Chili Peppers. This book is so beautifully written that you truly fall in love with Anthony Kiedis. Out of all the books listed here, I would start with this one. It’s so good because it shows you every facet of his life – a horrendous drug addiction, living on the streets, all the women he’s been with, inner workings of the band, & why he is the way he is. If I ever write a memoir when I’m like 50, I hope it’s as beautifully written as this one. It’s probably one of the best written autobiographies or biographies that I’ve ever read. & that’s saying a lot because I’m an autobiography whore. It’s such a great story of the world of rock, success & excess.
Be sure to join the book club on Facebook guys! Would love to know what you’re reading right now. As you can tell, I love autobiographies. There’s just something about getting so deep into someone else’s life that gets me off.